Life is an endless journey of development, a formal process of finding oneself in the midst of gaining and losing, and it is a formal process full of challenges and opportunities.
If life is compared to climbing, then in the first half of our lives, we often chase after those connections, resources, and love, friendships, and family ties that are indispensable in life, which are all inseparable parts of our lives.
When you pass a certain age, you begin to return to your true nature.
Rather than going on and on certain things, we should learn to let go of them gradually. In this way, you will gradually come to realize and understand many truths, such as that we should not overestimate human nature and any emotion.
Sometimes, even though you are sincere about others, you may be betrayed and hurt. This makes us realize that sincerity does not necessarily lead to a sincere response, and that we need to handle interpersonal relationships more wisely.
If this is the case, why not abandon it sooner? Only in this way can we have the opportunity to embrace happiness. I hope you can also understand the three emotions as soon as possible and let go of unnecessary burdens.
One: will only take advantage of you and hurt your family affection
Family affection is something we can't choose, including the parents who gave birth to us and raised us, and the brothers and sisters who spend time with us, etc., these people are all vital beings in our lives. No matter where we are, they are always there for us, giving us support and love. We should cherish this affection and be grateful at all times.
As we get older, we come to realize that family relationships can also deteriorate. Some parents are old enough to leave their siblings strange when they die. Sometimes, it is your loved ones who hurt you the most. It is also an important lesson in life.
In the TV series "Ode to Joy", Fan Shengmei has never been cared for by her parents since she was a child, and she also has a selfish brother. If she could realize the indifference of family affection as soon as possible, maybe her life would not be so hard.
She struggled alone in Shanghai, and in order to save money, she had to share a house with others. Sadly, her parents don't care about her life and just keep asking for her money.
In order to make her parents happy, Fan Shengmei sent money home on time every month, and at the same time bought a wedding house for her brother, and was willing to help him raise children. She feels that this is her responsibility and an expression of her love and concern for her family.
Fan Shengmei worked very hard to manage the family relationship, but in the end they still couldn't show a little pity for him. This is regrettable, because Fan Shengmei has given a lot, but in the end she still did not get the feedback she wanted.
When a person is over 40 years old, family affection is priceless. But many people are reluctant to let go of their lost love.
If you don't want to fill your life with grievances and pain, then after middle age, you should consider leaving those family relationships that you need to bother to manage. No matter how much you give, you can't impress the other person, because the sincerity and honesty you convey will only hurt you deeply. Focus on the people and things that really matter, and respect your own needs and values, so that you can live a more relaxed and formal life.
Two: Friendship that will only consume you and make you feel like it is laborious
Everyone has experienced useless socializing, that is, relationships that are not beneficial and will waste your time and energy. We need to choose and manage social relationships wisely, avoiding being consumed and wasted, in order to be better positioned for success.
When we are younger, we may think that making a lot of friends can open up more paths in life. But in middle age, we come to realize that not all of us can really be friends. This is a real issue that must be recognized.
Chen Xu shared that when he was in his twenties, he lacked maturity in his heart. Although he doesn't like social situations, he forces himself to participate in them in order to be gregarious.
He began to imitate the behavior of those around him, learned to flatter and flatter, was good at getting along with all kinds of people, and knew how to communicate using different tones and gestures. This makes his communicative skills more skillful and skilled, showing a more relaxed and formal image.
In order to successfully sign the customer, Chen Xu tried every means to obtain more favorable information. However, instead of helping him succeed, his efforts wasted his time.
Chen Xu felt that his behavior was quite funny, if he was a little more sober, he might not have taken so many detours.
When Chen Xu lived half of his life, he realized that he needed to change. Instead of wasting time on useless socializing, he learned to create a better life on his own.
In the end, Chen Xu realized his wish, got closer to his ideal self, and felt extremely satisfied.
After forty years of age, we finally realize that meaningless socializing is not worth wasting time and money. Fortunately, Chen Xu has understood this truth, but there are still many people who refuse to let go in real life.
Those who aspire to be gregarious often struggle to take control of their lives.
Only by unswervingly following our own path and not falling into meaningless social circles can we maximize the value of time and energy and avoid waste.
Three: Love that will only affect you and make you feel sad and hopeless
Sometimes, many people find it difficult to give up a love, not because they can't forget that person, but because they can't let go of the obsession hidden deep in their hearts.
knows that there is no hope for the two of them, but they still can't let go of the past, and they are unwilling to start a new relationship. However, we need to seriously consider whether this is worth it.
The presence of the other person will only take a negative toll on you, making you feel sad and disappointed. They will interfere with your pace and hinder your plans in the way of doing nothing. So why let ourselves endure this pain? Let us let go of these distractions and focus on our own goals and happiness.
Only when we let go of the baggage of the past can we welcome a new beginning.
One day, we will all realize that fate is destined and separation is always accompanied. In life, we inevitably have to face parting, say goodbye to certain people and things, and even if we are reluctant, we must make a decisive decision. This is the path of growth that everyone must learn, whether we want it or not.
In life, we have experienced many things, some things can be easily picked up, but it is difficult to let go. In middle age, we must learn to let go of our minds, so that we can move smoothly into the future.