From a psychological point of view, there are significant differences in the thinking patterns of men and women. This is the main reason why many men fail to win the hearts and minds of their hearts. You will provide what you think women need, but for women, it is not necessarily necessary. We need to better understand women's needs in order to better connect with them.
In a husband and wife relationship, understanding each other's real needs and dealing with problems according to the situation often results in twice the result with half the effort.
If it's just a one-sided effort, even if your conditions are good, you won't necessarily get the rewards you deserve. In interpersonal communication, we should focus on mutual giving and understanding, rather than blindly giving in one direction. In this way, good friendships and relationships can be established.
It can even make them feel irritated and uncomfortable, causing them to want to stay away from you. We need to be mindful of our actions and words to ensure that the other person is comfortable and relaxed, thus enhancing our friendship.
If you want to pursue the lady you want, you should think from her point of view, better understand her real needs, and then pay in a targeted manner. Doing so can greatly increase the likelihood of success.
To a certain extent, to understand women's psychology, they don't need to throw money hard, as long as they are given two feelings, which is what they really need in a relationship.
One: Give her a sense of ritual and let her feel your intentions
How important is ritual in a relationship? In Why We Need Rituals, Lorelis Singerhoff wrote:
"A life with a sense of ritual makes us really have a sense of existence. It's not about leaving any impression on others, but about your own heart that truly perceives life and faces it with enthusiasm. ”
In his view, the sense of ritual is a symbol of our existence and an indispensable driving force in feelings.
Especially women in love, once they give their true affection, they crave the love of men. This need needs to be met.
During a relationship, women expect their lover to understand their needs and keep their habits in mind. This is a normal human emotion, so men should pay more attention to the details of women and take better care of their emotional needs.
It is precisely those gentle details of men that make women truly feel happy.
In an intimate relationship, a sense of ritual is the secret to injecting new energy into each other and keeping love fresh. If a man can show his attention in a sense of ritual, a woman will be deeply moved. For a couple, waking up early to enjoy a cup of coffee together or preparing a gourmet dinner on a regular basis are rituals that enhance the sense of the relationship. These small rituals make love full of freshness and can also make a deeper emotional connection between two people.
Women who are really emotional about you, when they accept gifts prepared by men, they do not focus on value, but on the degree of care of men. If women only pursue material benefits in love, then they will only care about the material wealth given by the man, and do not care about whether the man is genuinely committed.
If a man wants a stable and long-lasting relationship, in addition to knowing how to give, he should also understand the emotional needs of women.
Love is a two-way street. The love concept of men and women must be consistent in order to withstand the test of life and stay together for a long time. It is a process that must be communicated together and clearly so that we can enjoy true love and happiness.
Two: Give her a sense of security and make her feel that you belong to her
Both men and women need to feel safe in a relationship.
For men who meet sensitive and fragile women in their relationships, they may show special jealousy and emotional dependence, and always want to show affection. Don't dislike them because they're clingy, and don't let their feelings hurt.
Only a woman who truly loves you will expect you to give her a sense of security because she is deeply in love with you and ready to spend the rest of her life with you.
What she expects of you is what a wife expects of her husband. She longs to feel safe from you because it will make her more determined that choosing you is the right decision.
A sense of belonging is a feeling of stability and warmth, and even if you meet someone better later, it will not be worse than you.
No matter how deeply a woman loves someone, she should be sober and sane. It is unnecessary to compromise for the sake of the so-called sense of security, and women should be true to themselves and not change themselves for the sake of men. In this way, you can maintain your self-esteem and independence, and you can get true happiness in love.
It is important to understand that an individual's most reliable sense of security always comes from within. Only when the ego is strong can one keep not losing oneself in the journey of life.
Lu Sihao wrote in the book "May someone accompany you to wander away":
"Even if you're still alone, don't rush into the arms of the next person for the sake of a so-called sense of security. The sense of security has always been given to oneself, and only by giving oneself a sense of security can you meet someone you don't need to please and meet someone who is on the same frequency as you. ”
In a relationship, we want our partner to give us a sense of "security". But remember not to pin all your happiness on the other person, as this will only make you more vulnerable. In love, we should learn to be independent and constantly improve our lives, so that we can move towards true happiness.
Life is long, and for some people, love is an important part of life, while for others, it is just a spice for life.
Even if we haven't met true love yet, we must pay attention to managing our own lives and seriously cultivate our own qualities, so that we can meet better people.
For the rest of our lives to come, may we all be able to find someone who truly belongs to us.
If you don't find a love partner for a while, then love yourself well. After all, only loving yourself is the beginning of lifelong happiness. Only by being aware of this will we not fall into the quagmire of losing ourselves in the pursuit of love.