It's another year of gold, silver, and four, and a message about "parents arranged interviews" in the background has attracted our attention.
Gini, who had just attended a major job fair, said she often saw parents accompanying their children to find jobs and even answering interviews.
A report by Xinhua News Agency also mentioned this phenomenon: "In the vocational assessment area, a mother brought her child to consult, and this young man who graduated with an English major was under great psychological pressure because he had not found his dream job for a long time."
With curiosity about "parents arranged interviews", we started an Internet observation.
The child interviews, the parents add
"Conspicuous Bags" at Job Fairs
As soon as he walked into the scene, Gini noticed a mother and son.
Faced with the crowd of people at the job fair, the boy looked confused, and there was a high probability that he was a fresh graduate. The mother on the side looked calm, her eyes wandering back and forth in the job advertisements of various companies.
After a round trip, the mother finally patted her son on the back and motioned for him to interview one of the companies. The boy didn't say anything, and stood at the end of the line in silence, his mother by his side.
When it was the boy's turn to interview, he handed in his resume and introduced himself briefly, and the rest of the process was the same as all ordinary interviews, with the interviewer asking questions and the candidate answering.
Gini, who had originally ignited his gossip heart, wanted to turn around and leave. Maybe it's just that the mother accompanies the child to the job fair to strengthen the courage.
As a result, the mother spoke, directly overshadowing her son's low, stumbling voice. Probably because he didn't answer well enough, he couldn't bear to stay in front of the interviewer to help fill it up.
Gini looked at the interview for a few more moments, and the interview ended quickly. Like a dolphin, the mother took her baby dolphin and roamed the sea of job fairs, looking for the next place to "feed".
There is more than one pair of "dolphin parent-children" like them. Almost all of them are young people who look young and shy, with an anxious parent who looks around and asks everywhere.
Gini, who went to apply for a job alone that day, felt much more relaxed than these parents, although there was no one to accompany him. They are nervous that their children are close to graduation and have not yet found a job, that they have no experience in applying for jobs, and that they are nervous that they cannot perform comfortably during interviews...... When these anxieties are projected onto their children, will they really help them in their job search?
"If I were an interviewer, I would have thought it would be weird. Gini said.
Interviewer Adventure: Inexplicably Extra Emotional Labor
As the head of a start-up self-media company, Mr. Cheng has encountered two "parent-accompanied interviews" so far.
The first was to recruit a new media copywriter. Since there are no strict requirements for academic qualifications, focusing on writing skills and new media operation experience, they have received many resumes from ordinary undergraduate or junior college graduates from second- and third-tier cities. On the day of the interview, Mr. Cheng passed through the room waiting for the interview and found that there were four candidates and a middle-aged aunt sitting inside.
Ask HR what this is like. "I said that I couldn't worry about the child, and I insisted on being here again and again. ”
Mr. Cheng smiled bitterly. As a start-up company in a big city, he has always heard a lot of comments about this kind of "peace of mind", and of course he understands the concerns of the applicant's parents. But the fact that "interviewing with your parents" itself does make him doubt the candidate's workplace mentality and ability to solve problems independently.
Sure enough, after the interview, the middle-aged aunt asked Mr. Cheng a series of questions with a smile on her face. Including the company's legal representative, financial status, recruitment plan and development positioning, etc. Mr. Cheng politely responded partially, but when it came to the content of the company's confidential information, he of course refused to answer.
"When we decided on the candidate afterwards, we were also briefly distressed that the candidate who was accompanied by my mother really did not match our job requirements. However, because there have been some short-term information exchanges, I am worried that it will be used by the other party to spread to the outside world and affect the company's reputation. ”
This kind of feeling of not only facing the applicant, but also facing the applicant's parents, is called "extra emotional labor" by Mr. Cheng.
The second is to recruit interns, which are aimed at college students in the cities where their companies are located. One of the applicants' parents called HR one after another, saying that they wanted to visit their home.
"Maybe it's because we notice that we work late, and we are worried that the interns will be 'squeezed' and work overtime. These parents want to come up and inspect the environment. ”
In order to be able to "get an offer in one fell swoop"
A father decides to accompany his daughter to an interview
Uncle Wang's daughter has not been in class since she finished her graduation internship, and it has been more than half a year. During this time, my daughter taught painting on and off on the Internet, and she earned an average of 2k-3k a month.
But Uncle Wang and his wife are very worried about this state. Every time she proposes to let her daughter "find a serious class" and "have more social contact", her attitude is always ignoring, "it doesn't matter" and "you can earn money by teaching painting at home".
So the couple asked a lot of friends to introduce their daughter to jobs, and finally got an interview opportunity. Out of understanding his daughter's personality, Uncle Wang made an appointment with his daughter for an interview a week in advance, and reminded him repeatedly in the family group, but he was always at ease. He simply asked for half a day off from the unit, planning to accompany his daughter to the interview.
Before going out, the father and daughter were still arguing because of this, and as a result, one chose to take the bus and the other chose to take the subway. While Uncle Wang was waiting downstairs in the company he applied for, his daughter "lost contact" on the other end of WeChat, and he was so anxious that he began to call to find someone.
After a long time, my daughter was late. In the face of Uncle Wang's questioning, she was always silent, just silently walked into the office building and cooperated with her father to complete the interview process. Naturally, the result was not as smooth as Uncle Wang expected.
Afterwards, when I talked to the people around me about it, Uncle Wang received all kinds of questions and reminders.
"Nowadays, many young people like freelance and flexible employment, will she not like the work that requires work?"
"In any case, it's not advisable to 'carry her to the interview', it's an adult, and it hurts self-esteem. ”
"Let's sit down and have a good chat, and listen to the true voice of her heart. ”
A good attitude for job hunting starts with open communication
After completing this Internet observation, we found that although almost all of these young people who were interviewed by their parents were fresh graduates or pure newcomers with no workplace experience, their own abilities and potential were not necessarily weaker than others.
The source of job search stress for them and their parents is a "sense of distrust" due to a lack of communication.
Parents are worried that their children will not express themselves well and be nervous about interviews, so they answer on their behalf; parents are worried that the employer is unprofessional, and their children do not clearly explain the situation of their favorite company before applying for a job, resulting in the person in charge of the recruiter having to bear additional emotional labor; and at the moment when flexible employment and free choice of employment are encouraged, some young people want to make a living with hobbies, but they cannot get the affirmation and help of their families.
These feelings of distrust are the important conclusions we have drawn from this Internet observation.
In fact, if you search on the Internet, it is not difficult to see the real cases of "parents accompanying interviews" that HR has shared. Almost all interviewers have a preconceived resistance to this type of candidate.
The "pass rate" is so high, why do so many people still do it?
In the final analysis, everyone skipped the step of "honest communication" and directly achieved the goal in the way they thought was correct and reasonable.
The world of work is new, and what inexperienced job seekers need most is the courage to take the first step. But instead of giving them time to "take a deep breath" and give them the opportunity to try, make mistakes, and reflect, the parents overloaded the pressure on both sides.
Having said that, we would like to encourage every graduate who is looking for a job, whether your job search pressure comes from yourself, your family or society, please remember to give yourself a chance to "take a big breath" before stepping into the interview room.
Before you get the courage to go into the workplace, when you hit a wall when you apply for a job, when you face the excessive concern of your elders, take a big breath, and try to be honest about your inner thoughts.
Relaxed people are more likely to meet good things. Perhaps, a dream offer is coming to you.
I wish you all those who are looking for a job to get what you want.
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Editor-in-charge: Wu Yaofeng