Someone once said that one night when a person reached middle age, recalling the experience of the first half of his life, suddenly there was only sighs and lamentations left, as if he had not gained anything, and lived in vain.
This feeling of "living for nothing" is not common in the group of young people, but it is more common in the group of middle-aged people.
Generally speaking, when a person lives every minute and every second of the moment, and is worthy of his life, then he will not feel like he is living in vain. But why do middle-aged people have the idea of "living for nothing"?
It only shows one thing, they took the path they didn't like and lived a life they hated.
The biggest regret in this life is that you lack these consciousnesses and can only live in vain.
1. Lack of awareness of "living from the heart".
Wang Yangming, a sage of the Ming Dynasty, in order to explore the idea of "learning from things", faced bamboo for seven days and seven nights, and then fell ill. Lying sick in bed, he thought, is Zhu Xi's idea of "learning from things" really correct?
After some torture, Wang Yangming came to a conclusion that the truth is never outside, but in his own heart. This is the case with the saying that "the heart is the truth, and the heart is the universe."
During the period when he was relegated to Guizhou Longchang, Wang Yangming Longchang enlightened, founded a sect, founded "Xinxue", and began a life of "living from the heart".
He can bring up the pen to calm the world, and he can lead the troops to quell the rebellion, which can be said to be the most capable of leading the troops to fight in the civil ministers. At the age of 57, Wang Yangming put down the rebellion in Guangxi, and on the way back to his hometown, he died of illness.
Before he died, he smiled and said to his disciples: "This heart is bright, and there is nothing to say." (Meaning, my heart has long been bright and clear, and I have no regrets in my life, what else is there to say?)
Listen to your heart and live your life well, this is the real transparency. Everyone's heart is different, which shows that the path everyone takes and the life they live are also different.
No matter what path you take or what life you live, as long as you have no regrets and are already satisfied, you will naturally not live in vain.
2. Lack of awareness of "being happy to know your fate".
When I read Su Shi when I was young, I would only feel that Su Shi was talented and his writing was unique in the poetry and literary world. When I reached a certain age, I read Su Shi again, and I found that Su Shi was transparent, and his mood was not comparable to ordinary people.
In "Red Cliff Fu", Su Shi looked at the vast world and said indifferently:
"And between heaven and earth, everything has its own owner, and it is not mine, although I can't take anything. But the breeze on the river, and the bright moon in the mountains, the sound of the ear, the color of the eye, the inexhaustible, is the endless hiding of the Creator, and I am suitable for the Son. ”
It means that everything in heaven and earth has its own master, and this is not my thing, and I will not ask for anything. Only the breeze and moon on the river and the natural beauty of the mountains are the treasures of the creator, and ordinary people such as us can live in the present and enjoy the fun here.
It is this mentality that supported Su Shi through the dark moments of his life. For such a talented person, who has been degraded all his life, can still perceive the natural pleasures of heaven and earth, it is really amazing and admirable.
It can be summed up in four words, Lotte knows its fate. Know the laws and truths of heaven and earth, enjoy the fun of heaven and earth, have fun in time, live in the moment, and do not worry about any trivial matters.
Life is not all smooth sailing, but our hearts can be clear. How you see the world, the world responds to you. Everything is mutual.
3. Lack of awareness of "getting rid of the world".
Why do people live in misery? Being in the world, and not being able to calm their hearts, the more anxious, the more impatient, and the more painful they become.
The world is all something that cannot be seen, so why does it affect countless people? It is easy to get rid of the visible shackles, but it is not easy to get rid of the invisible shackles.
Other people's strange eyes will make your heart uncomfortable, other people's terrible words will make you tremble, and other people's sameness will make you dare not become a white swan in the ugly duckling group.
The most typical example, the elders live such a life, you hate this kind of life from the bottom of your heart, but the elders want you to live like this, you don't dare to resist, you can only follow the crowd, get by, only to find out afterwards that this is not what you want.
Another example, you like this kind of thing, but no one else likes it, so you don't dare to pursue such a thing, for fear of becoming an outlier. As you get older, you lose something like this completely, and you regret it.
The shackles of the world are nothing more than rigid concepts, the eyes of others, and fixed standards. If you live according to all this, you will only be a walking corpse, losing both yourself and hope in life.
Getting rid of the world, being a brave person, and pursuing your ideal life is the truth without regrets.
Write to the end
Countless people sigh that they live in vain, but they dare not change themselves, nor dare they dare to live according to their hearts, this is the biggest irony and contradiction.
It's the same as making money, this is also afraid, that is also afraid, the front is afraid of the tiger, and the back is afraid of the wolf, isn't it easy to miss the opportunity?
People only live for a lifetime, a few decades, if they don't live for the sake of their "heart", one day, we will regret it. But at that time, there was no choice.