Márquez said: "All the splendor that has ever been in life needs to be repaid by our loneliness after all." ”
Whether it is lively and lively on the outside, or calm and quiet, we have all had loneliness and loneliness in our hearts that are inhumane.
The book "One Hundred Years of Solitude" that I introduce to you today is a novel that describes loneliness to the extreme.
It tells the story of seven generations of a family in the small town of Macondo. It has been called "a monumental work that recreates the history of Latin America" and is also the peak of the literary world of the 20th century.
The author, Márquez, is a representative of magical realist literature and is known as the "only uncontroversial winner" of the Nobel Prize. He is good at hiding the real things with calm and calm brushstrokes, and using magical and bizarre things to reflect and hint at real life.
Next, let Zixin take you into this book, into the isolated town of Macondo, into the lonely life stories, and heal your heart.
1
The lack of childhood depends on self-healing
Sigmund Freud said, "A person's life always makes up for the lack of childhood." ”
In the book, Alcatio has been living in depression.
He was abandoned by his parents just after birth. Grandmother Ursula was too busy with the family to take care of him. His uncle, Aureliano, was alienated from him like a stranger.
He doesn't feel care and love. No one knew that he was always distressed by his feminine buttocks, and no one knew the grief and anguish in his heart after the death of Melquiades, who was close to him.
Later, his uncle Aureliano put the army in his hands.
He gave absurd orders again and again, as a way to show his authority and not to be ignored.
He saw rights as salvation. Eventually, he was sent to the execution table by the crowd.
At the end of his life, he suddenly thought of Ursula, who used his small body to block the enemy for him, and thought of the days when he studied with his uncle Aureliano in the laboratory. He found that deep in his heart, there was endless love for his family.
Perhaps, his hatred stems from his love, and the tragedy of his life also stems from his love.
I believe that there is no one in the world who is not injured, and if he struggles with his shortcomings, he can only be bound by them all the way. If you are swayed by obsession, you will deviate from the right path.
Don't stare at the missing, focus more on the good. Only then can we see the most essential needs of our hearts and get real healing.
The mother of the famous Japanese director Takeshi Kitano has been strict with him since he was a child. He was not allowed to play his favorite baseball, enrolled him in various cram schools, and forced him to study hard.
Under the pressure, Takeshi Kitano could not feel the tenderness and love of his mother, and the rebellion in his heart increased day by day.
He used truancy and not studying well to confront his mother. Even in college, he chose to drop out to get revenge on his mother.
He won, but he was not happy, and it became his eternal regret that he did not finish college.
Fighting over the faults of others will only lead to a deeper quagmire.
I believe that life is a process of accepting imperfections. Abandon entanglements and let go of obsessions, in order to move forward lightly. Facing life with a relieved and upward attitude is responsible for one's own life.
Only by giving relief and understanding to life can we truly grow and mature, and only then can we truly heal ourselves.
2
Only those who are brave can get love
Ovid said: "Happy love is always accompanied by the brave." ”
Amaranta fell in love with the pianist Pietro, but she loved it with restraint.
Finally, Pietro was attracted by her silence and steady, and proposed to her. Surprisingly, she refused.
Although she is desperate for love, deep down she is more afraid that love will disappear. Fear of the future prevails, and she chooses to close her heart and shut herself up in a dark world.
Amaranta's determination completely hurt Pietro, who committed suicide as a martyr.
Amaranta was so uncomfortable that she burned her left hand to punish herself, and she has been wearing a black veil around it ever since.
A few years later, Colonel Márquez fell in love with the silent Amaranta and proposed to her. However, Amaranta refused.
It's not that she doesn't love Márquez, it's that the timidity of her heart always dominates her. While she was tormented, she also hurt those who loved her.
All her life, she lived in darkness and misfortune.
After all, we do not lack the opportunity to meet love, but lack the courage to boldly pursue love.
Zixin believes that there is no perfect love without regrets in the world, and no one must not be hurt in love. But if you stop for something that hasn't happened yet, you will miss the possibility of having love.
When Xu Guangping met Lu Xun for the first time, he was attracted by Lu Xun's profundity.
Although, at that time, Lu Xun was the most influential national writer with many followers. But Xu Guangping was not presumptuous, she mustered up the courage to write a letter to Lu Xun, and the fate of the two began.
Xu Guangping used bravery and perseverance to catch Lu Xun, and thus achieved a love story.
Break free from shackles, not afraid of the world, and treat feelings rationally, in fact, you can have a high-quality love.
Zixin believes that brave and determined people can better control love and assume the responsibility and responsibility in love.
Because, in addition to willing giving, love also has the companionship of a long stream.
3
Only when you hold your breath can you become a great tool
Aureliano has had a talent for excellence since childhood.
He spent all day in the laboratory, delving into alchemy. The days of alchemy were boring and boring, but he enjoyed them.
It is because of this dedication and dedication that he has finally become famous in Macondo for his exquisite craftsmanship.
Later, in order to gain more benefits for the inhabitants, Aureliano embarked on the path of resistance. He launched several uprisings, and for decades afterward, he was on the run and on the road to revolt.
Although the road to resistance was extremely difficult, he did not compromise. He was defeated again and again, but he was not discouraged. He showed the calm and non-giving attitude of alchemy, like a warrior who couldn't be beaten, and in the end, he became a famous colonel.
On the way to pursue the ideal, although it is painful and lonely. But it allows us to keep our own pace and think independently.
Zi Xin believes that people who are calm and unhurried can have the ability to handle things in an orderly manner and become a stronger self.
Identify the goal, keep the principle, be steadfast, and eventually achieve great things.
Zeng Guofan's qualifications were mediocre when he was a child, and he also knew that he was not a smart person, so he did not study quickly, but sought stability.
He recited an article repeatedly, did not understand the previous sentence, and did not read the next sentence. He reads every book carefully, and he walks steadily on every small step forward.
After taking the imperial examination seven times, he was finally admitted to Xiucai. also benefited from the previous steady and steady play, and in the second year, he won the promotion. Four years later, he was admitted to the Jinshi again. His life is extraordinary and extraordinary.
In "Caigen Tan", it is said: "A gentleman would rather be silent than dry, rather clumsy than clever." ”
It means that we should be calm and not impetuous, and we would rather work stupidly than mess with ourselves.
I thought that I was not in a hurry to achieve quick success, and walked slowly at my own pace. After all, all the achievements and good fortune in the world are hidden in the invisible effort.
4
There is no wishful life, only an open-minded life
Ursula's husband is so obsessed with science experiments that he neglects his family.
The burden of life falls on her, and she makes candy to support her family.
Because of her practicality and ability, she not only helped the family build a large house, but also took in the homeless Melquiades.
Later, the family members went crazy one by one and were out of tune. Ursula remained unyielding, saying, "As long as God keeps me alive, there will be no shortage of money in this madman's house." ”
Even in her old age, she lost sight in both eyes, but she still relied on her intelligence and attention to communicate with the outside world, and no one even knew when she was blind.
In the face of ups and downs and setbacks, she has always been open-minded and calm, and she is the real pillar of the family.
In life, there is too much helplessness, since you can't change the circumstances, then adjust your mentality.
I believe that open-minded and calm people will not consume themselves in unnecessary things. No matter how many difficulties there are, we will not be easily depressed, and no matter how many troubles there are, we will not be depressed.
The mentality of attaining the view can often turn the thorns into a smooth road.
Mr. Ye Jiaying is the last "scholar" in China to wear a skirt.
She was born in troubled times, and her family was in the middle of the road. married far away from Taiwan and fell into prison. Later, her husband often abused her. finally divorced, but in his later years, his daughter and son-in-law were killed in a car accident.
Her life has been bumpy, but she has always been gentle and tenacious and optimistic. She devoted her life to poetry, taught and educated people for decades, and became a well-known scholar at home and abroad.
Master Sheng Yan said, "The mind changes with the environment to be an ordinary man, and the state with the heart changes to the sage." ”
An optimistic heart is the cure for everything. Although life is barren, if you have a good heart, you will encounter improvement and turnaround.
I believe that there are many things worth pursuing in a lifetime, and don't be discouraged because of a temporary trough.
Maintain an open-minded state of mind and look forward to a bright future, and you will eventually get out of the life that is blocked everywhere, find the way where your heart belongs, and meet the light and hope again.
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Zhuangzi said: "To be alone is to be unique." The only one is the most noble. ”
Loneliness, although it is the background color of life, is not gloomy.
Learn to enjoy solitude and be your own confidant. Not only is it a sign of a person's maturity, but it also allows us to feel peace of mind.
The world is noisy, but we always have an inch of pure land in our hearts.
See yourself clearly, be not afraid of the road ahead, enjoy the moment, and experience life.
As Lin Huiyin said: "The real calmness is not to avoid the hustle and bustle of cars and horses, but to build fences and plant chrysanthemums in your heart." ”
May you be a lonely person who is not lonely.