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You suddenly notice that something is wrong with your relationship
Trust your instincts, trust your sixth sense.
For example, in the early stage of getting along, during the love period, you feel very comfortable together;
You're relaxed, relaxed, and you can't help but laugh when you see each other;
The other person's behavior, emotions, attitude, and physical performance all make you feel normal.
But at some stage, you feel that the other person has suddenly changed;
This change is very intuitive, it may be that the tone of the conversation with you is very awkward, and it is the state of getting along with you that you can clearly feel that he is uncomfortable.
He's restless, he's trying to escape, he's always trying to end the conversation early, or he's always looking for excuses to see you less.
In fact, in social relationships, you can feel this way too.
Anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, environment, or occasion, you will subconsciously stay away.
You must understand that human nature is to "seek advantage and avoid harm";
Part of it is instinct, it is intuition, part of it is weighing the pros and cons, and it is actively avoiding.
Everyone has their own "ability to perceive", but some people are particularly sensitive;
When the other person likes you, you don't need to confess that you can feel it;
The other person's love disappears, and even if he tries his best to disguise it, you can detect it.
This feeling is not deceiving.
-02
He often refuses to communicate and is often cold and violent to you
Another suggestive act of the end of the relationship: coldness.
This coldness includes several aspects.
First: cold and violent to you
During the love period, when there is a conflict in the relationship, the other party will communicate with you as soon as possible and try to solve the problem;
No matter what the problem is, his knee-jerk reaction is to run away.
Refuse to communicate, do not speak, and be silent to death;
Even if you put the knife on his neck, he doesn't bother to say a word to you.
Do you still remember Shufen in "No Questions Asked"?
Her marriage was tragic from the start;
was cold and violent, emotionally neglected, and the fire in her heart was extinguished again and again by the cold water;
Eventually, she could not bear it anymore and jumped to the bottom of the well.
Second: Refuse to respond
His desire to share will not be reciprocated;
Even if he sees your emotions, he pretends not to see them;
Your initiative, he turns a blind eye.
You can perceive his gesture of being too lazy to communicate with you too much, and your relationship is like suddenly returning to the state of a stranger.
-03
"I'm busy, I'm tired, I don't have time"
When I love you, I can't wait to contact you all the time, and I want to be with you every day;
Wherever you go, he wants to go, he often responds to your messages, and he will not refuse you as long as you ask for a date.
When he doesn't love, he makes all kinds of excuses.
He's busy, he's going to work overtime, he's tired, he's really not in the mood to talk to you about this, he just wants to rest;
He doesn't have time, so you hang out with your friends.
What's the most embarrassing part?
said that you were busy and didn't have time, but you met him in the middle of the game;
I don't have time to reply to your messages, but you find out that he is active in your common chat group.
People who care about you will definitely look for you after they are busy;
People who don't care about you say that they are very busy, and there is no follow-up.
-04
Refuse physical contact
This is the most obvious signal.
What are the signs of true love? It is the desire to be close to each other, and it is the other person who has a kind of magic in him that tugs at your emotions and attracts you to him.
I want to hold hands, hug, and have a more intimate distance.
is like Wong Kar-wai's line:
"The closest distance between me and him was only 0.01 centimeters."
When you love each other, you just want to push each other down or be pushed down by each other;
When you don't love, if you take the initiative to approach him, he will get bored.
For example: subconsciously stay away, don't look at you when chatting, deliberately distance yourself on the road, and don't sit with you when eating.
The suggestive behavior of these limbs is obvious.
-05
"Cliff Split"
At this point, it is basically the most direct response from the other party to you.
What is a cliff breakup?
You were still chatting hotly the day before, but today the other party has disappeared directly;
You didn't anticipate all of this at all, because you didn't perceive the idea that he wanted to break up with you.
This breakup state is the most hurtful.
There is no reason, no obvious warning, and the other party suddenly coldly says to you:
"Let's break up".
Then, block and delete your contact information.
You are stunned and messy alone, racking your brains and can't figure out why the other party broke up with you?
So you fall into the predicament of self-doubt, self-denial, self-attribution.
In fact, anyone who wants to leave you, there will be some hints;
All partings and breakups have been planned for a long time.
Be frank, honest, and break up with dignity, which should be the most basic respect for each other;
Even if you don't love each other, you should have a sense of ritual to end your relationship, just like when you first got together.
Topic:
Can you feel that the other person is not in love?
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