Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Society is complex and easily disturbing.
Once, we thought that as long as we worked hard enough, we could fight for a good future. Later, I found out that I was always a little bit unlucky.
Some people, often do more with less, seem to be accompanied by good luck. And some people often get twice the result with half the effort, and it takes a lot of effort to do anything, but they can't get a good result.
Good luck is actually attracted by yourself. How you behave and how you treat others are all attracted by yourself.
"Xunzi" said: "If you say it, you know it, and if you do it silently, you also know it." ”
Whether a person's luck is good or bad can be seen from speaking.
02. There is no pattern in speaking, and most of the opportunities are ordinary
In our village, there was one college student at the earliest, and at that time, everyone in the village thought that he would have a future career.
However, more than ten years have passed, and he is currently receiving a salary of 3,000 yuan, and his life is not satisfactory.
The reason for this is that he speaks very unstructuredly.
Often when talking, he shows his mentality of taking advantage of small advantages, and shows the appearance of overcalculation. The people around him are unwilling to cooperate with him, and the boss is unwilling to promote him.
He always thought that he was a talented person, but in fact, he didn't realize that he was talking very unpatterned.
How a person speaks, what kind of life he will have.
Those who speak only self-centered, selfish, and only focus on their own interests are also difficult to achieve.
The more structured the person who speaks, the more he can control the overall situation, and the more popular he is.
If there is anything that others are willing to cooperate with him and are willing to face it with him, such a person will have a good opportunity.
03. The emotions hidden when speaking affect a person's development
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", when Bai Guang speaks, he always carries his personal emotions.
He has a strong sense of self-esteem, and when he encounters a little thing, he likes to quarrel with his lover and the people around him.
When he speaks, he is very impulsive, his voice is loud, and he picks the most hurtful words to hurt the people around him.
The people around him don't like to talk to him. Because, as soon as you speak, you will definitely quarrel with him.
Also because of his temper, family relationships are running badly, and he can't hold on to his job after job.
When a person speaks, the emotions mixed with it will affect his development.
If you maintain an optimistic and positive attitude when you speak, the people around you will feel his energy. Willing to work with him and make progress together.
People who are emotionally unstable and angry often have a hard time getting along with the people around them and running their own business.
The more people who do not manage their emotions well, the easier it is to hurt the hearts and dignity of others when they speak, and they do not know how to communicate and communicate well.
When speaking, optimistic, sunny, and humorous people, the more they are liked by others. Naturally, the career will develop for the better.
04. Speaking well is a kind of cultivation
Speaking can reflect a person's cultivation.
People who are not well cultivated will never talk well with others, nor will they communicate well with others.
When encountering problems, it is customary to blame others, shirk responsibility, and abuse. Moreover, they are accustomed to being self-centered and unwilling to consider the feelings of others.
With him, you will find that he is not able to listen patiently to your thoughts and is unwilling to communicate well with you.
When he speaks, he is mixed with sarcasm and hurt, and people can't help but want to lose their temper with him or distance themselves from him.
Talking well and communicating well with others is a kind of cultivation.
The more cultivated a person is, the more he will respect others and take care of others' feelings. No matter who you are with, be polite.
A person who is cultivated and speaks well will make people feel comfortable when they get along with him.
The people around him are naturally willing to associate with him and cooperate with him. Such a person will always have good luck with him.
05. Summary
"Lao Tzu" said: "It is better to keep the middle than to talk too much." ”
The most difficult thing in this life is to keep your mouth shut.
Don't say things that shouldn't be said, things that hurt people, things that aren't out of place.
Talk to others well, communicate effectively, and take care of others' feelings, and you will have better relationships.
When the popularity is good, the opportunity will come, and the good luck will come.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.