01
Before I got married, whoever told me about the phoenix man, I didn't care about it, thinking that others were deliberately stirring up trouble, what happened to the phoenix man, with his own ability to gain a foothold in the city, why didn't he be welcomed?
It wasn't until I myself married a phoenix male husband that I knew what others were saying. No matter how old a woman is, she should not easily marry a phoenix man.
My name is Song Yun, and I met my husband at work. When I first met, my husband looked talented, his mouth was also very sweet, and he was very good at coaxing girls to be happy.
And I was no exception, I was soon captured by my husband's fierce pursuit offensive, and I willingly became his girlfriend.
02
After talking for more than two years, I saw that I was getting older, and my parents began to urge me to get married. But my husband didn't want to talk about marriage so early, so he was stunned and delayed for more than two years before he was willing to get married.
But when I got married, my husband and my mother-in-law said bluntly, our family is not good, and if you can't afford the wedding house, you can rent a house, and the bride price can only be given 10,000, which means that it is one in a million.
The confession of my mother-in-law's family made my parents so angry that they persuaded me to break up immediately, saying that if I got married, I would jump into the fire pit, and I would marry backwards.
I don't believe in evil and insist on getting married, but my parents have no choice but to take out most of their savings to buy me a dowry house, and secretly give me a dowry of 100,000 yuan, so that I don't want to tell my mother-in-law's family.
03
With the confidence of my parents to give a dowry room and a dowry, my husband and I began a peaceful married life. When I got pregnant and had a baby, our days would be more complete.
As the children grow up, the house they live in now is far from meeting the requirements of their children to go to school.
With the idea that no matter how hard an adult is, no matter how poor an adult is, he can't be a poor child, my husband once again proposed to buy a new school district house, and asked me to go back to my parents' house to borrow money.
Although my parents also agreed with us to buy a school district house for our children, and before we could open our mouths, they took out 200,000 yuan to subsidize us, but I still kept an eye on it and asked my husband to send an IOU to my parents.
04
My parents were embarrassed, thinking that how could a family let their son-in-law make an IOU, and my husband also thought so, seeing that I had been insisting, he reluctantly wrote an IOU of 200,000 yuan to my parents.
When the IOU arrived, my parents wanted to hand it over to me for safekeeping, but I stuffed it directly into their hands and let them keep it themselves.
My husband also had a cold war with me because of this, thinking that I was elbowing outward, and I married him, and I was still thinking about my mother's family.
After the new house was bought, my husband was very active in urging the decoration. Half a year after the renovation and ventilation, my husband urged me to move into a new house.
At that time, I laughed at my husband for being too anxious. He said that this was the first house he had bought, and he was naturally very excited.
05
Moving into a new home, I became pregnant with my second child. While taking care of my eldest son, I had to go to work to raise the baby, so my husband offered to help me rent out the dowry house, and use the rent to offset the mortgage to reduce the burden.
I believed it to be true, so I handed over the matter of renting out the dowry room to my husband. Soon, my husband reported to me that the rent for the dowry was out, but the rent was a bit low, only 2,000 yuan.
I thought that having 2,000 yuan would be better than a waste of idle houses, so I didn't object, and let my husband arrange it himself.
And my trust in my husband also gave my in-laws and my husband an opportunity to join forces to deceive me.
06
After that, I never saw my husband pay me rent, and when I remembered the house, I insisted on going to see it.
But my husband either excused himself that it was inconvenient to come to the door casually with a tenant, or that the tenant didn't like to be disturbed, in short, he didn't let me go to see the house.
I couldn't sit still, and the more my husband stopped me, the more curious I became. I quietly went to my dowry housing community, but it was my brother-in-law who knocked on the door. And the mother-in-law is obviously still in the house, packing up some clutter.
Seeing that my bridal room was plastered with newlywed ornaments, I finally understood that my bridal room was not rented to someone else, but was given to his younger brother by my husband.
I continued to ask my husband, only to learn that he not only gave my wedding room to my brother-in-law, but also took the 200,000 bride price proposed by his brother and daughter-in-law, just to achieve the filial piety in his parents' mouth.
07
I was so angry that I called my parents directly and asked them to come to the door with an IOU. After the parents learned the truth, they were also very angry and shouted for their husband to pay back 200,000.
Seeing the IOU taken out by my parents and hearing my parents urging him to repay the debt, my husband suddenly became anxious: I spent my own salary, you are an only child, and your parents' money will be ours sooner or later, why should I repay the debt?
I looked at the man in front of me who had been defending himself, and I was very disappointed and chilled. It turns out that some men are foolish and filial piety and mother-in-law in their bones.
I filed for divorce, but my parents advised me to think twice, after all, the second child in my womb was five months old and had fetal movements. Adults make mistakes, but children are innocent.
If my mother-in-law's family had consulted with me, I might have agreed to lend the dowry room to my brother-in-law to get married, but they cut it first and then played it, and I insisted on taking it back without asking. Do you think I should get rid of my children and get divorced?