Surely you have all been in this situation:
The phone screen flickered suddenly, and what jumped into my eyes was the three words sent by the familiar one - free?
A few numbers, but enough to make your heart surge, and countless possibilities play out in your mind in an instant.
Will this be a romantic date invitation from a beautiful woman?
Is it an urgent call for help?
Or is it an ordinary greeting from ordinary life?
Actually, there is no need to eagerly equate "are you free" with "I miss you".
Sometimes, she may really miss you and look forward to spending a warm moment with you and experiencing the closeness that only belongs to you.
Imagine that she is like a lost soul after not seeing you for a few days, her heart is full of concern for you, and she is curious about all your dynamics.
The "Are you free" is the call from the bottom of her heart:
I'm here, busy man! Come and stay with me!
If you have a crush on her, don't be stupid enough to plan a romantic date, even if it's just quietly walking the streets with her, it will satisfy her.
A woman's mind is much more than that.
Behind "Are you free?", there may be a question lurking in her.
Let me share a story with you: my friend Liu Qiang, there is a new colleague in the company who makes him excited, Lili.
Liu Qiang tried his best to treat and send flowers, but Lili was completely indifferent.
Until one day, Lili suddenly sent "Are you free", Liu Qiang almost floated up with excitement, thinking that the peach blossom luck had finally arrived.
Lili just wanted to ask him to help introduce an acquaintance in the industry, and Liu Qiang instantly became a "tool man".
When she asks you "are free", it may simply be because you have a resource or network in your hands that she desperately needs.
At this time, don't just weave love dreams, find out her true intentions first, and then decide whether to be generous or subtly show your value.
Do you remember Chen Hao and Chen Xin in the TV series "Clear Sky and Warm Sun"?
Chen Hao mistakenly thought that Chen Xin had a good impression of him, but people just wanted to discuss his experience in the workplace.
See, sometimes "Are you free" is purely a prelude to work discussions or exchange ideas.
She may be struggling with a question and needs someone to talk to or hear from you.
If you misread her intentions, blindly offering hospitality will only make her feel that you are missing the point, and it will make the relationship awkward.
Don't be in a hurry, listen patiently to what she really wants to talk about, be an empathetic listener, and maybe take this opportunity to improve your image score in her heart.
The words "are you free" are like a box of candy with an unknown flavor, and you can never guess what the next one will taste like.
It may be a sweet invitation to miss you, a practical challenge that needs to be solved urgently, or a collision of ideas full of wisdom.
As a man, you have to learn to decipher these "psychological codes" and be neither self-inflicted nor aloof.
Maintain a normal mental mind to show your charm and strength in a timely manner, so that you can be comfortable in complex interpersonal interactions.
Remember Rousseau's words:
The fragility of human beings brings us into the social sphere, and the common predicament that binds our hearts closely.
Both men and women, we all have times of vulnerability and need the understanding and support of others.
Don't be confused in the face of the question of "are you free?", let's try to be the one who understands her!
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The next time you receive "Are you free", don't be confused, let's become smart men who know how to respond and listen!