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In the book "The First Lesson of Life", it is said: "Family style is not a textbook, not a classroom, not a parent's ear and face, not a wielding stick." But it is like air, with a lasting penetrating power, and its influence often trumps other formal means of education. ”
A good family style can most of them educate excellent children. But there must be limits to the goodness of parents, and if you lose your principles because you love your children, then you have to bear the consequences.
The top calamity of a family is that there are such children, and parents must not condone it.
01: Children with a selfish personality will not be grateful
Loving parents have reasonable demands on their children and are willing to give everything.
However, the care and love you give is only taken for granted in the eyes of selfish children.
They always think only about their own needs and never think about their parents.
Children who are overly domineering will not be grateful. Parents who can really understand people's hearts and understand their children's temperament will not be overly spoiled, but dare to discipline.
Especially in elementary school, you notice that children are very selfish and strong by nature, and they have no one in mind, so they must no longer be indulged, otherwise it will ruin all the good fortune of a family.
Sister Jane is 67 years old, but she still has to work hard.
She has a son, who is almost forty years old, and his personality is still very irritable and very selfish. Not only filial piety to parents, but also not support wives and children.
Sister Jane's son has a domineering personality, and because he is an only child, the couple is very fond of him.
The grandparents love their grandchildren even more, and they almost never beat or scold.
When my son was in elementary school, he had a very bad nature, always bullied his classmates, and fought many times in his senior grades.
After stepping out of society, my son also likes to associate with people with bad conduct. Sister Jian is accustomed to forbearance and tolerance for her son, and supports him unconditionally.
The domineering nature that led to the son was even more terrifying, and he had no respect and gratitude for his elders. Two years ago, my father was seriously ill, and my son was reluctant to even go to the hospital to take care of him.
All the expenses were a little savings left by Sister Jane herself, as well as borrowed from relatives.
They never imagined that their son would be so ruthless and unthankful.
The wife left almost in despair, and Sister Jane still has to continue to work, and her son will not care about himself at all.
The top calamity of a family is to encounter selfish children, no matter how much you give to them and the family, they will not be treated well in the end, and such children will not be productive for the rest of their lives.
02: Children who are ruthless enough can do all kinds of evil things
Nowadays, there are many young people who behave politely in front of outsiders and dare not resist when they are bullied.
But when I got home, I took all my bad emotions out on my parents.
They do all kinds of evil things, such as stealing their parents' money, lying, violence, and so on.
When doing these things, their faces do not change and their hearts do not beat, because they know that their parents love them very much, and they may be disappointed and angry at the moment, but as long as the matter is over, it will be fine.
Ruthless children have no feelings for their parents, and only have interests in their eyes.
As long as the friends around them have better things, such as a new mobile phone, a car, a house, etc., they also want it.
Children who don't love their parents can't see how hard they work, but willfully ask their parents to satisfy themselves unconditionally.
If you don't say yes, you'll start playing tricks.
The greatest calamity for a family is to meet a cruel child. If they are not disciplined, they will have endless troubles, and they will even do illegal and criminal things in order to achieve their goals.
Man, as a parent, you have endless things to worry about every day, and in the end, you may ruin the fate of the whole family.