Someone once said, don't try to rely on anyone, don't pin your happiness on others, you can always rely on yourself.
So, whether a person is happy or not doesn't have much to do with your partner, it depends more on yourself, no matter who you live with.
In fact, they have lived with themselves, this is the truth of marriage. Marriage is not your savior, you are your savior.
Inside and outside the siege, there is no one else but yourself, and loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
In fact, we have to understand a truth, even if you go back in time, let you go back to your youth and start over, and tell you what you have experienced, you still can't live a good life.
When you meet the right person, you will be happy for three generations, and if you meet the wrong person, you will destroy three generations, your parents will be your own generation, and your children will be in your own generation, don't believe it. No matter how hard you work, how good and cheerful you are, if he or she messes up, you will never be able to turn over.
How to choose the question of life will have regrets, in the dead of night to take out the heart, sew and mend, wake up is a hundred times more confident, life to open the road in the mountains, meet the water to build a bridge. Self-crossing is the ability, and crossing people is the pattern.
If you don't get married because you're young, you want to get married because you're old, and people at 30 can't feel the pain of being 60, just like we can't predict the ups and downs of real estate.
There are reasons to be single, and marriage has the sweetness and sourness of marriage. If the people who love you the most in this world are your parents, I believe they will force you to get married.
It may be very annoying to you, but they will definitely not hurt you. Even though they have worked hard for you all their lives, they still love you deeply!
The greatest love in this world is the love of parents! The happiest thing is when children and grandchildren are on their knees!
The happiness of a marriage depends on how much you give for your family and for each other, not how much you expect to get. As long as you make the other person happy, you will find that you are also in full bloom unconsciously.
Mountains have mountain roads, water has waterways, people can't all be crowded on one road, there are people everywhere, you stand on the mountain and envy the sea, you want to go ashore in the sea, they are all here to experience, how you choose how to go, keep moving forward, right is right, wrong is wrong, anyway, in the end they are all different paths.
Since it's a hypothesis, it's good to assume that after three years, you get married, go home, wash away the fatigue of the day, and relax all at once. Isn't it good that the babysitter serves you a steaming meal, and the child comes over and rubs your shoulders and back?
When you work with someone without considering their feelings, you will be hurt by others. It is impossible to love yourself if you think more about others. Marriage is also cooperation, if there is a lack of cooperation, you can't love yourself too much, and only the value exchange is basically equal to live in harmony. Life is a calamity, and happiness is an ability.
Whether you go left or right, there are different scenery on the left and right. If you know whether it is a blessing or not, you will be at peace with what you encounter. Think about it carefully, thirty years later, the retired couple will go to every corner with their retirement salary.
Accompanying each other, as well as the greetings sent by children and grandchildren from time to time, look at the single one, no one takes care of him when he is sick, no matter how tired and difficult he is, he has to bear the helplessness of all life, walking alone, cooking alone, staying alone in an empty room, serving his parents alone, lonely!
More than 30 years ago, one of the most critical girls in our class retired, and when she graduated from college, the ratio of men and women was seriously imbalanced, there were very few female college students, and a large number of male students pursued her, and she always disliked and disgusted that, so she has not married to this day.
She also doesn't have any dealings with any classmates, and the relationship with her parents and brother-in-law is also very tense, the original cheerful person feels more and more lonely, and she is alone all day long, it is said that after the age of forty, she is also eager to start a family, helpless, she can't look down on the poor, and the good ones would rather find a broken family than look for her.
During this period, she didn't raise a child, so she lived alone! It didn't mean anything to think about, and she didn't feel how happy she was!
No matter how you choose in life, there are times when you regret it, many people have been regretting, but they have been choosing, continue to regret, continue to choose, people, there are always troubles.
Whoever doesn't regret his life, who has no regrets in his life, so don't be too entangled, don't embarrass yourself, laugh if you can, cry loudly if you want to, eat when you can, sleep when you can, and just live with one.
And marriage is different, they all graduated from the acting department before marriage, and they are original after marriage. In ancient times, it was advocated that the family should be the right person and pay attention to the family style, and it was often strangers who began to get along and slowly ran in, and life may become more and more integrated.
Modern is free love, people go to a high place, the other party's family style may not be matched, two people have experienced the best time, after marriage in the day after day get along, the shortcomings of both parties will be revealed, the result is not better only worse, mutual dislike is destined for the disharmony of the day.
Unmarried, married, loved or unloved! In short, the fact that it is not true or has been achieved, although it may not be satisfactory, at least there is peace of mind!
What I am most afraid of is that it seems to be a fact, it is indeed floating, it seems to be beautiful, and there is indeed no place for peace in the heart!
Nowadays, people pay too much attention to personal feelings and gains and losses, and in the process of constantly calculating, they lose the courage to choose, the sweetness after hard work, and the epiphany of being born and entering the world, and as a result, they are not satisfied with anything, and they will always have only worries about themselves.
"Naturally", there is a give-and-go in life, for the trade-offs, no shame, no regrets, low-key, high-profile, high-profile work, that can only be done meticulously, because details determine success or failure.
Everyone has the right to choose life, maybe this choice is unsatisfactory, but life is their own, a person's life is only a few decades, if you are not happy every day, what is the joy of life?
The biggest pain of the Chinese is that they attach too much importance to utilitarianism. Look at India, Thailand, Sri Lanka, although the material is not as good as ours, but others are really happy and happy in this life.
Give each other enough space, everyone is happy, people have to learn to be alone, occasionally the two of them can stay fresh together, why should they be together all the time. After all, those who want to stay can't be driven away, and those who want to leave can't be kept.
There is no absolute right or wrong in many things, but we have only one life, and we can only choose from several choices, so there will always be regrets.
A person's life is sometimes gambling, the intertwined life of two people, more changes, and even a leveraged bet. Happiness is a feeling that is affected externally, but originates internally.
In this life, there are too many unsatisfactory things. But think about it, Wuhou didn't see Chang'an Yue until he died, can we at least buy a high-speed rail ticket, isn't it much luckier than him?
Being single has the freedom of being single, getting married has the happiness of marriage, and the other half who can match and get along with himself has something he deserves to like.
Young people nowadays don't know when it is appropriate to get married? Some are urged by their families to marry for their families. Some get married for the sake of face......
In fact, you just need to know that when you meet that person, you will be happier than when you were alone, live better than when you were alone, and live harder than before.
It shows that there are no major differences in the personality and three views of the two people, and if they are both positive, they can start a family. Don't look for people who are emotionally unstable, and don't look for people with strong negative emotions.
Forty or fifty years later, you are lying in a wheelchair in a nursing home, watching the elderly and relatives with families surrounding you and saying warm words, and there is not even a mouse in front of you.
The old people have been wronged and have relatives coming forward, you can only endure it, and even your friends are almost dead. Eighty years later, with cigarettes in front of people's graves, your ...... Eh, where did your grave go?
There will be regrets no matter how you choose the multiple-choice question of life, so don't choose it, just go with your heart. If you want to get married, you can get married, if you don't want to get married, if you want to have children, if you don't want to, you won't have children.
If you get married, you can divorce, and if you have a child, you can take it alone. The greatest pain in life is to do what you don't want to do for the sake of others. When there is no one in this world who can influence your choices, you are far from unhappiness.
There is no such thing as perfection in the world, and all outcomes come at a price. If you don't get married and don't have children, you don't have anyone to take care of you, that's the ease and freedom of most of your life with nothing to rely on, and when you get married and have children, you have children with you, which is also exchanged for most of your life's hard work.
Therefore, how to choose the gains and losses in life is always the same, it is better to move with your heart, enjoy the happiness of life, don't always envy what you don't have, and don't always guess the unknown future.
Pain and happiness are only in one thought, one thought of heaven, one thought of hell, let your heart be clear, why can't you get happiness!