Unexpectedly, the chill of the financial salary cut tide has now blown into the marriage market.
Two days ago, in my financial circle, there was a young man who worked in a bank, and suddenly asked, can you still get along with each other now?
This question made the group that had been silent for a long time suddenly become active again, and several group members began to sigh that because of their work in the financial circle, they are no longer welcome in the blind date market......
You know, in the past two years, there were hundreds of conversations every day in my singles group, and the mainstream topics exchanged by friends in the financial circle in the group were how to find a high-quality other half, how to refuse the overtures of a blind date, and how to report the good news that I successfully got off the list in the group.
It's only been a long time, the style of painting has changed, and those financial people who have survived the salary cut and unemployment have suddenly stood at the bottom of the blind date contempt chain.
Quite suddenly......
According to the bank guys in the group, their bank has been jointly organizing a blind date with a university over the years, so that the young men and women of their respective units can get to know each other, and there are a lot of participants every year, and it has indeed contributed to some happy marriages, and both parties are happy.
But this year, the blind date party organized by the bank, on the day of the event, there was not a single girl who came, and the leaders of the industry felt that they couldn't hold their faces, so they asked the cooperative universities, and the feedback from the leaders of the colleges and universities was that the female teachers did not want to come after learning about the current situation of the financial circle through various channels......
A young colleague next to me expressed the same anxiety as me.
As a nearly 30-year-old young man in the financial circle, he has never taken the blind date to heart, after all, the "financial man" has been the popular king of mate selection over the years, as long as there are no obvious shortcomings, he basically does not worry about finding a girlfriend.
But recently, the business has been weak, the mentality is not good, he has been empty for a long time, and his friends around him have introduced him to a few blind date bureaus one after another, he did not refuse, and there is a little flutter, thinking that the east is not bright and the west is bright, in case he can make progress emotionally, and solve the problem of marriage and love, it is also a harvest of the financial downward cycle.
But he didn't think about it, he was still going with the mentality of picking and picking, but he encountered the Waterloo of a blind date, and the two girls who went on a blind date one after another asked him clear questions:
"Is there any guarantee of your income in the future?"
In addition, although he has a real estate, he has a mortgage of several million, and after the blind date girl found out, she also expressed her doubts:
"How much is the monthly mortgage, how long does it take, and can I pay it back?"
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My colleague has never seen this kind of battle, and the beautiful vision of love turned into bubbles in an instant after the other party's questions one after another......
He said that he almost ran away because he couldn't give himself the answers to the questions asked by the girls.
In the coming year, where is he, how much can he earn, how much can he repay the mortgage, if he can't really stand on his own career and material, how to give an answer to a girl who is in the prime of her youth and has clear material expectations for you?
Another male industry I know told me that he was already on the road to a successful blind date, and now that he looks at it, the future has become confusing.
His blind date was introduced by the parents of both parties, and the family conditions of the two families are relatively matched, and they are all ordinary people, and they are more than enough than the bottom.
The girl on the blind date and he have made several appointments since last year, and in the process of gradually heating up, the other party's parents are also very helpful, every time they see him, they greet him with a smile, and they usually say that he is good in front of the girls.
But since the beginning of this year, the market environment has deteriorated, the financial industry has begun to decline, and his public fund has cut salaries and laid off employees one after another, and there have been a lot of negatives, although it has no direct impact on him, his work is still stable, and his fixed salary has not dropped too much, but he obviously feels that the girl has become oblivious to him, and the other party's parents have met by chance, and they have become indifferent and polite.
No one asked about his salary direction, and no one asked about his industry changes, but he inquired from the side that the girl's parents were already arranging a blind date for him with the technology giants in the chip industry. The reason why he didn't make it clear was because he could also be a spare tire for the time being.
The spare tire has been calculated, and as far as I know, there are many people in the financial circle who have been broken up, especially the male industry.
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After all, in this real society, everyone is very shrewd, no one wants to suffer, a high salary is plus, and a salary cut is of course a negative score, who would want to mourn their future married life for poor couples?
Therefore, the other half who is not emotionally in place, and the rationality is greater than the emotional, proposes to break up at this time and then find someone else, and there is nothing morally to blame. It's all a blind date market with a clear price, who can say who?
Will you go on a blind date after breaking up? Everyone said that they don't want to get hurt anymore, and if they have the time and energy, it is more important to keep their jobs first......
The reality is so cruel, I don't know, seeing this, the mentality of my peers in the financial circle is about to collapse.
Don't collapse, there are always good and bad in everything, judging from the current situation, the wave of financial salary cuts is indeed not conducive to blind dates, but there is also a good.
Positive – Marriage, and even to some extent, it protects marriage.
Of course, this refers specifically to crisis marriages.
A happy marriage, happy love, mutual support, no matter what the material, can always find a reason to stick together.
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But a marriage in crisis is not, when it is precarious, any little wind and grass will change the direction of the relationship between two people.
The former financial circle was a vanity fair, and the temptation of money and fame made many financial people, especially financial men, gradually unable to find the north and lost their direction.
Because of their busy work, they travel all day and work overtime, and they rarely take care of their families.
Because of the pursuit of wealth, they are accustomed to packaging themselves with famous brands and showing off, and they are greasy.
Because they are familiar with trading, they are accustomed to conducting risk assessment and analysis of input-output ratios in everything.
also because it was too easy to earn a high salary, causing some people to start to become impetuous, and even become scumbags......
But now, the salary is less, the income is less, and the industry is facing a crisis, which is like a slap in the face, waking up many people who are addicted to it.
More and more people are beginning to realize that the dazzling light they have obtained in the past is not because of their own ability, but because of the dividends of the times and the industry.
More and more people are beginning to find that when they are in adversity, the only thing that can bring them comfort is their family, only their other half.
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In addition, now that the overall consumption of the financial industry has been downgraded, there are many fewer drinks, dinners and entertainment activities, and endless meaningless business trips have also been banned, so there is naturally a lot more time to spend with family.
There is a rule that has never changed: the more positive feedback a person gets from where, the more he will spend his attention and time.
Therefore, when the financial person receives more and more positive feedback from the family, the more he will cherish the family, pay attention to and contribute to the family.
Naturally, some unprincipled marital crises have been resolved.
It's not something I'm fooling around, it's the real experience and feelings of many of my friends around me.
In the past year, some people have withdrawn their divorce lawsuits, some people have begun to show affection together, and some people have taken the opportunity to have a baby and upgrade their family model.
How to say it, I admit that this is not a good way to manage marriage and love, but by mistake, it has become one, perhaps the only one, under the financial downturn - a positive effect.
A little embarrassed, a little emotional, a little unsure of what to say.
This may be what we often say, there are "two sides to the same thing".
Although today's wave of salary cuts has affected the blind date of financial people, it has also inadvertently protected the marriage of financial people.
After all, the era of love and water is long gone, and the current love and marriage are more about equal and evenly matched.
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If it is said that in the former marriage and love market, the reason why financial people are recognized and sought after by everyone is high salary, wealth, and the material value he provides.
Under the irresistible tide of salary cuts in the future, what can we provide to each other in addition to explicit value?
This is probably the question that every one of us in this situation should ask ourselves......