Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
In this world, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most complicated.
There is no blood relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but they have become a family. There is no emotional foundation between each other, and they are very strange.
The relationship between each other needs to be built together and maintained by each other.
Once, one of the parties does not manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well, it will be difficult to manage the relationship well.
When people reach their old age, they want to be treated well by the people around them. As an in-law, in her old age, she also hopes that she will be treated well by her daughter-in-law.
In life, there are some daughters-in-law who will not be filial to their in-laws. They generally have the following characteristics.
02. The daughter-in-law married into her in-law's family and was not treated and accepted well
I have a distant relative who, in his old age, had a particularly bad time.
When she was young, she was not kind to her daughter-in-law. When her daughter-in-law was confined, she played cards every day and did not help her, and she did not have a phone call when her daughter-in-law had surgery.
When her daughter-in-law was the most difficult, she chose to turn a blind eye and ignore it.
On top of that, she has always looked down on her daughter-in-law and felt that she had climbed her son. At home, all kinds of cynicism was given to her.
The daughter-in-law's heart was completely broken.
Later, the daughter-in-law came out to start a business, bought a house, and lived separately from her.
She made money, and her mother-in-law kept urging her son to hold the family's money in his hands. The son disagreed, so the mother-in-law quarreled with her daughter-in-law and wanted to manage the family's money.
As a result, there was a big quarrel, and the daughter-in-law never came to the door of her mother-in-law's house.
The in-laws are old, and the daughter-in-law doesn't want to go back to her in-laws' house. When the relatives got old, they regretted that they didn't treat their daughter-in-law well.
People's hearts need to be exchanged for sincerity.
If the daughter-in-law enters the mother-in-law's house and is accepted and treated well by the mother-in-law, she can truly establish a true relationship with the daughter-in-law.
Once in a book, I saw such a sentence: "The daughter-in-law who just entered the door is a blank piece of paper, as for what painting will become in the future, it is all drawn by the in-laws themselves!"
I think so.
The mother-in-law does not treat her daughter-in-law well, does not accept her, and treats her as an outsider, which will chill her heart sooner or later.
Naturally, when the in-laws are old, the daughter-in-law will not treat them sincerely and will not get along with them attentively.
03. The daughter-in-law has a bad character and does not know how to treat the elderly well
In a mother-in-law relationship, the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is not necessarily the mother-in-law's problem. It is also possible that the problem arises with the daughter-in-law.
Before, I watched a video that said:
A man married a girl because of his disability. The man's parents, knowing that their son was not in good health and were disabled, had been working hard and trying to save money.
The family conditions are not bad, and the man also likes the wife he marries.
Everything in the family, but whatever he can do, he will do as much as he can. If you can't do it, let your parents help bear it.
The girl is at home, she doesn't have to cook, she doesn't have to do the laundry. The family's money is also what she wants to buy.
However, the girl spends more and more money, and often does not go home. If her in-laws said a few words, she ran away from home and squandered a lot of money.
The in-laws saw that the money they prepared for their son was squandered by the girl, and their hearts ached. I had to work harder to make money.
The girl still feels that her in-laws are not good enough for her, and she dislikes the man's disability, and she either loses her temper or sulks at home. For the two old men, they are like calling a nanny, and they never give respect.
If the daughter-in-law has a bad character and flawed quality, she will not treat the elderly well.
If your own character is not good, you can't see the dedication of your in-laws, and you can't see their goodness. In everything, I only think about my own feelings and only care about my own interests.
Getting along with in-laws, there is no respect, no understanding, more contempt, or rejection.
In this way, no matter how much the in-laws give, the daughter-in-law will not cherish it from the bottom of her heart.
04. Summary
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very delicate and requires two people to manage it with their hearts.
Without the cooperation of either party, it is impossible to establish a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is a family. Be kind to each other and cherish each other with your heart. In this way, the family will become more and more harmonious and develop better and better.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.