Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
In love, not everyone will be sincere, and not everyone is worth your giving.
Sometimes, we will always meet some women in our relationship that make you unpredictable.
They always seem to keep a delicate distance from you, neither moving away nor letting you get close easily.
This feeling of being "hanged" often leaves men confused and anxious, not knowing what to do.
Next, let's take a look at the four typical manifestations of a woman "hanging" you.
01
Keep your distance if you are leaving
She always maintains a detached attitude towards you.
When you feel that your relationship is heating up, she will suddenly become cold and make you scratch your head.
Then, she will take the initiative to talk to you again, but when you respond enthusiastically, she becomes vague again, and even disappears for a few days, without hearing from you.
For example, when you have a hot conversation on your phone, she will even take the initiative to share her daily life, but when you ask to meet or go further, she always finds all kinds of reasons to shirk it.
This sense of distance makes you feel like you are playing a "chase game" with no end in sight.
Behind this behavior, it may be that she is testing your sincerity, or it may be that she herself is hesitating.
But in any case, this immediacy is a test of your emotional investment.
02
Ambiguous and does not give a clear answer
When you confess to her, or ask her what she thinks of your relationship, she always gives ambiguous answers, neither accepting nor saying no.
She may prevaricate you with excuses like "I haven't figured it out yet" or "I need time to think about it."
For example, if you pluck up the courage to confess to her, she replies, "You're a good person, but I don't want to be in a relationship yet." ”
Or, when you ask her if she'd like to date you, she says, "Let's see, we'll talk about it when we have time." ”
This vague answer makes it impossible to determine what she really thinks.
In fact, there may be many reasons for her ambiguous attitude.
For example, she may indeed be hesitant to start a new relationship. Or, she just wants to enjoy the feeling of being pursued but is not willing to take any responsibility.
But for you, this unclear attitude will undoubtedly increase your uneasiness and anxiety.
03
Trying to get away with it and create tension
When she's around, she seems to be pretty good at playing the game of "Catch and Forget".
When you feel that she also has a crush on you, she will suddenly become cold and even disappear for a few days, and when you start to be disappointed, she will reappear and give you some hope.
This capricious behavior can make you feel like you're on a roller coaster, up and down.
For example, you've been talking for a long time, and when you think the relationship is steadily developing, she suddenly stops responding to your messages.
A few days later, she took the initiative to chat with you again, and explained that she was too busy before.
This kind of repetitive behavior makes you unable to see her true thoughts at all.
Her method of wanting to capture and indulge is mostly to test how deep your feelings are for her, or to maintain her dominant position in the relationship and better control you.
04
Ambiguous and enjoy the feeling of being pursued
She has always been ambiguous with you, she enjoys the feeling of being pursued, but she is reluctant to clarify your relationship.
She will accept your gifts, she will promise to date you, and she will even have you close and personal.
However, when you ask for a relationship, she always changes the subject or rejects you vaguely.
For example, you watched a movie together, ate together, and even held hands and hugged. But she just doesn't want to admit openly that you're her boyfriend.
This ambiguous relationship makes you feel both sweet and distressed. Because you can't be sure if she really likes you or just wants to play an affair with you.
Maybe it's her fear of feelings, or maybe she's not sure yet, or maybe she's just trying to enjoy the feeling of being pursued but doesn't want to take any responsibility.
Love is a complex game, and everyone involved in it is trying to find their place and role.
When a woman is "hanging" you, don't blindly fall into it and can't extricate yourself. Instead, it is necessary to calmly analyze her true intentions and the relationship between you.
Remember, true love is based on honesty and trust, not on ambiguity and speculation.
As Shakespeare said, "Love is blind, but reason in love is the brightest eye." ”
When a woman "hangs" you, you have to keep your sanity and keep your eyes open to see her true intentions in order to find your own happiness.