I enjoy interacting with the elderly because they have been through half of their lives and have the wisdom and experience of life.
Those people and things that are difficult for young people to understand have long been known to them. Sometimes it only takes a few words to explain the true meaning of a thing.
There are many benefits to being with them, and you can sublimate your life unconsciously.
My grandfather was 80 years old, and he himself said that he had entered the old age of his life.
He thinks he has many regrets in his life, and when he was younger, he thought that many things were not important, and he didn't realize regrets until he was old. If I had realized it earlier, maybe I wouldn't have had such regrets.
According to this author, the way a person is truly smart is in the following three sentences. If you can realize this, maybe in your old age, you won't feel so many regrets.
The first sentence: Don't compare yourself with others, just do your best
In our human nature, there is a universal psychology - the desire to compare, and almost everyone has it. Since we are social animals, living in a social collective, and need external recognition and support, it is difficult to avoid comparing ourselves to others.
For this reason, many people are obsessed with comparing themselves to others, as if they are only successful if they are better than others.
Few people realize that we ourselves are the characters who dominate the world and have nothing to do with others.
The more you want to compare, the more it shows that you have no self-confidence in your heart, only people with low self-esteem will want to win over others, and people who really have a pattern and live well only focus on themselves.
No matter what age you are now, I want you to live your life well and avoid being overly compared to others.
When you surpass your past self, you have achieved something commendable.
Sentence 2: Don't mind other people's affairs, always be true to your heart
Marx once pointed out that individuals are constituted by the social relations in which they live.
Living in this world, it is impossible to be independent, and you must have some contact with others. Many people develop the habit of always caring about others, as if only by doing so can they prove their existence.
In interpersonal interactions, we need to maintain basic yardsticks and boundaries. If things don't concern you, there's no need to worry too much, otherwise it will only increase your burden and affect the original relationship. This is a relaxed and formal principle of intercourse that deserves to be adhered to.
Everyone has their own troubles, and we should focus on our own lives and not focus too much on others. Only by finding a solution to your own problems can you truly live the life you want.
If you stay true to your heart at all times, you won't waste a lot of time and energy and don't have to make your life empty.
The third sentence: Don't be too honest, be selfish appropriately, and live more comfortably
There is a saying that a kind person is easily deceived, and a gentle horse is easy to be ridden.
Sometimes, we are too honest and kind, and we let the bad guys get the most out of us. With a proper amount of selfishness and self-consideration, you can live life more easily and happily. This does not mean that we need to become selfish or unrighteous, but we need to learn to protect ourselves from being harmed by others.
Life can be divided into three main stages: past, present, and future. A person who is true to himself will have an unwavering belief in his heart that encourages him to move forward better in the future.
Many times, people experience feelings of confusion and anxiety. This does not mean that they have no hope for the future, but because they are accustomed to living in their comfort zone and are unwilling to take the initiative to challenge and explore the possibilities of the future.
Because they are afraid of the pain that failure may bring, they cannot bear the trials that success must undertake.
In this era of rapid change, we are faced with countless external temptations and the pace of rapid development, and if we want to avoid going astray and being eliminated by the times, we need to have the ability to be firm in our hearts and act quickly. Only in this way can we meet the challenges of the times, conform to the trend of the times, and move towards the road to success.
Of course, everyone is not required to have lofty ideals.
Some people like to live a leisurely life and enjoy the time of "floating life and stealing half a day of leisure", while some people yearn for a world without strife, like an ideal state like a "peach blossom paradise".
Individuals have the right to choose their own way of life, but they should do so thoughtfully and always remain firm in their hearts. At the same time, it is also necessary to be prepared for future consequences to avoid being dominated by life. Ultimately, everyone should respect their own rhythm and take responsibility for their own path.
Dale Carnegie, the famous master of interpersonal communication, said:
"Choose your favorite friends, be honest with each other, you will be happy because you are loved, choose your favorite lifestyle, follow your own rhythm, you will live calmly and truly, choose your true love, and be with him, the ordinary sun and moon can also be prosperous. ”
In life, we need to be good at making choices and finding the direction that suits us. On the other hand, we must also know how to cherish the happiness in front of us and not let it pass in vain. At the same time, learn to let go of past obsessions and not let them become shackles that bind our future happiness. Let's let go of our burdens and embrace a bright future.
As Feng Zikai said: "Don't mess with your heart, don't be trapped in love." Don't be afraid of the future, don't think of the past. ”
If life were like this, it would be extremely happy.