As the saying goes: "Horses are good to be ridden, and people are good to be bullied." ”
In life, your kindness and soft-heartedness may not be rewarded in exchange for kindness.
There will always be unfair treatment, offended by others, bullied and humiliated.
The most powerful response is not to be angry, not to embarrass people, but to remember these 6 words, and you will win!
1
Ignore it and stay away
There is a classic dialogue that everyone knows.
Hanshan asked: How to deal with slander, deceive, insult, laugh at me, despise me, despise me, hate me, and deceive me?
He replied: Just bear with him, let him, let him, avoid him, bear with him, respect him, ignore him, and stay for a few more years and see him.
As the saying goes, it is better to offend a gentleman than a villain.
Some people choose to offend you and bully you because they don't tell right from wrong and don't distinguish between good and evil.
For this kind of person, it is unwise for you to refute and defend yourself, and you are also asking for hardship if you make a big move.
Because you will never be able to compare with them in terms of sophistry and shamelessness, and you are likely to be hated and retaliated by them.
Heroes don't suffer immediate losses, and instead of entanglement, it is better to ignore them and stay away.
Not only do they feel bored, and they don't have the object to make trouble and make waves, but they can also focus on themselves and do their jobs and careers well.
What's more, it is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge.
Life is a marathon, and victory is not in the first half, but in the second half.
On weekdays, I like to bully people who offend people, I have poor popularity, bad conduct, and I can't go far if I can't walk steadily.
You have to turn the grievances in your heart into upward motivation, and spend all your time and energy on self-improvement.
If you cultivate yourself deeply and sharpen yourself, you will definitely be able to achieve steady and far-reaching heights that the other party cannot reach.
At this time, the other party can't underestimate you, and they don't dare to offend you, but because of your every move, they will become scared, and naturally surrender without a fight, so as to win the final victory.
2
Don't be afraid, pluck up courage
Mr. Yang Jiang said in the book "Walking to the Edge of Life":
"If you have a little talent and good looks, people will be jealous of you and exclude you. If you give in generously, others will infringe on you and harm you. ”
Many times, you choose to stay away, and you still can't escape the fate of being oppressed.
At this time, if you are afraid of anything, then others will become more and more fearless, not afraid of anything, and will always oppress you.
Because human nature is like this, bullying the weak and fearing the hard, bullying the weak, the more you swallow your anger, the more unscrupulous you are.
When a person is weak, there are the most bad people around him, but when he is strong, he is surrounded by good people.
Therefore, the best response is to muster up the courage, stand up, be strong, and defend yourself.
It is not to go on a rampage, quarrel and fight, but to know how to silently accumulate strength, leave evidence, find weaknesses, and strive to hit with one blow.
You can also make the other person's evil deeds public, and someone will stand by your side to help you and support you.
The most important thing is to let the other party understand that if you offend and bully you, you will definitely pay the corresponding price.
Only in this way will the other party be jealous, put away his malice, and thus take care of his own situation.
In short, strengthen your heart, not afraid of other people's evaluation, not afraid of others' oppression, let honesty grow teeth, let kindness give birth to edge, and the whole world will be kind to you.
3
Don't be angry, let yourself go
As the saying goes, "Anger hurts the body." ”
One of the most useless things in the world is to get angry.
Except for harming one's own body, it does nothing to solve the problem.
On the contrary, it allows the people who offend you to gloat, and the bullies who bully you to get worse.
Learn to control your emotions and not punish yourself for the mistakes of others, you are a truly smart person.
If you choose to tolerate and stay away, then don't sulk:
Say "forget it" to yourself, anger hurts the body, resentment hurts the spirit, why be angry about trivial matters, why bother to be angry with others, take care of the body, more important than anything else;
Say "it's not worth it" to yourself, for the sake of the person who bullied you, make a mess of your mood, it's not worth it at all, the world is so beautiful, it's better to smile indifferently and not be angry;
Saying "it's okay" to yourself is not cowardice, but to enlarge the pattern, broaden your horizons, stay away from right and wrong, and focus on your own growth and future.
If you choose to speak up and fight back, don't get carried away by anger:
Staying calm, analyzing, and making the right decisions is the best way to deal with things.
Calm your mind, relax your mind, and put yourself first in everything is the greatest contempt and rebellion against malice.
There is a good saying: "Learn not to be angry first, and then learn to be angry to death." ”
At any time, anger is just impotent anger, a senseless vent.
In life, everyone will encounter injustices, and everyone will meet people who do not treat them
Instead of getting angry and paying for other people's mistakes, it is better to calm down, let yourself go, and then look down on yourself, which is the highest level of kindness to yourself and the biggest winner.