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Boys are very sensitive to the "progress bar".
I found a problem.
For most boys, the dilemma in the relationship between the sexes is:
When you give some emotional value or material value, you expect girls to give back to you immediately;
When the message is sent, I hope the girl will reply to her WeChat in seconds.
How long is the progress bar for boys? In the cases I've been in contact with, it doesn't take more than 3 months at most.
Most boys give up in 2 weeks to 1 month.
"I messaged her, and we had a good chat before, why has she been hot and cold lately?"
"Does she not like me, doesn't want to accept me, and if she doesn't like me, why do you want to talk to me?"
When a boy can't see the progress bar in the relationship, it's easy to give up;
Because he doesn't want and doesn't want to be evaluated as a "licking dog" by others;
He thinks that if he continues, he will lose face.
But the progress bar for boys is not the same as the progress bar for girls.
The progress bar in the eyes of the boys:
"If I like you, you have to like me, if I send you a message, you have to reply to me, if I give you a gift, you have to give me a gift. ”
Girls' progress bar:
"I don't like to eat apples, you bought me a bag of apples, I was in a bad mood, you pestered me to talk, I wanted to know more about you, and you couldn't wait to ask me out to sleep. ”
Did you find out?
All the goals of a man in the pursuit phase are: to establish a relationship or to get you.
Typical results-oriented thinking.
The girl's mentality is: look everywhere, I want to get to know you first, see the match between us, and then decide whether to be with you or not.
The degree to which girls care about the process and atmosphere is far greater than the result of whether they can be together.
This is the process-oriented thinking of girls.
-02
Strategies for getting along with girls: conform to human nature
You empathize:
You're upset, upset, and don't want to talk to anyone, but they want to pester you and talk to you, ask you to reply to messages, and send you inconsequential topics.
Are you bothered at this time?
You are very busy at work, you have something to do, and the other party will call you one after another;
You refuse once, and the other party calls again.
Are you annoyed? Do you have the urge to delete and block the other party?
In the relationship between the sexes, what does it mean to "conform to human nature"?
The girl is willing to respond to you, and when she is enthusiastic about you, you catch her feelings;
When it's time to be enthusiastic, everyone chats and does something interesting.
She's busy, and she's cold to you, so don't touch your head.
You pick a girl when she is in a bad mood, in a bad mood, and doesn't want to chase her when she doesn't want to chat with someone;
Not only will she be disgusted with you, but she will also take all her negative emotions out on you.
Do you understand this logic?
The realms you want to maintain are:
“醒时同交欢，醉后各分散”。
It's time to play, it's time to talk, it's time to do your own thing, and you're busy with your own business.
As long as the impression you leave on the girl is positive, positive, and can make her gain sufficient emotional value;
When she's done with what she's done, she'll definitely come to you as soon as possible.
Whether it is a relationship between the sexes, social or workplace;
The only thing you can do well is to conform to human nature and laws;
If you want to break the balance, you will only be the first bird under pressure, and there is no benefit.
Remember:
When you get along with a woman, the more sticky and indecisive you are like an "old mother", the more she hates you;
The more confident and casual you are, the more she will be attracted to you.
Remember, remember.
Topic:
What confusion do you have with the girl you like?
Author He Suohuan:
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