Everyone's personality is different, and the way they deal with the same thing is also different, many people will have a very obvious sense of helplessness and loneliness when facing something alone, they can't take care of themselves, they can't make decisions independently, they can only rely on others.
This kind of over-dependence trait is a dependent personality, which generally needs to be taken care of by others excessively, and can only be satisfied if you find a "backer". If it has a serious adverse effect on life, it may lead to dependent personality disorder.
Characteristics of a dependent personality: over-dependence on others, lack of independence and self-confidence. In the face of decisions and difficulties, they often appear hesitant and need to frequently seek the opinions and suggestions of others. Fear of independent responsibility, doubts about self-worth, and excessive concern for the opinions of others, making it difficult to express one's opinions freely in social and professional situations. Emotional over-reliance on a partner or family member and friend, leading to an imbalanced relationship.
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Symptoms of a dependent personality
1. Unable to be independent
It is difficult for people with dependent personality to do one thing independently, and they have to accept help and guidance from others, so they feel helpless and incompetent when facing certain things themselves. It is only under the repeated guidance of others that they know how to deal with a thing, so they lack independence.
2. Always want to escape from reality
In order to avoid failure, people with dependent personality are not willing to face certain things at all, they will paralyze themselves, escape from reality, let others help them make decisions, and let the other party become a shield.
3. Get used to catering to others
People with dependent personalities are particularly dependent on others, and in order to give guidance to others, they will try to cater to each other as much as possible, sometimes even suppressing their true feelings and thoughts, and even giving up their own values, in order to ensure that this dependence relationship lasts longer, they gradually have the ability to cater to others.
For mental health testing and screening, you can also refer to the SCL-90 scale, and for the detection and screening of mental illness, you can refer to the MMPI Minnesota Multiple Personality Test.
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Causes of dependent personality
1. Genetic factors
Dependent personality is influenced by genetic factors, and if someone in a family or close relative has a dependent personality, they are more likely to become a dependent personality themselves.
2. Environmental impact
The environment in which an individual grows up and the environment in which they work as they grow up can affect a person's personality, and the emergence of a dependent personality is mainly due to a lack of love from loved ones during the growth process, or a full of insecurity in the work environment, in which they simply do not gain self-confidence.
3. Personality traits
People with dependent personality always have some distinctive personality traits, such people have little self-confidence and are emotionally unstable, and the lack of personality leads to the emergence of dependent personality.
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Dependent personality coping methods
1. Face yourself and build self-confidence
People with dependent personality have little confidence in themselves, they are afraid of setbacks, fear of failure, and fear of ridicule from those around them, if you want to improve this situation, you must first have the courage to face yourself, build self-confidence, and slowly reduce your dependence on them.
2. Overcome dependence and eliminate fear
People with dependent personalities are extremely dependent on the people around them, and if they learn to distance themselves from the people they rely on, reduce the frequency of dependence, eliminate their inner fear, gradually exercise their decision-making ability, and slowly adapt to acting alone, the situation will naturally improve.
3. Learn to be alone and stimulate enthusiasm
Most people with dependent personality do not like to be alone, try to enjoy the joy of being alone, there may be a lot of discomfort at first, and even anxiety will appear, but when a person can really face their thoughts and emotions, they can stimulate enthusiasm and gradually grow into a more independent and strong person.