Author: Insight Yangtuo
The spirit is guarded, and the illness is never safe.
As the old saying goes: if you spit out a thousand words, you will not hurt yourself.
When I was younger, I didn't think so, and I often fought with people over a certain point of view or something.
It wasn't until I was exhausted and almost sick that I understood: If you talk too much, you will wear yourself out.
If you talk too much, you will be lacking, and if you are lacking, you will hurt your body.
In this life, keeping your mouth shut and not talking about it is the best way to maintain health.
01
Less arguments, nourishment
In 1713, the British royal crown declared Newton the first inventor of calculus.
This was a great joy in the mathematical world, but the mathematician Leibniz couldn't afford to get sick when he heard about it.
Why? It turns out that the two have been arguing about who was the first inventor of calculus.
Newton accused Leibniz of stealing his calculus.
Leibniz, however, said that he had discovered it independently and published it before Newton.
Newton believed that he had mentioned calculus in his notes ten years earlier, and that he was more proficient in its use than Leibniz.
But Leibniz also said that he proposed the concept of calculus and the algorithm that Newton could not reach.
In the eyes of the outside world, this kind of argument is really unnecessary, because their research has different focuses and is difficult to judge.
But the two still led their supporters in a 10-year polemic.
Leibniz also became agitated and irritable in this controversy, which made his already weak body even worse.
In the end, due to Newton's fame, Leibniz was defeated, and until his death, he was depressed and haunted.
The writer Hovland said: Among all the adverse effects on people, the most important thing that can make people die in a short life is a bad mood and a bad mood.
Arguing with others will inevitably lead to anger and self-defeat.
Only by arguing, arguing, and refutating can you keep your mind calm and keep your body and mind from being harmed.
Ji Xianlin, a master of Chinese culture, suffered from cancer twice, but lived to be 98 years old, and one of the important points is not to debate.
He Zang Ke's family was accused for no reason in the small restaurant, he didn't defend himself, he didn't get angry, he just kept silent and continued to eat his own meal.
When his published views were questioned and angrily scolded by others, he did not explain or refute them, but just hung up the anti-war card and affirmed that he "does not argue".
He still reads books, writes articles, does his own thing, and expresses his own opinions every day.
He once said that the truth does not become clearer and clearer.
On the contrary, in the argument, he will get angry and consume his body.
American biologists Friedman and Rothman famously put forward the "personality theory":
Type A personality: competitive, arguing, impatient, very prone to illness;
Type B personality: calm, leisurely, less diseased, the probability of getting sick is 1/6 of that of type A personality.
All diseases are born from the heart, and all diseases are cured from the heart.
If you don't compete with others, your heart will be wide and your breath will be smooth, and your body will be fine.
02
Complain less, nourish your heart
The 95-year-old Qi Baishi said that there are "seven precepts" for health preservation, one of which is to quit grief and anger and complain less.
Complaining will only increase the burden on the soul and deepen the pain in the heart.
凡事不怨不诉，养一颗好心态，胜过世间一切良药。
Bai Juyi was born frail, his youth coincided with the Anshi Rebellion, and he was repeatedly degraded in middle age, but he lived to be 75 years old.
The secret of his longevity is to complain less and be cheerful.
When he was sick in bed, he didn't complain but smiled: the pillow was troubled and sick, and laughing in bed was better than seeking a doctor.
After suffering a stroke in old age, he is still optimistic and calm: if the head wind is healed when he sees poetry, he may as well talk and laugh when his teeth are broken.
How difficult it is to float, and put it aside with a smile.
There is no complaint in the mouth, no worries in the heart, and life is everywhere, which is the scenery.
Guo Wanying, the fourth lady of Shanghai Yongan Department Store, is a veritable golden branch and jade leaf, the first half of her life was smooth, but in the second half, her fate was full of ups and downs.
First, after marriage, her husband cheated on her, died of illness, and then her family property was confiscated, and finally she was sent to the countryside to build roads, dig fish ponds, and wash toilets.
But even so, she didn't complain, but was not shocked and calm.
In winter, the roof was broken, and when she woke up with a layer of frost on her face, she thought: the sun will shine through the hole on a sunny day, so beautiful.
There is no oven tea set at home, so she bakes crispy and delicious toast with wire, and uses an enamel jar to taste homemade afternoon tea.
When she washes the toilet, she also wears an elegant cheongsam, smiling and encouraging herself: These labors are conducive to maintaining my figure.
At all times, she is calm and keeps her heart calm and stable.
Because of this, she successfully survived many difficulties and lived to be 90 years old.
Buddhism has a saying: "Troubles have no roots, and if you don't pick them up, you won't have them." Confusion is not sourceless, and it is easy not to correct yourself. ”
Do not vent or complain in case of trouble, and do not entangle in case of pain.
Accepting all ups and downs and taking care of your body and mind is the best way to nourish yourself.
03
Interfere less, save your life
In an interview, Chen Daoming once talked about his life situation.
He said that he would never meddle with other people's business at any time. Even if the other party takes the initiative to bring it up, he will stop it immediately.
Some people say that he is cold, and others criticize him for being unkind.
I appreciate it.
Be able to clarify the boundaries between yourself and others, and not worry about idleness, so as not to involve unnecessary trouble.
What human nature hates the most is to be a good teacher.
People who habitually interfere in the lives of others often end up not being grateful, but will invite bad luck and harm themselves.
In Balzac's novel Uncle Bunce, the protagonist Bunce is a kind-hearted and talented collector.
But at the same time, he is also nosy and likes to interfere in other people's affairs.
When he saw that the president's daughter, Cecil, was not yet married, he volunteered to be a matchmaker and match Cecil with the banker Fleitz.
However, the president felt that the two were not yet familiar with each other and did not agree.
Seeing this, Bunce promised that he could arrange for the two to come to his art gallery so that they could get to know each other.
But as a result, Friez not only did not take a fancy to Cecil, but also humiliated and rejected the other party.
Cecil couldn't bear the blow and couldn't afford to get sick.
Seeing this, the president's family was furious.
In order to save face, the president's wife spread rumors everywhere, blamed Bunce, and slandered him for being despicable and indecent, and taking revenge for personal gain.
Subsequently, the family colluded with all kinds of villains, constantly tormenting Bunce, stealing his boutiques and stealing his inheritance.
Bunce was also destitute in the process, and finally fell to death.
In "Caigen Tan", it is said: Fu Mo is blessed with few things, and disaster is not bad for many hearts.
Being in a hurry to intervene in other people's affairs has no meaning except to make yourself unhappy.
The spirit of adduction, walking your own way, and sending your own light, can you raise your own destiny.
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Legend has it that the medicine king Sun Simiao lived to be 141 years old. Among the health tips he proposed, the first one is - talk less.
Everyone's body has limited energy.
More contention, more resentment, and more pointing are all an invisible consumption of oneself.
Learn to be silent and focus your time and energy on yourself, so that you can take care of your body and live a good life.
Give it a thumbs up and encourage your friends.