In reality, it does not mean that parents can accept everything they do. Because children are also flesh and blood.
There are preferences, and they also have their own temper.
Some things go too far, and they just can't take it on.
At that time, even if parents use "filial piety" and "family affection" to ask each other to accept, they may not be able to achieve it.
When people reach old age, don't be stubborn and do 3 things in your children's home.
Excessive actions often hurt the whole family, and there is no room for manoeuvre.
01 Don't make a big thing happen
In reality, some elderly people will live with their children for various reasons.
At this time, it is important to remember that don't make a small thing a big thing.
There are some things that don't need to be angry, so don't get angry. There are some things that don't need to be overcome, so don't make a big fuss.
I've never seen big things turn small. I've never seen a small thing turn into a big one.
For example, my acquaintance friend is awkward because of her mother-in-law's trivialities.
Her mother-in-law is holding on to a little thing every day.
In the end, the relationship between the friend and her husband took a sharp turn for the worse, and even reached the point of divorce.
This kind of attitude of the elderly has caused a lot of family conflicts, which requires special attention.
When people reach their old age, they must find something to do for themselves. When people have nothing to do, it's easy to make a big fuss.
It's like in some companies, the leader deliberately tosses his subordinates because he has nothing to do, which is a reason.
When people are old, they must also keep themselves full, otherwise, it is easy to feel empty in their hearts, and in the end they have nothing to do.
02 All kinds of fingers scolding Huai, the spouse of the child
In reality, the elderly will play a very important role in the marriage of their children. This role is even decisive.
If in a family, the elderly have always been hostile to the spouses of their children, all kinds of disrespect.
Even in life, all kinds of difficulties for each other.
It's no wonder that this small family can live well.
In the end, it is very likely that you will be complained by your own children.
For example, smart parents, when their children's small family has conflicts, will be evened out with a bowl of water, and will not protect their children.
even directly scolded his own children and made the other party angry.
That's how relationships are kept.
And some old people, it's the other way around.
Always day long, to scold the spouse of the children. You say that this relationship can be good, it's weird.
In reality, the elderly must have foresight when dealing with family relationships.
Do not favor your children.
Otherwise, the direction of marriage must not be beautiful.
03 Don't make decisions in your children's lives
In reality, when children reach a certain age, they should make decisions about their lives.
Even if we are parents, we should not overstep our responsibilities and make decisions about their lives.
Otherwise, the struggle for the dominance of life must be indispensable.
The relationship will not be good.
For example, when it comes to the children's life events, such as finding a job, forming a small family, and their husband and wife, we only give advice, not the decision.
Some old people must be in charge and feel that they are the first to be right.
But in fact, there are times when we can't keep up with the trend of the times.
And this kind of decision-making will definitely have a very bad relationship with the children.
When people get old, the best way to live is to pay more attention to themselves. Don't get too involved in your children's lives.
They have their own lives, so let's live them for themselves.
Too much interference will inevitably lead to complaints and eventually break down the relationship.
Very bad.