Do you notice that honest and trustworthy people seem to have been given a derogatory meaning now? In the past, people respected and appreciated their loyal and honest personalities, and leaders trusted them as representatives of integrity.
Today, however, it is found that being too upright can make people scapegoats at home and in the workplace. Even the teachers in the school have reminded the students not to trust anyone. After graduating and entering the workplace, it is more necessary to learn to keep your sanity, rather than showing yourself unreservedly.
A college student only realized after suffering a loss that he was the more naïve party. She said that after trusting a boss for more than a year, she was blamed when she made a mistake at work, causing her to lose her job. This made it difficult for her to accept it from both a business and a private point of view.
The impact of this incident on her was not as simple as losing an ordinary job. She was confused and disgruntled because she had found a boss who was as trustworthy as a good sister. She repays her leaders through hard work, and after work, she chats with her boss like a friend, goes shopping, and even talks about family chores. However, she didn't expect that because of a communication problem with a customer, the responsibility was completely shifted to her.
The company believes that this is a serious mistake and the only solution is to dissuade her in order to remind other colleagues. And her female boss didn't even say a word of pleading. This made her wonder if the "sisterly" friendship she had once had really ignored it.
Later, I realized that the so-called intimate big sister was just an image deliberately set by the boss. As long as it doesn't involve personal interests, everything doesn't matter, but when it comes to major problems in her work, what is she in her eyes? Does being a human being have to be so hypocritical?
In the workplace, there are some scheming colleagues who often disguise themselves as "white rabbits". It took quite a while for the landlord to really see clearly. Maybe it's not her boss who bothers her, but a misunderstanding of her work, and if she isn't so sincere, there's no need to feign enthusiasm.
This can be a commonplace thing for experienced people. Some of the more scheming colleagues are straightforward and domineering, while the selfishness and insidiousness of others are hidden deep in the bone marrow. It is best for newcomers to the workplace to be cautious and not to "talk deeply" easily.
For example, the first type of people are always very enthusiastic and like to "mingle" with everyone. Don't assume that just because they're smiling or inviting you to lunch, they are "nice." They are good at asking you about your family situation and history in the most natural way and then deciding what attitude to treat you. If the person has a close relationship with your immediate supervisor, it is likely that they are interested in helping to inquire.
The second type of people always look for opportunities to complain about the company's badness or criticize a certain leader. Speaking ill of others in private is a form of friendship, but it is best avoided in the workplace, otherwise graduates may inadvertently offend people without knowing it, and it will be difficult for the person being told to find out who is gossiping behind their backs.
Don't be fooled by people who privately laugh at themselves as "white rabbits", usually the more they emphasize their innocence, the more they like to do things behind their backs, which may be a sign of weakness. It's been said that if no one speaks, you don't speak, but if you say it, you may get into trouble and the other person may be designing a trap.
The third group of people, by playing the role of "clumsy", tries to transfer the pressure of work, and uses sweet words as the standard. In the world of adults doing things, a person must never be judged by words alone. If you're susceptible to sweet talk, you're likely to get into trouble because of it.
In the workplace, it is common to meet people who are not able to work well, but who work very hard and apologize. They then ask their colleagues to help share the work. For graduates, learn to say no skillfully. If the other person is genuinely sorry, they will give an actual benefit, not just a thank you.
In the workplace, honesty needs to be based on a certain premise, otherwise it is easy to be taken advantage of by others. Many outstanding students may have been instilled with the idea of honesty, trustworthiness, loyalty and honesty in the process of growing up. In school, solidarity is encouraged, but at work, getting along with colleagues is equally valued. However, due to the lack of basic awareness of "precautions", many people will eventually find themselves "betrayed" by their scheming colleagues, or even have to pay for it.
This kind of colleague does not feel guilty about his actions, but instead sees it as finding someone to pick up and make fun of. Sometimes, they pay lip service to praise, but in fact expect honest people to unprincipledly help them share the responsibility in such praise.
Therefore, an important skill that needs to be learned after graduation is to know some "thick black learning" in the workplace. Be kind, don't always perfunctory bosses or bully colleagues, there will be no good results in the long run.
Nor can there be no bottom line and principles. Don't be too soft-hearted when you should be "black-hearted", otherwise others may use your kindness to trample on your bottom line and turn you into a tool for colleagues to "dump the pot".
In interpersonal communication, having basic character and friendliness is a prerequisite for staying in the group. However, many students tend to oversimplify the workplace after entering the workplace. They may not realize that they may be the target of harm even though they do not intend to harm others. Therefore, any environment needs to learn to adapt and adjust, and know some "thick black learning" in order to avoid suddenly realizing the loss after the fact.
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