In the field of education and research, the age of 3~6 years old is called the "wet cement period", and the child's personality during this period has strong plasticity!
After that, the "cement" will slowly solidify, and the child's personality will be stereotyped, and it will be difficult to change it!
There are also studies that have found that the critical period for children's habit formation is in primary school (7~10 years old), after which children's habits have been formed, and it is difficult to correct them.
This book will tell parents how to cultivate their children's good character from the age of 3 and how to cultivate their children's good habits from the age of 7.
The 3rd year of kindergarten is the golden period for children's character formation
In kindergarten for 3 years, there are 7 types of personality that children must have:
Self-confidence -—— need to be cultivated from an early age, cheerful - 3 ways to make children lively and cheerful, focus - 5 skills to cultivate children's attention, independence - let him do his own things, brave - don't let children be cowardly cowards, tenacity - the cultivation of frustration ability, starting from the baby, self-discipline - can control their own children will be better.
3-6 years old is the critical period for the formation of children's personality, and 85%~90% of children's personalities, thoughts, and behaviors are formed at this stage.
If parents want to cultivate positive, positive, and sunny children, they need to help their children correctly understand their own feelings, release their emotions, and develop a good character from an early age.
Personality determines fate. A person with a good character will be able to successfully embark on the road to success, while a person with a bad character will stumble on the journey of life and even fall into the abyss of failure.
For example, when the child cries because he has to do something or eats something that he can't eat, he will say, "You are like this, I don't want you anymore" or "I will throw you out if you cry", so that the child loses his sense of security and becomes timid and introverted.
The family atmosphere also has an impact unconsciously.
It is related to the child's understanding of the concept of family, and has a great degree of penetration into whether the child can maintain his or her new family as an adult. The family members should always reflect the "family style" of mutual understanding and mutual care.
This is more conducive to the development of optimistic, cheerful and positive character qualities.
Another example is that in many cases, obedient children do not necessarily understand things, but they have become obedient under the "dictatorship" of their parents for a long time. Rather than being obedient, I think that parents will understand that a reasonable child will understand who is reasonable.
A person absorbs like a sponge from what is experienced before the age of 3. The critical period of children's character formation and ability cultivation is before the age of 3, and what kind of people children follow and what kind of education they receive at this stage will form corresponding personalities.
Every word spoken and every action made by the adults with whom they spend their day and night may be deeply seared in their hearts.
Parents and teachers play an important role in growing up until the age of 3. Only when parents and teachers are well versed in parenting and seize the critical period of 3 years old can they win the success and victory of their children's future.
Education is all about cultivating good habits
Cultivation of important habits in primary school:
Reading habits - "feeding" children with books will think and have temperament; habits of doing housework - children who can do housework will be more independent when they grow up; financial management habits - magic weapons to help children improve their financial quotient; cooperation habits - children who are good at cooperation will get twice the result with half the effort; proactive habits - opportunities favor prepared people; safety habits - self-protection awareness should be cultivated from an early age; civilized and polite habits - children who are polite are loved by everyone.
Simply put, it is education that trains children to develop good habits. The so-called habit is a stable behavior pattern formed by people after repeating a certain behavior for a long time.
Habits can be divided into two categories: one is behavioral habits, such as eating, sleeping, dressing, etc.;
The other type is the habit of thinking, such as observation, analysis, judgment, etc. Behavioral habits and thinking habits influence each other and together determine a person's qualities and abilities.
Good habits can help children form correct values, a healthy personality, efficient learning methods, a positive attitude towards life, etc. On the contrary, bad habits can lead children to form wrong values, inefficient learning methods, and negative attitudes towards life.
Therefore, cultivating good habits in children is the fundamental task of education!
Cultivation education should start from an early age. Because childhood is the easiest and most important period for people to form habits. The habits formed during this period tend to stay with them throughout their lives and affect future development.
Each child has their own unique characteristics, interests, abilities, etc. We need to choose the training method that suits the children according to their personality and strengths.
Cultivation education should be gradual and gradual. Because it takes time and patience to develop a good habit. It is necessary to follow a certain sequence and steps, from easy to difficult, from simple to complex, etc., to gradually guide children to form habits.
Habit formation requires intrinsic motivation and extrinsic support. Through praise, encouragement, and rewards from others, children should be stimulated to form a habit of their own initiative, self-confidence, and self-esteem.
Rules are the foundation of a child's foothold
Ten years of trees, 100 years of people. Educating children is never something that can be done overnight. The same is true for setting rules for children.
We need to know not only the importance of rules, but also how to make children obey them. Because what we have established is not only the rules, but also the basic rules for children to behave in the future.
So, how do we set rules for our children? When parents set rules, we must pay attention to the following points!
1. Establish children's sense of rules from an early age
As the saying goes, three years old is young, seven years old is old, and the same is true for cultivating children to obey the rules.
Li Meijin, a well-known education expert, once proposed: You must set rules for your child before the age of 6. She said: "A 3-4-year-old boy who quarrels with his parents is nothing more than throwing a splash on the ground, but when the child is 14 years old, he can run away from home and commit suicide by jumping off a building.
You must know that there is a window period for disciplining children, and once this period is missed, parents may not be able to manage it if they want to, so from a young age, we must consciously guide the child and cultivate his awareness of abiding by the rules in life.
2. Incorporate compliance into your daily life
For children, generally after the age of 1, when there are outdoor activities, we can remind children in a timely manner and teach them to obey the rules in public places.
For example, when we go to the supermarket, some children want to eat their favorite snacks when they see them, and we not only have to stop them in time, but also tell them the reason - these are the goods they sell, and they can only be eaten after paying for them, so that the children will understand why they can't just take things.
Don't be afraid that your child is young and ignorant, as long as you teach him with your heart, he will definitely understand, and don't think that the rules set for him are constraints, which is a bridge for him to understand the world.
3. Parents should lead by example
You are a role model for your children. Some parents will swipe their mobile phones and play games after work, and when they set rules for their children, their children will say, "You have been playing by yourself for so long, let me play for a while!"
Therefore, as parents, we should not only guide our children to establish a sense of rules, but also show with practical actions in daily life: since the rules have been set, we must abide by them.
In front of the children, we should strive to do some small things, such as: not making loud noises in public, civilized and polite language, regular work and rest, etc.
It is our instinct to love children, but if we want children to become adults who stand up to the sky, we must make this love more rational. From a young age, we must understand that one day, he will leave us to spread his wings and soar.
And the rules we set when he was a teenager were to make him walk more calmly. I believe that parents have also set a lot of rules in the process of parenting, what kind of rules are they, do children abide by them, how do you set rules for children?
Write to the end
The character development of a 3-year-old and the habit formation of a 7-year-old complement each other and are indispensable.
A good character contributes to the formation of good habits, which in turn consolidates and develops a good character.
On the road of children's growth, we must give correct guidance and sufficient companionship.
From the age of 3, pay attention to character cultivation, to the age of 7, pay attention to the formation of habits, to teach children learning methods and be good at discovering the beauty in life, to lay a solid foundation for children's future, so that they can thrive on the road of life and bloom their own light!
Parents should not miss this golden period!