In interpersonal relationships, one of the most unacceptable things is probably being "looked down upon" by others.
The feeling of being slighted and trampled under your feet is so uncomfortable. So a lot of people, desperately trying to get rid of this emotion.
This is also a kind of motivation for people to move upward.
Sometimes, people feel this way in some social environments, and it is very hurtful.
So many times, when people buy things, they will buy expensive items and embellish themselves, just to make people look down on themselves.
In fact, whether people can afford it or not is not simply about the items and the price.
The personality aspect is just as important.
These kinds of people are very despised.
01 "Virtue is not matched"
In reality, people who are not worthy of virtue are actually easy to look down on.
For example, in the company, we meet some superiors, who obviously have no ability, and rely on sycophants.
But he also commanded his subordinates. It's offensive. Everyone is often behind his back, talking about this kind of person and looking down on him.
There are also people who have obtained wealth that does not match their ability by virtue of getting married and eating soft rice.
This practice is also very contemptible.
In reality, if people meet people who are "unworthy of virtue" in their lives, that kind of contempt attitude is very profound and enduring.
It will be often mentioned behind the back.
And every time we meet, this feeling of contempt wells up in my heart.
Because this kind of virtue is not matched, there is unfairness in it, which everyone does not like.
02 The character is very poor
In reality, people's codes of conduct are actually completely different.
There are people who follow the rules and are very ethical.
But there are people who are very unscrupulous.
If in reality, an acquaintance is very bad at doing things and has a very poor character. It will make people look down on it in their bones.
For example, when we sometimes watch movies and television dramas, we will find that some people actually betray her very good sisters.
even do things that hurt each other very much. This is ungrateful.
This kind of character is very despised.
In reality, people who are particularly unfilial, treat their spouses very cruelly, and do all kinds of bad things will still be looked down upon.
It's all a matter of character.
Even if the other party is dressed in gorgeous clothes, it is still contemptible.
In reality, some people do whatever it takes, and they do get a lot of benefits from it.
But because of the bad methods, he was really looked down upon.
This is also the price he pays.
03 Lack of self-respect
In reality, if you want people to look down on yourself, first of all, you must respect yourself, that is, yourself, and you can afford yourself.
If a person looks down on himself, can he still count on others to look down on himself?
I have seen some people who suppress themselves into the dust in order to curry favor with a rich person of the opposite sex and get a very lucrative marriage.
I usually do things, I don't have any self-esteem at all, and it's really uncomfortable to watch.
This is a lack of self-respect.
There are also people who, when faced with some choices in life, choose to make small profits at the expense of their self-esteem.
It's also contemptible.
Frankly speaking, most people have the concept of "self-esteem". And most people, once their self-esteem is damaged, they will respond.
There are only a small number of people who would rather lose their self-esteem than draw those three melons and two dates. It's really despicable.
Are there such people around you?