(Disclaimer: This article is purely a fictional story, not my own experience, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence)
In a man, you can always see a piece of his responsibility and responsibility for the family, and if a woman is willing to marry herself far from home, this courage alone is enough to be admired.
However, this is the case with my wife, who met her by chance, and although there is a language barrier between us, in the face of love, it is all a cloud.
In the third year after we got married, my wife wanted to come home and ask me for some money, and when I learned why she asked me for money even though she had a job, I yelled, "You can go home as much as you want, I won't give you a penny anyway"!
01
My family's financial situation was not very good when I was a child, so my parents always taught me that I could be admitted to a good university to change the current situation of my family.
As an only child, if I want to get ahead, I can only listen to what my parents say to study hard.
During my school years, I didn't dare to have too much leisure time, after all, those talented people are still working hard, why don't we ordinary people work hard.
Finally, I ushered in the day of the college entrance examination, and the time to really test my hard work has come, whether I can "leap into the dragon gate", it depends on this time, even my usually busy parents came to cheer for me outside the test center, not wanting me to lose the college entrance examination due to nervousness.
On the day the results came out, I was surprised by the results, I never expected that I would be able to score more than 600 points, which is much higher than my usual score.
At that time, I longed for the Northeast the most, and after discussing with my parents, I applied for Northeastern University, and my score was more than enough for this school at that time.
When I went to college, I realized that there were so many beautiful girls in this school, and there were many North Korean girls.
The thought in my mind at that time belonged to the fact that my family's economic conditions should not think about falling in love first, and it was okay to find a girlfriend when I had a stable job.
Every noon, when school is over, I go to the school cafeteria for a work-study job to enrich my living expenses.
When I first started to help in the restaurant, I was the only student in this small shop, but it didn't take long for a North Korean student to come to our shop, and I and the proprietress of the store were stunned to see how there was such a beautiful girl.
We thought she was just here to eat, so we thought about asking what we wanted to eat, and before we could speak, the North Korean girl opened her mouth and said her broken Chinese: "Are you still recruiting people here?"
Immediately, my heart was like a deer, but I couldn't hold back this emotion, and I winked at the proprietress and asked if I could leave her in the store to help.
It is also because I am already familiar with the relationship with the proprietress, plus she is a native of the Northeast and has a relatively cheerful personality, so she saw through my careful thoughts at a glance and gave me a look.
Said to the girl: "We are still recruiting people here, do you think you can come to work at noon and afternoon after class every day"?
She hurriedly said, "Yes, I can help."
This response makes me very satisfied, after all, men are double standards, and you have to talk about falling in love, you just need to look at the right eye.
Since then, the two of us have become colleagues, and at first I was very shy, because before I went to university, I was always focused on my studies and didn't have too much contact with the opposite sex.
After slow contact, I found that she would slowly learn Chinese on her own on weekdays, and she had reached the point where she could communicate with us normally.
The funniest thing for me at the time was that a student came to report the meal, and she insisted on reporting one meal to another.
When the meal was ready, the classmate said, "This is not my food."
I looked at her suspiciously, and she looked at me suspiciously, thinking that I had heard correctly.
After some inquiry, I learned that it was the wrong meal, and the fish-flavored shredded pork was reported as shredded green pepper pork.
At this time, she laughed embarrassedly, and asked innocently: "Otherwise, I will take out this meal money, I am quite embarrassed to report the mistake."
The proprietress didn't say much, because she hadn't planned to make up for the meal from the beginning.
It was this time that I learned that her name was Shirley.
Because I don't dare to talk to her on weekdays, probably because she is a foreign girl, I feel a little oppressive in my heart.
From this incident, I found that she is actually quite cute, not so difficult to touch.
Over time, our relationship also became familiar, and when she was free, she also asked me to teach her Chinese, and they all said "love for a long time", which is not groundless.
About a year later, there was that ambiguity between us, and only I could understand her Chinese.
On the occasion of a night visit to the playground, I offered the idea of falling in love with Shirley, and Shirley was silent for a long time, and I thought she would not agree.
I was about to say that she should not take it to heart, but I was joking, but she opened her mouth to agree, and my mood at that time was like a roller coaster, with ups and downs.
02
So we talked about graduating from college, and I said to Shirley, "I'm thinking about whether to go here or back home, what about you?"
Shirley responded: "Otherwise, let's go to your hometown to develop, just listen to you tell me how good your hometown is, I haven't really seen it yet."
I was very surprised by her answer, I thought she was going to go back to her own country after graduation, but I didn't expect her to be willing to stay with me.
At this time, I was also very determined in my heart, I must not let this girl down, she is far away from home and works with me here, if I abandon her in the end, it will be too inhuman.
When I returned to my hometown, I didn't tell my parents about it, they only knew that I was talking about someone, but they didn't know that I was talking about a "foreign girl".
Shirley and I each found our own jobs, so we rented a house together in the city, and I couldn't take Shirley back to my hometown, because I was afraid that Shirley would dislike my family situation.
After working for almost two years, I have a lot of room for promotion in the company, and almost all of our expenses are borne by me alone.
However, during this time, Shirley only went home twice, and I asked curiously, "Shirley, don't you even miss home, why don't you talk to me about going home?"
These two questions instantly silenced Shirley, she said: "I think it's too troublesome to go home once, and it costs a lot of money, and it's okay to go back once a year."
She said this, and I didn't ask any more.
Then we worked for another two years, and my work had reached its peak, so it naturally stabilized, and I had saved a lot of money over the years, so I was ready to discuss marriage.
On the day of the proposal, it was also the first time I went to my mother-in-law's house, and their family background was also average, and I bought everything locally, because I didn't know what Shirley's parents liked to eat, and I was afraid that people would not like it.
My father-in-law and mother-in-law were very impressed by that proposal, and they were very satisfied with me and agreed to marry the two of us.
Subsequently, I took out 500,000 yuan in the city to pay the down payment for the house, after all, the little girl of the family married from such a distance, I can't let her live with me in a small house in the countryside, this can be regarded as a guarantee.
After we got married, our lives didn't feel much pressure because of the mortgage, because I could afford it alone.
I didn't ask too much about Shirley's salary, anyway, as long as she didn't have money, I would give it to her, and besides, she wasn't the kind of person who would buy anything she saw.
After more than a year of marriage, we have a "crystallization" of love, a little girl, and the mixed-race child is very well-behaved and beautiful, like a "doll".
In a flash, we have been married for three years, during which Shirley has not been home once, and this day suddenly said to me: "I want to go home, I haven't been back for a few years, I miss my parents".
I still feel sad for such a request, and I feel that it is not easy for her to marry far away.
At first, I was very much in agreement, and I even said to Shirley, "Otherwise, I'll take the child with you, and I will meet my father-in-law and mother-in-law by the way."
But she didn't agree, and felt that she could go back and let me continue to work with peace of mind.
But after Shirley packed her luggage in the evening, she was very embarrassed and said: "I have no money in my hand, can you give me 7,000 yuan, enough for me to go back and forth this time."
This sentence makes me wonder very much, what's going on, I haven't asked you for your money usually, no matter how you don't have money, you can't even have such a little money in your hands, right?
I asked, "What about your money? I haven't asked about your salary all these years, and I usually give you money to spend."
03
At this time, Shirley resignedly said: "I pay my younger brother every month, my parents usually don't work much, and I pay my brother's tuition and living expenses." ”
I figured it out, at that time, my father-in-law and mother-in-law thought that I was a wronged man, and they were so good to his daughter and could help him raise his son, so they were so satisfied.
I was very angry and said to Shirley: "Why don't you discuss this kind of thing with me, now that you are married, what does the family matter have to do with you, can you take care of your brother for the rest of your life?"
Shirley also lost her temper when she heard this, she felt that it was normal for her to support her brother, which was her duty as an older sister.
I never thought about how Shirley could have such a concept, how could a father-in-law and mother-in-law instill such a thought in Shirley, could she have to bear the expenses of the family as a little girl?
Besides, wouldn't I have become an ATM again?
Our dispute did not distinguish the winner or loser, and I didn't plan to let her, because this matter is very serious, and it is okay to occasionally give money to support, and now we will bear the expenses of the whole family, so how will our family live.
Wait until the next morning, Shirley found me: "You hurry up and give me 7,000 yuan, I'll go home in the afternoon, I'll see if my parents are still okay"?
I said, "Are you sure you're just looking at your parents, how much of the 7,000 yuan you spent on yourself, you don't have to ask me, I won't give you a penny anyway!"
I couldn't bear to see her crying next to me, but this phenomenon must be stopped, otherwise the idea of "helping my brother" will become more and more serious!
Do you think I'm doing the right thing? Isn't that too ruthless?
(Disclaimer: This article is purely a fictional story, not my own experience, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence)