Everyone is desperate to live a "good life", very hard, very hard, to fight their life to a certain level, obviously should be envied to do everything, why is the heart still empty? Perhaps, you are also trapped in the "second-hand life".
Have a lot but not be happy
People who live a "second-hand life" are more likely to live a miserable life
Looking at the world, regardless of race, personality, or preferences, most people's perception of a good life is learned from TV and celebrities, and the definition is about the same, such as buying boutiques, taking island vacations or living in luxury houses, and carefully taking photos and retouching pictures to show off to the community, as if you can be happy by applying such a life formula.
When we start to live a "second-hand life", we will gradually lose our voice in our own lives, obviously empty, but we have to abide by the "good life formula" by pinching our thighs, and we are afraid that if we poke our heads a little, we will derail and become a snake in the eyes of the world.
As a result, the contradiction and incomprehension of "having a lot but not being happy" makes people extremely painful.
Desperately bought a house and a bag
But every day was like hell, and finally woke up in her hospital
I have a friend who is a typical example of pursuing a "second-hand life".
A is a very hard-working person, sacrificing everything for the future during school, she is studying while we are playing, she is also studying while we are sleeping, and the ultimate goal is "financial freedom" within three years of graduation.
After entering the workplace, A worked hard, answering any case, running the case scene and answering customer calls halfway through the car accident. Whenever I was tired of work, I went to the boutique cabinet to scan the goods and vent, bought a lot of bags, but I didn't have time to take a vacation, and the only backpack time was to talk to customers about business.
A also bought a new house very quickly, and was very happy that he bought a good location and a good price, although he said that he could earn millions more as an investment, but he was burdened with a mortgage for decades, and he was so panicked that he couldn't relax, and finally worked until he was admitted to the hospital.
A Looking back on the past ten years in the hospital bed, I found that I couldn't remember what I had done at all, I was so tired every day that I couldn't do it, and I was only accompanied by a few bags when I returned to my gorgeous home, and I was endlessly sad.
After resigning decisively and working as a wage earner in the farmland
It was the first time I saw her laugh and share her life
Later, A sold the house and bag, and in order to avoid a workaholic attack, he decisively quit his job to give himself a gap year and flew to Australia for a working holiday.
Rather than carrying a designer bag and living with customers, I prefer to carry a bamboo basket to pick fruit in the sun, and I prefer to share a room with my roommate than a large mansion with an echo. I haven't seen A for a long time, she has a lot of tan, her complexion is a lot ruddy, I saw her smiling and sharing life for the first time, it turns out that ah, this is life.
Go back to the first-hand experience of the present, and don't chase other people's second-hand lives, you will find that "happiness" is not as far away as you imagined.