The taboo between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: Even if you only touch one, your life will not be easy
Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been one of the most delicate, complex, and sensitive topics in Chinese families. Especially in today's society that focuses on family harmony, an unharmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is enough to make the atmosphere of the whole family tense. Here we list some taboos between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to warn readers: even if you only touch one, your life will not be peaceful.
Taboo 1: Unprincipled comparisons
"Look at your mother-in-law, how diligent people are, and if you look at you, you know how to play with your mobile phone all day long. I believe many daughters-in-law have heard such words.
It is normal for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to come from different family backgrounds and have different living habits and concepts.
However, some mothers-in-law like to compare their daughter-in-law with other people's daughters-in-law as a way to show their superiority or criticize their daughter-in-law's shortcomings. This unprincipled comparison not only hurts the daughter-in-law's self-esteem, but also undermines the trust and respect between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.
Taboo 2: Too much interference in household chores
Many mothers-in-law like to interfere in their daughters-in-law's household chores, from how to educate their children to how to arrange household expenses. They may have good intentions and want to contribute to the family, but this practice often suffocates the daughter-in-law.
Housework is a shared responsibility of every family member, and everyone should have the right to decide and participate. Too much mother-in-law interference will not only cause disgust from the daughter-in-law, but also make the family atmosphere tense.
Taboo 3: Showing off your "successful experience" too much
Some mothers-in-law like to use their "successful experience" to guide their daughters-in-law, such as "This is how I came back then", "I worked harder than you back then", etc.
This kind of ostentatious guidance often makes the daughter-in-law feel devalued and disrespected. Everyone has their own upbringing and lifestyle, and the mother-in-law should respect the daughter-in-law's choices and decisions, rather than using her own experience to bind her.
Taboo 4: Behind the scenes, right and wrong
Disputes between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are inevitable, but some mothers-in-law like to talk about their daughters-in-law behind their backs, and even belittle their daughters-in-law in front of their neighbors and friends. This practice not only broke the daughter-in-law's heart, but also made outsiders see jokes and damaged the image of the whole family. Mother-in-law should learn to use communication and understanding to resolve conflicts, rather than venting dissatisfaction through denigration.
Taboo 5: Ignoring the role of the husband
In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the role of the husband is crucial. Some mothers-in-law are too strong and ignore the existence of their husbands, resulting in their husbands being at a loss in the conflict between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. And some husbands are too partial to their mothers and ignore their daughters-in-law's feelings.
Either way, it will make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law even more strained. Husbands should learn to play the role of mediators between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to maintain harmony and balance in the family.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem that every family will face, and the quality of handling is directly related to the happiness and harmony of the family. In order to avoid unnecessary contradictions and conflicts, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should learn to respect and understand each other, and face each other's differences with an equal and open mind.
At the same time, the husband should also play his role well and become a bridge and bond between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Only in this way can we create a warm and harmonious family environment together.