Sociologist Li Yinhe once said: "Anyone who has loved knows that love and non-love are as clear as black and white, as clear as the nicks of a knife and an axe." ”
Why, then, do so many people still deceive themselves in their daily lives?
stubbornly loves someone who doesn't love him, and tells himself that as long as he gives enough, the other party will always be moved.
Doing so will only get you deeper and deeper, so it's recommended not to stick to it.
It's futile to try to touch someone who doesn't love you, just like you can't wait for a ship at the airport. Also, waking up someone who is pretending to be asleep is also never possible, no matter how much effort you put in or how much effort you put in. This is an immutable fact that we must face and make appropriate adjustments.
Only by stopping losses at the right time can you focus on yourself and live a precious life.
If you want to know if your loved one loves you too, you can offer two requests and pay attention to his reaction. People who love you will behave unpretentiously, and people who don't love you will not be able to disguise their true feelings. It's a simple but effective way to better understand the other person's thoughts and emotions.
The second one, in particular, can explain the problem in its entirety, and I just hope you can be honest.
One: Asked him to make your relationship public, but he didn't agree
In the TV series "The Temptation to Go Home", the male protagonist Hong Shixian and his wife Lin Pinru's friend Ellie talk about an extramarital affair. When Ellie asks him if he really loves him, he says that as long as the two of them are happy together, why bother with whether they are true love?
The reason why he replied this was not because he didn't think it mattered whether he loved or not, but because he had no feelings for Ellie.
Men who don't love you usually don't open up about your relationship because they're worried about affecting their popularity. Maybe they already have a family and are therefore not willing to be responsible for you.
If a man is acting vague about you and is unsure of your relationship, it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't love you. This could be because he is too shy, or afraid of taking responsibility, or out of various other concerns. We need to understand and support Him patiently, slowly moving towards a more stable and clear relationship.
In this case, it is necessary to take the initiative to reveal the relationship so that the blurred boundaries between you can develop further.
If a woman plays a leading role in this process, and the man has a good opinion of her at this time, there is a good chance that he will receive a positive response.
If a man half-pushes or doesn't respond when a woman has expressed the courage to move forward in the relationship and makes the relationship clear, I'm afraid he doesn't have any feelings for you.
Keeping friends above and lovers is not necessarily an intention. Many people in modern society feel empty and lonely, and even if they have no feelings for someone, they may maintain some patterns of getting along beyond normal boundaries out of loneliness and boredom. This is not surprising and there is nothing out of the ordinary.
If you think a guy has signaled to you but ends up with no follow-up, and no matter how much you try to convey the signal, he doesn't respond, then it's likely that he's not interested in you.
For an unintentional person, no matter how much you wait, it will become meaningless, and you will only let yourself fall into self-emotion. If you meet a man who doesn't respond to you like this, it's wise to let it go as soon as possible. After all, there is no need to waste time and energy on someone who is not interested.
Two: I asked him to take you to meet your parents and talk about marriage, but he refused
When a woman genuinely likes someone, she is bound to think about marrying him. This deep love gives her a sense of security and belonging, and she wants happiness not only now, but also a better future.
Some men don't really treat you sincerely, so they won't agree to talk to you about marrying. This is a very normal situation.
In general, when a woman looks to the future in front of a man, if the man truly loves her, he will be filled with longing and fantasies about the future like a woman. It's a beautiful thing to imagine the future with your lover.
If a person doesn't have someone he really loves and doesn't have a sincere person, it's like a senior high school student who hasn't studied hard and is not interested in talking about the college entrance examination at all. This person will not want to hear anything about the future.
When you are full of longing and planning for the future, you are ruthlessly poured cold water by men to dispel your enthusiasm. Well, you don't need to doubt that this man probably doesn't really love you.
In the classic Little Women, John is in love with Meg, the sister of the heroine Joe, but instead of immediately expressing his feelings, he quietly has a crush on her. This expresses his sincere affection for Meg and his respect for her.
He clearly realized that his current conditions were not enough to give Meg the ideal life. He would rather have enough power to take on the future of the two of them than simply confess or propose to Meg.
So he began to plan his career, and began to change jobs, get involved in the business world, and actively buy real estate. Such efforts have made him more successful in his career.
When everything was ready, he officially expressed his sincere love to Meg and succeeded in convincing her parents to agree to the marriage between them. This is what a man who really wants to spend his life with you should look like.
If I loved you, I would want to spend the rest of my life with you through the long years.
Those who are only cynical usually do not do much to show affection, only pay lip service to it.
Sometimes, when we know we love someone or not, we don't need to fool ourselves or indulge in our emotions.
If you meet someone who truly loves you, you don't even need to say what you want, because he will naturally give you everything. However, if you are faced with someone who does not love you, no matter how much you say it, it will not do anything, because he will still be indifferent to you. This is an important lesson in life.