"I don't want to die", in 2013, a woman in Tianjin had a recurrence of cancer, and wanted her husband to sell her family's 1.2 million house to save her life.
The husband pretended to agree on the surface, but without the woman's knowledge, he hid with the real estate title certificate and wanted to sue for divorce.
In fact, if you want to talk about selfishness, who is not selfish, isn't this woman selfish? Obviously, there is not much hope, and you have to let your husband go bankrupt together, and in the end, if you leave, he will have to bear a debt.
To put it bluntly, she doesn't understand what the concept of terminal cancer is? It's not that her husband is selfish at all, it's her own selfishness. In the case that manpower is no longer possible, it is necessary to drag down the family.
As long as you are a responsible person, knowing that the days of terminal cancer are short, you will definitely leave your property to your family and give up treatment.
I also let myself go, the treatment is also very painful, I can prescribe some painkillers with peace of mind, explain the future, or see if I can leave some memories for the child.
In this matter, the house cannot be sold out of rational considerations, at least leave a shelter for the children and husbands.
Out of sensibility, couples should give their best treatment, even if they don't have anything in the end. But the reality is cruel, and in the end, I will consider it rationally.
Recurrence of advanced cancer is not a big problem, it is no possibility of survival, if it can be treated, I believe her husband will not be like this, this is a disease that obviously cannot be cured, it is really trying to make an adult lose his family.
It's an advanced stage of cancer! There is no cure for it in the advanced stage, it has spread uncontrollably! Doctors can't look at it directly! The hospital is willing to help.
It's just a matter of putting on a show and a placebo to squeeze out the last copper plate! You should see the patients celebrate behind closed doors with rich, bloody money after they die!
Cancer is in the terminal stage, it is already a countdown to death, it is impossible to cure, there is no hope, there is absolutely no money and people, why give away your hard-earned money to the hospital?
But wherever there is hope, it will be cured, and it is a bit selfish to empty the family and pull the living people on the back of the family if the cancer recurs.
I don't think the man is ruthless, he spent all his savings to see a doctor, and even went into debt, and the man didn't say a word. What makes the man feel cold is that the woman already knows that she can't be saved in the late stage, but she has never thought about it for the man, and even wants her husband to go bankrupt.
She only thought about herself, not about her children. She probably thought so, first sold the house, and then healed the disease, and everyone was happy when the disease was cured.
If it is not cured, his husband owes a lot of debts, and his husband will not be able to marry other women without a house or money, so that her children will not have stepmothers, and they can rely on his husband for their lives.
This man himself will not think more about how he will live, the two of them have children! The first thing that will affect the lives of the children is the first thing that will be affected.
For an adult man, the money is gone, it is not a big deal, and the child is greatly affected. It's pitiful enough to have no mother, and the living conditions are also poor, poor and white, what will I do in the future.
And his husband didn't refuse to treat her, he had already sold everything he could, leaving the only house left, and after selling the house, the husband said, what should the children do? Will they go to school? Do they want their husbands and children to spend their whole lives for an incurable disease? Who is selfish?
If the cure rate is higher than 20%, many people will buy all their possessions for the sake of their wives, and I am willing to fight with her for the 20% chance.
But now that I have understood that there is no hope, it is really unnecessary to come to the bankrupt Boyi, not to mention that he has already been saddled with debts, one-fifth is good, and some may only be one-tenth or even less, and the recurrence rate is too high. It's really hard to choose, and I'll just give up if I say it myself.
It's late, it's irrational to sell a house, think about your children, how does your husband live and still have debts, when the time comes, people and money are empty, even the land where they live is gone, and the children still have to go to school and have a household registration, it's my words that are also this choice, I think most people also have this idea.
Having a terminal illness is not that you don't want to die and won't die, spending money on the treatment of terminal cancer is a fantasy, and in the end, people and money are empty, have you considered for the living, for your children, and you can't be cured if you sell your house, everyone in the world knows this, you can't say that human nature is cold, you can only say that you are helpless.
Everyone has the desire to survive, and if the house is the joint property of the husband and wife, she has the right to dispose of her part, and if the husband is unwilling to use his part for treatment, there is nothing to blame.
Knowing that the child is still young, knowing that he is terminal! Knowing that the hospital has nothing to do with advanced cancer except for high fees, and still selling the house? The man himself can still say, what about the child?
Everyone is afraid of death, which is understandable. If selling a house can be cured half the time, it must be cured. But even if you sell your house, you can't cure it, or just prolong your life for a year or two, it's really unnecessary.
How will your husband live and how will your children live after you leave? It's better to eat and drink in your limited life, and live the rest of your life happily.
Isn't this woman selfish when she says her husband is selfish? It has deteriorated, and she still wants to sell the only house she can give up her hands on, and she keeps saying that she is reluctant to give up her husband and children.
If you die without treatment, or if you sell your house with enough money to last and you run out of money, what do you do for your husband and children in the future, and where do they live?
If it can be cured, it will be cured a long time ago, and it will not reach the point of recurrence and spread, since it is already an advanced stage, then don't drag down your family, knowing that selling the house is also a waste of time, why do you want to kidnap your family morally in turn?
If the husband is a kind person, he will not bear the medical expenses for you at first, but he is more sober and selfish with this woman.
No one is right or wrong, and no one is selfish, I sympathize with women and understand men. Now from the perspective of the female protagonist, who doesn't want to live a few more days, everyone has the desire to survive, and from the perspective of the male protagonist, I know that the heroine's cancer can't be cured, and I also want to leave a way back for myself and my children.
If you really want this family to be better, then you can only blame your own life. You can't blame anyone. Terminal cancer is a thing that no country in the world can cure so far.
Rich antibiotic injections allow you to live for an extra year and a half, and those who have no money lie at home for half a month glorious mission, mainly because they don't get medical treatment at all, it's not that they don't want to be treated. Those who have a lot of money can only spend money to look at the time of each day, but what do the poor think? You can't blame anyone. I can only blame myself for being born in the wrong place.
The recurrence is not curable, her husband can't accept it emotionally, but from the actual situation, you can't say that it's wrong, you let your husband sell the house and live there with your children?
The key is that once cancer recurs, it cannot be cured, so do you have to let your family go bankrupt? Aren't you selfish? If you want to eat something, let your family buy you something. Live one day at a time, save one day, and don't be too selfish if you want to open something. Don't think about anything else for your children's parents and families.
My friend's sister just got cancer in her early 20s, and it was time for the doctor to seek medical treatment, and then it spread, and her family said that she would take her to the doctor by smashing the pot and selling iron, and she herself said: If you don't go, the doctor will bankrupt and the family will not be able to heal, and there are two younger brothers at home who are studying.
If I go to the doctor, they won't be able to read by then, and that's not what I want to see. After a year, she left, and during her illness, she endured severe pain and went to work, so distressed, she refused to ask her to recuperate at home.
Because she has no money to spend, at least she has money to go to work, because she knows that she still owes a lot of money in her savings in order to treat her, pitiful, so sensible at a young age.
No one wants to go to the moment when their family is ruined and people die, knowing that they can't do it are stupid, and when people's lives will always come to an end, what is there to be afraid of? In the end, dust will return to dust, and dust will return to earth.