Orison Madden writes in The Capital of a Life:
"At no time should all actions be subject to one's own emotions, but in turn they should be controlled. ”
In fact, each of us is dealing with our emotions all the time.
It's just that, many times, some people can't even perceive its existence, and only when the emotions explode and have a huge destructive force, do they regret it and know the pain.
The most important ability of adults is to be able to have a sense of emotional resilience.
The stronger the emotional resilience, the stronger the ability to control emotions.
Then, in the midst of all kinds of setbacks and pains, he returned to a healthy state and a calm posture.
In this way, slowly equip yourself with the ability to overcome any difficulties.
In this way, you can be the opponent of life.
When your emotions get out of control, your life gets out of control
The more easily a person loses control of his emotions, the more often his life falls into a state of uncontrolled chaos.
And such a state of life will definitely make you feel bad, and you will definitely make yourself unhappy.
This is also the reason why most people feel that they are unhappy and unhappy all their lives.
In fact, the answer is very simple, if you want to make yourself happier, be happier.
Well, the first thing you have to do is to keep your emotions calm and calm.
Then, without you having to do anything, or thinking about anything, let alone saying anything, the taste of happiness can flow from the depths of your quiet heart.
This is the best emotional state of a person.
Benjamin Franklin said:
"The man in the midst of rage is riding a crazy horse. ”
In fact, many times, people can't control their anger, and even go to the verge of breaking down.
The reason is that I am too easy to be seen, evaluated, and benefited by others, and at the same time, I am too easy to be constantly teased and consumed by myself in terms of desire and various pressures.
Eventually, when I couldn't regulate, and even felt more and more painful and angry, I exploded completely.
Psychologist Shirley Hamby has noted:
Self-regulation is the ability to maintain emotions, cognition, and control behavior, even in stressful situations.
The more people are emotionally out of control, the more irritable and uncalm their mentality is.
And at this time, the cognitive ability may be zero, the idea of control is almost none, only thinking about breaking the jar and breaking it, only thinking about seeing more serious things happen.
In "The Power of Positive Emotions", there is this passage:
"We don't feel positive emotions because we have a full life and good health, but we feel positive emotions from the bottom of our hearts to create a full and healthy life. ”
I deeply believe that a person who can live transparently will never feel that life is hopeful, and life is full of sunshine and positivity because he has a full life and a healthy body.
Rather, it is always believed that only when a person has positive emotions and positive energy mentality, can his life and body present a full, even complete, state.
This kind of life is really worth living, and it is really worth fighting for and paying.
The more emotionally resilient you are, the better your life will be
Is life good? In fact, it depends on a person's comprehensive ability.
But in this comprehensive ability, the most important thing is a person's emotional recovery ability.
If you always have a state of being in a balanced, even very relaxed, state of your emotions.
Then your life will definitely be able to live a more calm, fulfilling, and more healthy and satisfying life.
Shakespeare said:
"Whoever can remain calm in the midst of consternation, steady in the face of anger, and sober in the midst of anger is the real hero. ”
A person with stronger emotional resilience is able to reconcile with his emotions, and even be friends with emotions, exert the positive energy of emotions, and truly make his life better in reality.
When people are not doing well, the most specific problem actually appears in emotions.
If we know how to deal with emotions and manage them well, then we have mastered a kind of strength to control pain and happiness.
As the famous American psychologist Anthony Robbins said:
"The secret of success is knowing how to control the forces of pain and pleasure without being countered by them. ”
Then, as your emotions become calmer and more stable, you can create a more focused and professional ability in related work.
At the same time, it also allows your life to be in a healthy and positive state for a long time.
In the end, your life will be smoother and better.
Emotional resilience is the medicine for life
Whether a person's emotional resilience is strong or not determines whether he is happy in life or not.
The stronger his emotional resilience, the higher his quality of life.
Harvard professor Rosa Beth once said that resilience is the new skill of modern man.
It can be said that in the face of all kinds of pressures in life, as well as all kinds of troubles in life, we don't need to think so much and think so much.
We just have to calm down, settle down slowly, and work hard to improve ourselves, and eventually you will find that your life has become more normal and healthier.
Moreover, I will become more motivated, hopeful, hopeful, and even more confident.
Zweig wrote:
Silence is a powerful atmosphere, like a bottle full of liquid, and after shaking, sediment will appear once it is resting.
The same is true of people, who can highlight true sobriety by calming their thoughts after turmoil.
So, always believe that if you can build strong emotional resilience, your life and life will be transformed.
And this change will definitely be able to bring you more shock, hope and satisfaction.