Author: Insight Leyla
Media person @张丽俊 once told a story about his past.
When she was younger, she used to work at Alibaba.
At that time, she especially hated one of her leaders.
Because this leader is not good at work, but he is very good at sycophancy.
Zhang Lijun looked down on this kind of person, so he wanted to leave his job several times.
Just when she was hesitating, she happened to get an opportunity to consult a listed Internet company.
In the process of cooperation, Zhang Lijun found that the vice president of this company was young and promising, so he asked curiously: "How did you get to where you are today?"
Unexpectedly, the other party told another story.
It turned out that when the vice president was an employee, he worked with a very annoying colleague.
This colleague was one rank above him, but he often stole his work and submitted reports in his own name.
At first, he was very angry, and he felt extremely disgusted just by seeing this colleague.
But slowly, he changed.
He no longer cares about that colleague and focuses on improving his business, polishing his reports to perfection every time.
After persisting like this for a year, he was finally discovered by the company because of his outstanding ability, and he rose step by step.
And the colleague who was good at stealing other people's achievements was eventually fired from the company because his deeds were exposed.
After listening to this story, Zhang Lijun finally understood a truth:
When you go to work, don't waste your time hating anyone.
So she dismissed the idea of resigning, worked in Alibaba for 10 years, and eventually became a well-known group organization development expert in the industry.
I remembered what Mr. Zhou Guoping said: "In a certain type of person, it is not worth wasting any feelings, even angry feelings." ”
When you stop consuming energy from being disgusted with others, your work will really go smoothly.
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In the workplace, we always meet all kinds of people.
But not everyone gets along, and there will always be people who make us feel uncomfortable.
At this time, if we get entangled with it, we will only end up physically and mentally exhausted.
The writer Nancy once told such a story in the novel "Wrong Hate".
Zhao Yanzi, a female worker in the Chinese medicine factory, has lived in hatred for Director Tian all her life.
Zhao Yanzi's husband died in an accident a few years ago.
This made her lose her support in an instant, not only to pull her two children, but also to continue to work in the factory.
But at this difficult time, she also encountered many obstacles in her work.
Colleagues have all raised their salaries, but her salary has not been raised.
Later, she found out that all this was deliberately stumbling behind the back of Director Tian, so she was resentful.
Instead of focusing on her work, she spends most of her time cursing Director Tian.
However, her angry scolding did not have any substantial impact on Director Tian, and the other party was still living well.
And herself, in the boundless resentment, gradually became distorted, and finally had a heart attack and was admitted to the hospital.
When she came to her senses, she realized:
It turned out that his whole life was wasted in hatred.
Many times, what really torments you is often the people and things you care about.
Spending time on unworthy people will only end up with your head bleeding or even nothing.
I have a friend who was once scolded by the leader to the point of crying, so he hated each other very much.
When she complained to me about this, I replied:
The leader scolded you, and if you remembered it for two days, he scolded you for two days;
If you remember a year, he will rebuke you for a year;
If you remember it until you die, then this person will scold you for the rest of your life.
Schopenhauer once said, "Anger at the actions of others is as foolish as a person losing his temper with a stone." ”
The relationship of hatred between people is always to kill a thousand enemies and lose eight hundred.
Spending time hating others is ultimately punishing yourself in disguise.
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In the movie "Oppenheimer", the great scientist Oppenheimer was unfortunately framed and misunderstood by the public as a traitor.
At the hearing, even Taylor, a close friend who fought side by side in the past, suddenly changed his position and made many unfavorable accusations against him.
Taylor then shook Oppenheimer's hand in a gesture of goodbye.
Oppenheimer did not refuse, but maintained his usual gentlemanly demeanor.
His wife felt sorry for his situation and asked him puzzled why he was shaking hands with the person who betrayed him.
Oppenheimer didn't explain much.
He just silently cut ties with Taylor and has since forgotten about it.
Yishu said: "The best revenge is not hatred, but the coldness from the bottom of my heart, why spend energy to hate an irrelevant person." ”
The stupidest thing in life is to consume feelings for people who don't deserve it.
Instead of dwelling on it, it is better to be when he is blown by a gust of wind.
Many years ago, Lu Yu was still a young college student.
When she was an intern at a TV station, she had to take care of a lot of work every day.
editing, dubbing, interviews, and being arranged by the leader to do chores everywhere.
At that time, her income was meager, and she was facing difficulties in surviving.
But the director of the production used the excuse that she was still a student and only gave her half of the labor fee.
After Lu Yu found out, he was very disgusted with this production director.
But she knows that she needs this platform to exercise and improve her professional skills, and if she tears her face with the production director for this little thing, it will obviously outweigh the losses.
So, she chose to let go of the dissatisfaction in her heart and silently do the things in front of her.
After that, she finally walked to a bigger stage with her own efforts and became a well-known host.
And the production director is still staying where he is, and his career is in a backwater.
In the small society of the workplace, the most rare thing is sobriety.
There is no need to show anger at the hypocrisy of others, and there is no need to speak out loudly when you find yourself at a loss.
Because some things, once clarified, will only make the relationship more rigid and embarrass each other.
Maya Angelo once said, "If you don't like something, change it." If you can't change it, change your attitude. ”
When you stop wasting your energy by hating others, you can get one step closer to success.
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Deng Zhonghan, the father of Chinese chips, once said:
What he should be most grateful to in his life is a senior leader of Sony, whom he hated the most.
In 2001, Deng Zhonghan came to Japan with "Chinese chips" and recommended them to Sony with great expectations.
At that time, it was this executive who received him.
But just after Deng Zhonghan explained the advantages of chips, the supervisor glanced at them contemptuously, and then said in a very arrogant tone: "China? Does China have chips? Our Sony is the originator of image processing technology."
Our company has hundreds of such patents, and even more so products.
If you still insist on promoting your products, then I'm sorry, I still have a meeting, so I won't accompany you. ”
As soon as the words fell, he turned around and left, leaving Deng Zhonghan in the same place.
At that moment, Deng Zhonghan felt a great humiliation.
Even after he returned, the arrogant tone and look of the executive still appeared in his mind from time to time.
However, Deng Zhonghan did not give up because of this.
He gritted his teeth and silently vowed, "I will definitely come back and let you see my success." ”
Finally, after 4 years of exploration and research, "China Chip" shines in the international market, and its customers are all over 16 countries including China, Europe, the United States, Japan, and South Korea.
Even Sony's top electronic products have begun to be implanted in Chinese chips.
And Deng Zhonghan finally gave the executive a resounding slap in the face.
I heard a saying: When you dislike someone around you, the best way to express your disgust is not to quarrel with him, but to prove yourself with strength.
You don't have to be angry, you don't have to complain, you just have to do your best to improve your abilities.
When you stand high enough, there will be no more contemptuous voices around you.
Always remember: your transformation and transcendence is the best counterattack to the other party.
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Mo Yan once said:
"We didn't come into this world to live for people we don't like. ”
No matter where you work, don't waste your precious time hating others.
It's not because you're generous, it's because the other person doesn't deserve it.
When you decide not to be influenced by others and to quietly improve yourself.
You will find that the annoying person, his back has long since disappeared automatically.
Give it a thumbs up and encourage your friends.