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Peach Blossom Eyes
Peach Blossom Eyes
Preamble:
"Is happiness really so easy to come by?"
A woman's best years should be used to find true love or chase dreams? In this era of looking at faces, how many people can really understand the softness and strength of their hearts?
Xu Weining, the face of a mixed-race child, hides the most delicate and sincere emotions.
She once devoted herself to an 8-year long-distance love run, but in the end, she was betrayed by her boyfriend.
However, fate always seems to love to joke with her, making her marry a scumbag for the second time.
Fortunately, Xu Weining has already seen through that happiness is never given by others, but earned by himself.
At the age of 40, she has a bumper harvest in career and love, and has lived her most wonderful life.
Her story is worth reading for every woman.
22岁到30岁:爱情长跑，不离不弃
Xu Weining was born in a broken family, and her mixed-race status made her suffer from bullying since she was a child.
Lacking her father's love, she has always had a soft and sensitive place in her heart.
Therefore, when Ruan Jingtian's love came, she unreservedly devoted all her sincerity.
At that time, she was young and ignorant, thinking that as long as she paid sincerely, she could get a good result.
In those 8 years, she accompanied Ruan Jingtian from a poor boy to a Golden Horse actor.
When he was the most depressed, he couldn't even pay the rent, so Xu Weining silently gave everything.
She doesn't care about his poverty, she only cares about his dreams.
She believes that as long as two people truly love each other, they can go through any difficult situation hand in hand.
This kind of unrequited dedication moved Ruan Jingtian.
He vowed to give Xu Weining a bright future.
However, when Ruan Jingtian finally succeeded, he couldn't wait to leave behind this woman who had been with him for many years.
was riddled with scandals, and he was messing with flowers and grass outside, which made Xu Weining heartbroken.
She didn't understand why her sincerity was exchanged for betrayal.
At that moment, she suddenly realized that love is not the whole of life.
One person's happiness cannot be pinned on others.
The 8-year relationship is said to be released, which is a huge blow to Xu Weining.
But instead of complaining about this, she chose to let go and start over.
She understands that instead of dwelling on the pain of falling out of love, she should strive to create a new life.
After all, there are many possibilities in life, and love is just one of the options.
30 years old: Be brave enough to let go and chase your dreams
30 years old is the most beautiful age for a woman.
Many women will choose to get married and have children at this time, and be content with the status quo.
But Xu Weining did not confine herself to the haze of broken love and social expectations, but decided to devote herself to her career.
She wants to prove to herself that the value of a woman is not only in love and family.
She is no longer willing to be a supporting actress for ten thousand years, but takes the initiative to take on various types of roles.
She dared to appear without makeup, dared to act in horror movies, and proved with her strength that she was more than just a vase.
She wants everyone to see how independent and strong a woman can be.
This spirit of defying difficulties and daring to challenge has moved many people.
"Sixteen Summers" became a watershed in her acting career, allowing her to win the Golden Bell Award for Best Supporting Actress.
This award is not only an affirmation of her acting skills, but also an appreciation of her courage.
Xu Weining used his actions to tell the world that 30 years old is just the beginning of a new chapter in his life.
Women should have a broader world, rather than being bound by age and marriage.
In this process, Xu Weining also experienced many setbacks and doubts.
Some people say that she is a "leftover woman", and some people say that she is "not feminine enough".
But she wasn't swayed by that.
She knows that she wants inner satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment, not the approval of others.
This kind of firm self has made her go further and further on the road of acting.
37 years old: Fall again, marriage failed
Xu Weining, who has a successful career, is once again emotionally fighting.
At the age of 37, she and her boyfriend, who had been in love for two years, entered the marriage hall, but it ended in divorce after only two years.
This marriage seems to confirm her "unlucky" in love.
Many people feel sorry for her and think she deserves a better home.
Perhaps, in the eyes of outsiders, Xu Weining's emotional experience is a failure again and again.
But she doesn't think so.
In her opinion, she has a clear conscience by being brave enough to love and work hard.
Since marriage cannot give her the happiness she wants, it is also wise to choose liberation.
She is unwilling to compromise and live in the expectations of others.
What she wants is a life that truly belongs to her.
This failed marriage made Xu Weining see her heart more clearly.
She understands that it's better to be alone than to be the wrong person.
A person's happiness should not be based on dependence on others.
Only by learning to love yourself can you have true freedom and happiness.
Xu Weining vividly explained this truth with his personal experience.
39 years old: Second marriage, fate
Not long after the divorce, Xu Weining sparked love with the actor Qiu Ze when he was filming the movie "When a Man is in Love".
The two quickly fall in love and become husband and wife in a flash of lightning.
This decision once again made Xu Weining the focus of public opinion.
Many people don't understand why she remarried so quickly, or married a "scumbag".
However, Qiu Ze's reputation as a "scumbag" in the entertainment industry has long been well known.
His romance with Rainie Yang and Tang Yan ended in unhappiness.
Many people are not optimistic about their marriage, and feel that Xu Weining is self-defeating, and she deserves a better man.
After all, in the eyes of the public, a woman's happiness always seems to be built on the basis of a "good man".
But in Xu Weining's eyes, love is never a promise, but a fate.
She saw the sensitive and dedicated soul behind Qiu Ze, and resolutely married him.
Perhaps, the "scumbag" in the eyes of others is the Prince Charming in her heart.
This kind of courage to pursue love bravely regardless of the world's vision is worthy of everyone's admiration.
In this marriage, Xu Weining has gained unprecedented happiness and satisfaction.
There is a deep understanding and trust between her and Qiu Ze.
They supported each other, grew together, and became an integral part of each other's lives.
This may be the true meaning of love, find someone who understands you, appreciates you, and supports you, and walks through the ups and downs of life together.
40 years old: a double harvest in love and career
When he reached middle age, Xu Weining's life ushered in a new peak.
In her career, she won the miniseries TV with "She and Her Her", and her strength was highly recognized.
This award is the best reward for her years of hard work.
She used her strength to prove that women can still bloom at the age of 40.
In love, her marriage with Qiu Ze is stable and sweet, and the two are very affectionate.
This belated happiness made Xu Weining cherish it even more.
She understands that true love is not easy and needs to be maintained by two people.
There is a deep understanding and trust between her and Qiu Ze.
They supported each other, grew together, and became an integral part of each other's lives.
Looking back on the past, Xu Weining was full of emotion.
She does not regret the efforts she has made, nor does she resent the injuries she has done.
It is the ups and downs along the way that have made her more mature and flexible today.
She understands that there is no such thing as missing out in life, and every experience is a growth.
As long as you don't give up the pursuit of happiness, you will eventually find your own piece of heaven.
The 40-year-old Xu Weining is a more complete and confident woman.
She has the achievements of her career, and she also has the nourishment of love.
But more importantly, she has herself.
She no longer needs to be attached to others, because she knows that she is the brightest star.
This may be the ultimate ideal state of every woman.
Epilogue:
Xu Weining's life story tells us not to pin your happiness on others.
Love can make a woman, but it can never destroy a woman.
Whether you are at the right age when the flowers are blooming, or you are middle-aged, as long as you are willing to work hard and dare to chase your dreams, you can have your own wonderful.
Xu Weining did it, Cai Shuzhen did it, and every one of us can do it.
Let us move forward hand in hand to create our own beautiful life! Because happiness is never given by others, but we strive for it ourselves.