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Recently, I received a private message from a netizen who confided in me about her emotional experience, and the words were full of confusion and uneasiness.
She asked me, "I really don't know if he still cares about me, because his attitude towards me has been hot and cold lately, and I can't figure it out." ”
I think this may also be a problem that many girls encounter in their relationships. Today, let's talk about this topic,
Hope to help those who have the same confusion find answers.
In this netizen's description, her relationship with this boy always seems to be in a state of uncertainty. Sometimes, guys will take the initiative to contact her, care about her life, and even do some romantic things for her.
However, just when she thought that the relationship between the two was gradually heating up, the boy suddenly became cold, as if everything before was an illusion. This hot and cold attitude made her feel very uneasy, and she didn't know how to deal with it.
In fact, this kind of hot and cold attitude often means that the boy's feelings for the girl are not stable. He may have a crush on you, but that liking isn't enough for him to devote himself to the relationship.
He may also be hesitating, weighing the pros and cons, or having an affair with another girl. This unstable emotional state is undoubtedly a kind of torture for girls.
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So, how can you tell if a guy really cares about you? Perhaps, when you stop reaching out to him, you will find out.
For example, when you stop reaching out to him, you can see if he will reach out to you. If he really cares about you, then he will definitely care about your disappearance, he will also worry about whether something has happened to you, and he will also take the initiative to come to you to ask why.
On the contrary, if he does not react to this or even starts to distance himself from you, then you should think about whether the relationship is worth continuing.
In addition, you can also judge what he really thinks by his usual behavior. A guy who genuinely cares about you will lend a helping hand when you need help, comfort you when you are sad, and share joy with you when you are happy.
A guy who doesn't care about you will turn a blind eye to your needs and even disappear without a trace when you need him.
Of course, we can't just rely on these superficial phenomena to conclude whether a guy cares about you or not. After all, everyone's personality and way of expressing themselves are different, and some people may not be very good at expressing their emotions.
However, if after a long period of observation, you find that his behavior consistently makes you feel upset and confused, then there is definitely something wrong with his feelings for you.
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In relationships, sincerity and honesty are very important. If a guy really cares about you, he will be willing to share his thoughts and feelings with you, will respect your choices, and will face all kinds of challenges in life with you.
And a guy who doesn't care about you will make you feel like walking a tightrope with him, always cautious, for fear that you will fall off if you are not careful.
So, when you are confused about a guy's feelings, you might as well try to stop reaching out to him and give yourself and him some time and space.
In the process, you can think about your own needs and expectations, and you can also observe his reactions and behaviors. When you revisit the relationship, perhaps you will find the answer that has been bothering you.
Chen Xiaoqing said: "There are three things in the world that cannot be hidden, poverty, cough and love. ”
A man's love is actually the most obvious thing in the world, although it comes from the heart, but it will be manifested in real actions.
So, after stopping contacting him, you just have to observe his actions to know what he really wants for you.
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In the end, I would like to say that feelings are a matter of two people, and they require the joint efforts and dedication of both parties. If you find yourself in a state of passivity and confusion in your relationship, then perhaps you should be brave enough to take that step and find the person who really cares about you.
Because in this world, there is always someone who will understand you, love you, love you, and spend the rest of your life with you. And until then, all you have to do is keep improving yourself and make yourself better and more confident.
In short, confusion and uneasiness in feelings are inevitable, but we must learn to face and solve them bravely. When you have doubts about a guy's relationship, you might as well try to stop reaching out to him and give yourself and him a chance to re-examine the relationship.
I like this sentence very much, for you who are confused:
"People who want to accompany you all your life will come to you when they cross mountains and mountains. ”
Love, in fact, is so charming, maybe he doesn't know why, but when you really disappear, he desperately wants to find you, then this man must care about you very much.