Author: Insight Ciyu
The job is to sculpt yourself.
Last week, a colleague asked me: Why are you full of energy when others go to work like a grave?
I joked: it's better to make money happily than to make money with a sad face.
There are many bad things in the workplace, and there are many people who don't like it, and they work hard and hatefully, which does them all kinds of harm but no benefit.
Over the past few years, I have figured out 5 golden rules to make myself comfortable at work, and I would like to share them with you.
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- The first golden rule: part-time work is to spend the boss's money and train your own ability.
Zhou Hongyi, the founder of 360, said when talking about his experience: He has worked for Founder and Yahoo, but in fact, he is not a part-time job, but uses the boss's money to pay for his tuition.
Thinking that I am tired of working for the boss and working for the company, my heart is naturally painful and bitter.
If you can change your mentality: the boss pays the tuition and practices on your own. This way you will get stronger and stronger.
Wang Laichun came to work at Foxconn when he was 21 years old.
Working more than ten hours a day, sometimes need to work overtime, many female workers complain, Wang Laichun never complains, and is conscientious in his post.
She rotated through various positions and summed up her experience and methods.
For factory training, the theme is roughly to manage employees, improve the quality of work, etc., and the average person will feel bored and bored.
Wang Laichun listened to the hidden management logic with relish.
After more than 10 years of work, she has been promoted to three levels in a row.
Later, Wang Laichun resigned from Foxconn, founded Luxshare Precision, and appeared on the list of China's richest people.
There is an easily overlooked truth in the workplace: what you learn is your own first, and then the company.
People who can't see through this truth complain all day long, and when they encounter a little bad thing, they scold the leader and complain about the unit.
People who can see through, they use all the resources of the company to empower themselves.
They know that working is not only to earn a reward, but also to add value to themselves.
In fact, the latter is often more important.
Look at your work from a different perspective, where you can study the company's management structure and learn from your colleagues...... These are invisible treasures.
With the boss's money and the unit's resources, why don't we do it?
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- The second golden rule: refuse to negotiate to be high, anyway, the colleagues who are embarrassed to embarrass you are not good colleagues.
Harvard University once did a research analysis that listed nine root causes of a person's lack of interest, including "fear of rejection".
There are too many good people in the workplace, and when others say that they are difficult, he will help, and when others ask for something, he will give them.
Thin-skinned and soft-hearted make them live a bitter and tiring life.
After working for so many years, I have met such "good old people" colleagues in any unit.
There is a girl who writes copy, and she has already asked her friends out to watch movies and have a big meal on the weekend.
But a colleague came to grind hard and begged her to help revise the debriefing report, but she was embarrassed to refuse, and she could only stay up late at home and work overtime to change the report on the weekend.
In the end, on the one hand, it was because of the no-show, which made my friend feel bad, and on the other hand, I was disgusted by that colleague and there were several problems with the change.
There is also a PPT master, and the PPT produced is pleasing to the eye.
Many people started his idea, some people shamelessly begged him to make a plan, saying that only he could do a good job in the company, and some people played the emotional card and asked him to help him.
He had to be busy with his work, but also had to help others explain the PPT, and finally he was tossed and burned.
You get them to say no.
They will say: between colleagues, ruthless.
But they never thought about how they had taken their feelings into account for the colleagues who embarrassed you to restate your work report and the colleagues who made PPT for you.
The people who live the most tired in the workplace are those who don't know how to refuse.
I don't want to embarrass others, and the last one who embarrasses is myself.
In the variety show "Heartwarming Offer", a very interesting word was mentioned: "refusal of business".
To put it simply, knowing how to reject others appropriately is an essential skill in the workplace and even in life.
Helping is love, not helping is duty, don't blame yourself for being indifferent, blame those colleagues for not being responsible.
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- The third golden rule: always have rough skin and thick meat, because the bird that can't be burned is a phoenix.
I had seen a story about Charles Harnell, a famous American entrepreneur.
He recruited Sophia, a top student from Harvard University, with outstanding ability and high esteem.
At an important event, Sophia had urgently drafted a speech.
To her surprise, Harnell's subsequent speech was very different from what she had written.
Just when she was puzzled by this, Hanel, who had finished her speech, threw the manuscript in front of her and said with a serious face: "Please write cleanly next time." ”
Sophia's face turned red for a moment, and she felt aggrieved, after all, this was an urgent speech, and it was already very good to write it to such an extent in a short period of time.
In a fit of rage, she turned around and walked away without saying hello.
Early the next morning, she received a notice from the company: you have been fired.
What would you do if you were Sophia?
I will definitely apologize to the leader first, and then say that I will not make the same mistake next time.
The workplace is cold, no one provides you with emotional value, and no matter how many grievances you have, you can only swallow them alone.
When I was working in a newspaper, I was often scolded by my boss.
I wrote a nice press release, and he scolded you for a few typos.
I thought I had come up with a very novel angle of entry, and he would scoff at it as bullshit.
If you do something wrong, you will be scolded, if you don't do anything wrong, you will be scolded, and sometimes even if it is not your own fault, you will be scolded.
This is the work of adults, and if you think about it, there are grievances hidden in the piles.
If you keep getting stuck in the quagmire of negative energy, you will only lose the momentum to move forward.
Really powerful people never pay attention to how much grievances they have suffered, but only how much value they produce.
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- The fourth golden rule: the core should be stable, don't care too much about other people's evaluations.
Recently, I rewatched the Japanese drama "Wonderful Things of the World", and there was such an episode that impressed me deeply.
The male protagonist who works in the bank discovers one day: as long as others have anything to say about him, the corresponding label will appear on him.
When the department was in a meeting, he had just dismissed his colleague's opinion, and the next second, a label reading "cold-blooded scum" was attached to him.
Other negative labels followed: "narcissist", "self-righteous", ......
Because he cares about what others say about him, he made a series of changes:
In order to gain the favor of his subordinates, he did everything himself, and even shielded and protected the staff to make false accounts;
Fearing to be perceived cold-blooded by his colleagues, he approved the financing of a business that was about to fail.
But the result?
The male protagonist was finally judged by the bank's senior management to be mismanaged and was dismissed.
All the labels on him have become "incompetent colleagues", "fools who are easy to deceive", "people who can't achieve anything......
At work, this is not what many people look like:
You treat people warmly, and a few words can make the leader happy, but some colleagues chew their tongues and say that you don't do practical things and only care about slapping horses, and you have become timid and afraid to speak silently.
You messed up the project because of some force majeure factors, and your colleagues said cool things and ridiculed you for relying on luck to get to this position, and you didn't dare to shoulder the heavy responsibility anymore.
No matter which unit you go to, there will inevitably be a group of people around you who tell the truth about right and wrong, and they treat laughing at colleagues as fun and gossiping as pastime.
The more you pay attention to them, the less energy you have to improve your abilities.
There's a saying in Game of Thrones: Lions never care what sheep think.
Instead of being driven crazy by a group of rotten people, it is better to look down on them and look down on them, which is the mentality of the strong.
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- The fifth golden rule: change thinking: turn "I can't" into "I want to learn".
Ask everyone a question: If the leader gives you a task now, how would you react?
You are constantly complaining, sighing and saying, why did you give me such a hot potato again.
I'm still motivated to finish it beautifully.
These two modes of thinking are defined in psychology as "victim thinking" and "control thinking".
The former retreats in distress and will only complain, while the latter rises to the occasion and stubbornly stumbles on the problem.
The creative director of a company, @王强, talked about his growth experience.
After graduating, he joined a film and television company, which mainly produced promotional videos for government units.
The style of the film is all flat and stable, and there are routines to follow.
He and a few other hired friends quickly became familiar with each other.
One day, the company received an order to help a company design a creative film.
This stumped several copywriters.
Because the usual three-board axe routine cannot be used, this kind of film is very demanding for creativity and novelty.
Most of the employees complained, complaining that the business was taking over the business in a disorderly manner.
Wang Qiang only thought about how to conceive a good script, and he did two things:
First, he found past films of this company and studied which style they liked.
Second, he picked up all kinds of creative films on the Internet and watched them frame by frame, not only learning from ideas, but also learning.
It took him five days to write three versions of the creative plan, and the leaders and customers were quite satisfied.
Half a year later, he was directly promoted to team leader.
Later, he said this at an employee training meeting: How to widen the gap with others? When encountering problems, others want to retreat, and if you want to enter, you will naturally be able to leave others behind.
Don't cry about how high the mountain is, don't complain about how deep the water is when you meet the river, just go to the mountain to open the road and build a bridge when you meet the water.
Turn "I can't" into "I try my best", and "I can't" into "I can learn", a person who has figured out the difficult things thoroughly and caught the big things, you will grow.
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The author of "Jump" is classical, and has proposed a workplace "clover" model.
That is, in addition to climbing up the framework of rank and salary, everyone can continue to grow by self-motivation and regard work as a motivating thing.
Why was this model made?
Because he also observed, "too many people are young but lifeless: during the day, they clock in and out of work, and at night, they stay up late to watch videos." ”
As Mr. Xu Zhuoyun said: work is to sculpt yourself.
Spend less energy on broken things and more on your own values and abilities, and you won't hate work so much.
Give it a thumbs up and encourage your friends.