This year's highest-rated Chinese drama appeared.
"We Are Not Kind Enough", the first generation of Taiwanese puppet goddesses Ariel Lin and Xu Weining returned together.
Douban opened with a score of 8.5, which is still rising again and again, and has reached a good score of 9.0.
I originally wanted to watch this drama because I saw a screenshot of the lines in the circle of friends.
"I want to be someone else's wife, mother, daughter, daughter-in-law, employee, and a good person who loves the earth every day, and I'm really tired...... You know what I mean, right?"
This sentence is obviously asking the people in the play.
But looking at Ariel Lin's tired eyes and looking at the camera, it was not a question to the audience outside the camera.
Xu Yuting, the director and screenwriter of this drama, has been working continuously with high scores in "I May Not Love You" and "Who Fell in Love with Him First", but this time it has shone into the hidden corner of people's hearts that are "not kind enough".
Just like the style of Taiwanese dramas as always, in addition to being delicate, it is also so sharp that people dare not look at it directly.
19 years ago, in "Mischievous Kiss", high school student Yuan Xiangqin was sweet and cute, Pei Ziyu was very intelligent, and both of them had a good impression of the genius and beautiful boy Jiang Naoki.
19 years later, in "We Are Not Kind Enough", the characters played by Ariel Lin and Xu Weining still fall in love with the same person.
It's just that this time, it's no longer the ignorance of the beginning of love when you were young, and everyone is "not kind enough".
To put it simply, rudely and inaccurately, Jian Qingfen (played by Ariel Lin) "took the upper position as a junior" and snatched He Ruizhi (played by He Junxiang) from Rebecca (played by Xu Weining).
It sounds like this is a very common bloody routine of "two women fighting for one man" in Taiwanese idol dramas.
But under the pen of director Xu Yuting, the dog-blood routine is not only vibrant, but also faintly gives birth to a sense of pain.
At first glance, Jian Qingfen, who has just passed her 41st birthday, is very successful in a secular sense, and can even be called a template life:
The family has a house and a car, his son Bubu is well-behaved and obedient, his job is stable, and his husband has a successful career.
But another way to say that life is stable is boring.
At night, I wanted to go to the bathroom to have some fun with my husband He Ruizhi, who was taking a bath, but he drove him out for fear of waking up his son......
The reason why she was able to marry He Ruizhi largely depends on the fact that she can please He's mother more than her husband's ex-girlfriend Rebecca.
In order to maintain the relationship between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he had to make a sandwich for his son regardless of his mood.
Do you still remember how Jian Qingfen commented on herself when she said she was very tired?
"I want to be someone else's wife, mother, daughter, daughter-in-law, employee, and a good person who loves the earth every day. ”
These identities are all different social attributes of people, and stepping into society means that the evaluation criteria only depend on others.
It's hard to reconcile, and the more evaluators, the harder it is to get their approval.
The more easily people are ignored as the "self" of the individual.
Jian Qingfen has tried hard enough to find happiness in her ordinary life day after day, taking photos with her sleeping son and uploading photos to prove that she has a happy life.
But she hadn't felt "so happy" for a long time.
In other words, she lost interest in life and her fighting spirit, and no longer believed that tomorrow would be better.
The way she keeps herself motivated is to create an imaginary enemy: Rebecca.
What kind of life is this husband's beautiful ex-girlfriend, her former rival, living now?
Through the dynamics of social software, Jian Qingfen found that Rebecca was already financially free, not only had a deposit of NT$18 million, but also had a boyfriend who was ten years younger, and there were surprises every day.
Comparison is often the beginning of a nightmare.
Especially when you find that the other party is better off than you, no matter how kind you are, you will inevitably wonder at a certain moment: Did she steal my life?
If you hadn't married He Ruizhi, would your life have been different?
is completely different from Jian Qingfen's "envy, jealousy and hate", Rebecca's life is far less glamorous than her social dynamics.
NT$18 million deposit?NONONO, this is Rebecca's target deposit, and she may not have anything to do with this deposit in her life.
NONONO, HER LIFE IS IN A SITUATION EVERY DAY, THE LANDLORD'S SON IS GETTING MARRIED, AND SHE WANTS TO MOVE OUT OF THE NEWLY RENOVATED HOUSE.
HAS A HANDSOME BOYFRIEND WHO IS TEN YEARS YOUNGER THAN HER?NONO.,JUST A FRIEND WHO HELPS.。
After that, she devoted herself to her work, and when she could finally be praised as an "elite", she became a lonely "old woman".
Colleagues said that she was beautiful and capable, and if she wasn't old, she would really chase her; the subordinate assistant said that she was so busy that she had no friends, and she ate by herself......
In Rebecca's view, one person only needs to solve the problem of loneliness, but two people will have more trouble together.
But the crux of the problem is that she can't solve the problem of "loneliness".
Although she got rid of the harm of her original family, she worked hard to complete socialization, lived a life of "rich and leisure", and easily won the current season's trendy brand.
But the sudden collapse of the hanger, the sudden appearance of a former friend's confidant, and the pain after an accidental fall can all shatter her.
In her own words, it was "I'm tired, I don't know where it started, but I'm just tired".
Therefore, she often recalls He Ruizhi's kindness to herself.
In the difficult life of moving forward alone, it was one of the few sweetness she could recall.
It is terrible not to be loved, but what is even more terrible is that the instinct of love has no sustenance.
This sentence is applicable to both Jian Qingfen and Rebecca, but unlike Rebecca, who can get emotional value from her relationship with He Ruizhi, Jian Qingfen gets "hurt".
She took advantage of He's mother's joy to get on the throne, and she got married without talking to He Ruizhi for a few days about decent love.
Through social software, they both know that the other is paying attention to them, but their lives are more unbearable than each other imagined.
Rebecca often says, thankful for herself twelve years ago.
For young women, as we enter middle age, do we thank ourselves for our past choices?
Marriage or celibacy, which can make you happier?
The answer varies, but there may be a consensus -
"When there are several paths in the forest in front of you, do not beautify any unchosen paths. ”
The latest part of the broadcast has sent "We Are Not Kind Enough" to the hot search, but this time it is not a compliment.
Jian Qingfen's derailment, Rebecca's cancer, He Ruizhi's cold and violent ...... Gradually, there is a suspicion of becoming unbearable and clichéd.
Indeed, frankly, the show is not perfect.
The routine of "two women fighting for one man" Taiwanese idol drama was filmed badly more than ten years ago, and cheating, cancer, and making things difficult for mother-in-law are also the old three.
But compared with many so-called "female group dramas", "We Are Not Kind Enough" is still real and daring to say.
On the poster, the three heroines each hold a black umbrella, blocking the words of "I'm sorry for raising your parents if you don't get married", "Career and family, women always have to choose one", "It's better to marry well than to do well".
But the plot focuses on how Wang Manni faced the Sea King, how Gu Jia broke into the circle of rich wives, and how to tear up the green tea Xiaosanlin Youyou.
In the end, Gu Jia's cheating husband Xu Huanshan's company went bankrupt and went to prison, and her unintentional company made a lot of money, while Zhong Xiaoqin published a bestseller with her amateur writing that didn't practice for a few days, got millions of royalties, and lived with her husband Meimei.
The so-called female group drama is that the disgusting old man and the cheating husband have evil retribution, and the beautiful self is either financially free, or a windfall, or a happy life.
Cool is cool, and it is inevitable to be suspended.
In the same way, the filming of the fifth part of "Ode to Joy" is becoming more and more false and exaggerated, and the main creator seems to have never suffered a little from work.
Yang Zi's new drama "The Story of Cheng Huan", Mai Chenghuan just refused a job with a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan, and he met a rich and handsome person who was stupid and had a lot of money, single and dedicated.
On the other hand, although the Taiwanese dramas in the past few years are not perfect, they continue to explore some women's issues, presenting many different life samples.
Whether it is "The Raising of a Vulgar Girl", which follows the flow of life and family, or "She and Hers", which takes the direction of social issues, they all shoot the social dilemmas faced by mature women and how to make choices that meet their hearts in this environment.
Why are these dramas rated so high?
The answer is so simple that the main creator of the so-called big heroine drama in the mainland is embarrassed to admit it-
The real human nature and the unpredictable human heart are far more exciting than the heroine's cool drama.
Because the real us is likely to be the same as the Chinese and English titles of the show: "We Are Not Good Enough" and Imperfect Us.
In the latest two episodes last weekend, He's mother, who lives alone in an elderly person, fell in the bathroom and was sentenced to be confined to a wheelchair after being taken to the hospital.
Jian Qingfen, who once said that she was unwilling to be trapped in the house day after day, no longer monitors Rebecca's social dynamics from time to time, regards taking care of her mother-in-law as her primary goal, and takes care of her eating, drinking, and sleeping every day.
The balance under the boring life is even more shaky after the mother-in-law is sick.
The small family could not afford the babysitter, so she quit her job, the responsibility of caring for the paralyzed elderly was transferred to her, and she had to endure her husband's secret poke and complain that if she had lived with He's mother, she would not have been in the hospital.
When his son Bubu heard Jian Qingfen arguing in the bathroom about incontinence, He's mother, persuaded his mother to be kind to his grandmother.
But when he walked barefoot to the door of the bathroom and stepped on the stool flowing out of the water, he suddenly broke his defense and cried.
"Mom, what should I do, I seem to have stepped on poop. ”
Just now, as a grandson, there is no filial piety, only the self that cares about himself and needs the help of others.
It is far easier to condemn a person than to understand a person. But loving someone all the time is far more difficult than falling in love with someone.
At Jian Qingfen's most devastating moment, she cheated.
She doesn't love the cheating partner at all, but she needs the other party's "easy to understand".
She didn't feel pleasure either, she was just taking revenge on He Ruizhi who didn't love her by saying this established fact to her face.
For years, Jian Qingfen has been attached to He Ruizhi and Rebecca.
On her birthday, she kept eating Rebecca's favorite birthday cake, and when she wore an engagement ring, Jian Qingfen had a lot of effort.
Although this is a "fact" in her own perspective.
But the ring that didn't fit her hand was like a perfect symbol of her unsatisfactory marriage.
Even if you can put it on, only you know if it hurts.
The commonly used metaphor in the play is "Schrödinger's cat", which refers to the cat being in a superposition of dead and alive before opening the box.
What about "us who are not kind enough", what kind of life should we choose to live, and what kind of life can we live?
Frankly speaking, I myself was a mess, and I could only find some answers from books when I thought about it.
Set a goal for yourself to keep your morale high.
As Stetson wrote:
"Many people say that they can't see the future, but they actually see the future, and the only certainty of life is an uncertain life, so be bold to do whatever you want, live in the moment, and grasp the beauty of everything around you. ”