In our 90s, the vast majority of people are only children.
When it came time for them to get married and have children, some people's minds began to "live": the family is a daughter, and our family must also have a surname!
As a result, we have a family with only one child here, and most of the names are composed of: father's surname + mother's surname + character.
But they don't know at all, one with the father's surname and the other with the mother's surname: how many families have been broken up by such a way of giving a surname.
There are only three cases of taking the mother's surname:
One is the unmarried child of a woman,
Second, the woman has no brothers.
The third is that the woman is not sure who the biological father of her child is.
It is not wrong for women who ask for their mother's surname to pursue equality between men and women, so it is recommended to practice it first and change her surname to her mother's. That's not enough, I have to change my grandmother's surname with my mother.
The sign of the progress of social ethical relations is that the son follows the father's surname, which is also the ethical requirement of shifting from a matrilineal society to a patrilineal society. It doesn't matter if the case takes the mother's surname, if it all follows the mother's surname, there is a serious problem.
The first generation follows the mother's surname, the second generation follows the daughter-in-law's surname, and the third generation follows the granddaughter-in-law's surname.
If a family has a precedent of having a male child in the next generation, and if its daughter-in-law is a single-woman family, she has to follow the example of her mother-in-law and let her child take her mother's surname?
If you have to have a daughter to inherit the lineage, then the woman's family buys a house and a car, and the daughter inherits the family property, so that the child is eligible to take the mother's surname.
The main purpose of following the father's surname is to distinguish close relatives and prevent the marriage of close relatives within the same three generations, why should the same surname be tried to go to the marriage examination, what the ancestors of the world left behind, and now someone to break it is irresponsible to the country and the nation.
Suppose there is only one generation of cousins and cousins, once they remarry, as long as they have different surnames, they are collateral lines three generations away, but your cousins and siblings are still directly related to marriage within three generations, and the father's surname is reduced and differentiated, not to say that it is completely avoided, the mother's surname is actually the uncle's surname, which is very harmful to human heredity, and a large number of freaks and deformed children.
If the man spends a lot of dowry, money, and material materials to marry his wife, and the family has a lot of assets, but the wife's family has no property and still clamos to take her surname, this is not advisable.
With the mother's surname, broken relatives, cousins, and cousins all broken, after 20 years, it is inevitable that there will be marriages within three generations.
For example: Zhang's mother gave birth to a son, followed her mother Zhang, Zhang Er married his wife Li, gave birth to a grandson Li, and his grandson married his wife Wang and gave birth to a son Wang. The three men in this family are Zhang Li Wang's three surnames. Are you talking about messy?
Zhang's mother gave birth to a second daughter, Zhang's daughter married Li, gave birth to a daughter Zhang, Zhang married and gave birth to a daughter Zhang, and finally Zhang's mother died, Zhang's mother's son and daughter also died, Zhang's mother's grandson and granddaughter's children, they may not know whose family it is, it is difficult to distinguish, and finally got married and gave birth to a fool.
If they all follow their mother's surname, then does the father still have the motivation to make milk powder money? I only know that when the bride price is asked, the woman says that it should be according to tradition, and when she wants the right to take the surname, she does not want to be traditional.
You can't even figure out what you're fighting for the crown and surname, you're fighting for the inheritance of your father-in-law and son-in-law.
The first generation of wives and their husbands have conflicts over whether they follow their father's surname or their mother's surname, and the wife wins and divorces; the second generation of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have conflicts over whether they follow their mother's surname or their mother's surname, and the husband and wife divorce first, and then the mother and son break off the relationship.
Men marry women in order to carry on the lineage. When a woman marries a man, it is also a succession. Although men cannot have children, women do not find a free worker who can provide a source of income for the woman's family for a long time.
Do you want to be able to pass on the family generation without paying a penny, take care of the children alone, go to work alone, accompany the children alone, do housework alone, tutor the children alone, and buy a house, buy a car, and even a mortgage, a car loan, a human relationship, etc.
No one asks, no one accompanies you, and no one pays your medical bills. And work all the time. Let's ask if you can? Look at the current wages of ordinary workers, how many people can't afford to pay off a car loan, not to mention that when a woman is pregnant, the man has to bear it all alone.
In fact, the primitive society was a matrilineal society, and all of them followed their mother's surname, and the ancestors of the descendants of Yan and Huang had only eight surnames, all of which had female characters next to them, so why did they become their father's surname? Because the matrilineal society collapsed.
A wise woman will not let her child take her surname and her child take her father's surname, so that the man always feels that it is his responsibility.
I also had several people who took their mother's surname and reverted to their father's surname when they became the head of the house. I feel safe and steady with my father's surname, and my mother's surname has no foundation, so I don't know what the next generation's surname is.
There was a man next door to me (because his parents were divorced) who lived with his mother and took his mother's surname, and when he got married and had children, he changed his father's surname back to his father's surname.
Someone asked him why he changed his surname, and he said that his motherhood is like duckweed without roots, his grandmother's relatives look at other categories, his cousin and cousin don't look at you right, and his grandmother's relatives look at you the same, Brother Tang and Sister Tang think you are an outsider.
He said that children must not have a sense of rootlessness, since he changed his surname, Brother Tang and Sister Tang have come and gone, and they have become a lot closer, and there is a big and small affair in the family that has been snored and discussed with him, and he has found the feeling of roots.
The atmosphere with the mother's surname is not right, and there are endless troubles. Happy for a while, uncomfortable for a lifetime. After 3 generations, blood relations, family relationships, generational relationships, all kinds of surnames are complete, all kinds of generations are strung together, surnames, and generations are messed up. Turning around, I can't tell whose descendants are coming, and they are evil.
A good and complete family may be divided into two gangs because two children have the father's surname or the mother's surname!
Then, the child's father and mother are very likely to part ways! Because children with the father's surname may be taken by grandparents, and children with the mother's surname may be raised by grandparents!
Men plug the door upside down, and their children mostly take their mother's surname, otherwise they should follow their father's surname. Children of the same father and mother should take their father's surname, otherwise the family will be torn apart and the affection between the children will be weak.
A bowl of water is uneven, living in a small place, and being ridiculed by outsiders, especially relatives and friends, will make the family collapse.
In the Chinese truth, men are ancestors, women are ancestors, and both are indispensable. Ancestors, ancestors. are mutually reinforcing.
When women are old, their descendants will be in groups, and they will be respectfully called: Ancestors!
The boy must take his father's surname so that he can only be passed on to the X chromosome. The X chromosome similarity of people of the same family is extremely high.
From ancient times to the present, it is very scientific to follow the father's surname, if it is to follow the woman's family name, it is actually to follow the woman's father's surname, in the final analysis, it is still with the man's surname, but the daughter is not married.
I am skeptical that the family with two surnames says that the family is harmonious. Obviously, both male and female families are competing with each other! One is yours and the other is mine, and the family has been separated since the children left the house! Small families are also prone to disintegration.
In ancient times, "abolishing the long and establishing the young" was the source of chaos. Now the two surnames of the brothers are nothing in the world, and the mediocrity disturbs themselves, which is human nature, and there will be partiality.