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We all want to maintain a deep and lasting relationship with those close to us, and we don't want to be alienated, let alone disconnected.
However, we all know that the most comfortable relationship between people is not to rely on frequent gatherings or frequent help, but to connect and fit hearts.
01: Slack up when you meet
Relaxation is a state, but also a state of mind.
When two people have not seen each other for a long time, they can still feel each other's intimacy and sympathy after meeting, which is a tacit understanding, and it is also a peace of mind and relaxation for each other.
Many times, because we care too much about a person, we will inevitably have a cramped and uneasy psychology when getting along, for fear that we will not behave perfectly and arouse the other party's disgust.
This situation usually causes the Murphy effect, which strains the relationship.
Therefore, the relationship that makes both parties very relaxed is the most comfortable relationship.
Neither of them has to hide themselves to cater to each other, let alone have any inhibitions, just show their true selves in their words, casual and comfortable.
This is true of any relationship, once you let go of your baggage, you can show the best version of yourself to the other person, which is the necessity of the existence of interpersonal relationships.
If there is an atmosphere of anxiety or urgency in the relationship between people, then the relationship is very uncomfortable and sooner or later they will part ways.
02: Interact when you don't see you
Interaction when not meeting is not an interruption, but when one person needs another, the other person is able to give the emotional value they want.
Even if you keep in touch online for a long time, you can make others feel deeply sincere and cared for yourself, which is a shot in the arm for the other person, so that both people have the confidence to maintain this intimate relationship.
There are many ways and reasons to connect, such as sharing what you have seen, asking each other about their daily routines, listening to each other's worries and sorrows, and so on.
No matter what the topic, it is nothing more than trying to convey an attitude to the other party, that is: I care about you and need you.
This feeling is far more useful than how many times I think you have been said, and it is the real hope that everyone longs to be needed and cared for.
It is not difficult to maintain the superficial relationship, but the difficulty is whether it is the spiritual sustenance of each other, and this kind of two-way relationship makes people feel precious.
03: Support in decision-making
I have heard the saying that people need to be recognized and encouraged by others, and even if there is only one person in the world who supports his decision, he will give birth to the courage and strength to go all out.
In an intimate relationship, people who are wrapped in great trust and support are usually unusually strong and unusually strong.
It's an encouragement, but it's also an attitude.
In fact, most people in this world are ordinary people, who do not have the ability and opportunity to do earth-shattering things, but they really want to be supported by others.
Rather than pleasing and loving, we also need to receive affirmation and support from our intimate relationships when making decisions.
As a result, we will become more determined, more courageous to face the twists and turns and challenges in life, and more courageous to seize the opportunities that can be encountered but not sought, and no longer hesitate.
Of course, just the right amount of support is wise, not to ask others to take responsibility for our lives, but to really think about the feasibility from our point of view, and be willing to go out of their way to accompany us towards our dreams.
The relationship between people initially depends on touching and kindness, then the relationship depends on the harmony of the heart, and the final maintenance depends on the relaxation, interaction, and support of the soul.
We all want to become each other's irreplaceable travel companions in an intimate relationship, so we must show great sincerity to make the relationship between two people become the most comfortable relationship, naturally without too many other behaviors, we will naturally cherish each other, rely on each other, and grow together.
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