If you want to be happy in your old age, learn these three "stupid" first!
When people are old, if they want to find traces of happiness, they must learn to do the three "stupid". This is not real ignorance, but a kind of wisdom and strategy in life. If you don't understand the essence of this "stupidity", I'm afraid it will only annoy people and make your later life full of helplessness and loneliness.
The first "stupid" is to learn to be "invisible"
Life is rare to be confused, and the most important thing is to "close your eyes and recuperate" at the right time. Not everything needs our intervention, and sometimes, "invisible" is the greatest support.
Life is like a play, it all depends on acting skills, and in the family scene, the elderly should learn to "close their eyes and recuperate" in a timely manner. When children educate their children, they may not be the same as you would expect, but remember that times are changing, and so should your approach to education. At this time, your "invisible" is the greatest support for them. In the same way, when there is a quarrel between the children and the couple, your "invisible" can avoid adding fuel to the fire and allow them to resolve the conflict in their own space. In addition, when children are in love, your "invisible" can avoid unnecessary interference and misunderstanding, and let them maintain the relationship in their own way. "Out of sight is pure", this is not indifference, but a kind of wisdom retreat.
The second "stupidity" is to "not hear"
As the years go by, "hearing but not hearing" is great wisdom. When your children complain or complain about you, you need to learn to blow these words on your ears. After all, their emotions may only be a temporary catharsis, and if you take it too seriously, you will only get yourself into endless troubles. Also, when they talk about you, you should keep a normal mind and "don't hear" those words that may be joking or malicious. Because you can't judge the truth and mystery of their words, instead of dwelling on them, it is better to pretend that you didn't hear anything, and maintain a free and detached feeling.
"Not hearing" is a kind of self-protection, which can keep us away from those unnecessary disputes and troubles, and maintain inner peace and peace.
The third "stupid" is to learn to "have no memory"
Life is like a dream, the past is like smoke, why let the past trouble the present? Learn to forget, not only to treat oneself well, but also to respect one's family. Let the past pass, whether it is glory or regret, it should not be a burden for you in the present. You just have to remember that tomorrow will be better. Whether you live alone or with your children, "no memory" can help you avoid unnecessary nagging and comments, and make the family atmosphere more harmonious. Moreover, you can also try to record your thoughts and feelings in words, which is not only a kind of emotional catharsis and sustenance, but also a trace and inheritance of life. When you are gone, these words may become the most precious memories and treasures of your family.
"No memory" is not really forgetting, but a release of the past and a vision for the future. It allows us to travel light and meet every new tomorrow.