After all, all human beings must directly face the cruelty of "growing old"! From Peking University professors to ordinary people, the five families cannot avoid the dilemma of "providing for the elderly."
Recently, an article on Phoenix.com "When a Peking University Professor Becomes a 24-Hour Caregiver" has resonated with many netizens.
After all, we have to face the cruel "old age"
Author: Wang Zhiyan Source: Phoenix.com
When you are in the prime of your life, you have wisdom, career, family and modern lifestyle, and suddenly you are forced to work for 9 hours a day, including but not limited to: making soft food, feeding food, cleaning up phlegm stains on the floor, putting spilled items back in place, bathing, wiping, changing diapers, changing inner and outer clothes, changing bed sheets and bedding, playing and chatting, running to the hospital, feeding medicine......
Hu Yong: Professor and doctoral supervisor of the School of Journalism and Communication of Peking University, chairman of the Academic Committee of the Institute of Information Society of the Chinese Society of Information Economics.
Now, such a social elite, also by his own dementia 85-year-old mother, has become a 24-hour "nanny", he said that his biggest achievement at present is: one day to grasp the time of his mother's urine, so that she did not pee her pants in a day, nor pull the quilt.
Successful people, such as Professor Hu Yong, have always struggled to find a balance between "being themselves" and "being a filial son".
In Jinan, Shandong Province, the news that a middle school teacher brought her mother with Alzheimer's disease to work is still being concerned. On April 19, the reporter interviewed the teacher Sun Yuanjin, who took his mother to work.
Peking University professor Hu Yong's mother has severe Alzheimer's disease, and Professor Sun's mother has relatively mild symptoms and can take care of herself.
When the reporter asked his grandmother, "How long have you been in our school?"
Grandmother: "It's only been more than ten days!"
Teacher Sun on the side smiled helplessly: "My mother has actually been here since last year. ”
When her grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease, how to take better care of her mother became Mr. Sun's heart disease. In the end, by reporting to the school and communicating with colleagues, I was able to bring my mother to work.
Many parents also expressed their support for Mr. Sun's approach, and parents also felt that teaching by example was greater than words, and the students in Ms. Sun's class went home and said to their parents: When you are old, I will also take you with me.
Under the positive influence of Ms. Sun, the class shows an atmosphere of respecting the elderly and filial piety, and at the same time brings positive energy to the school.
On April 13, Qingdao broadcast media reported that a woman in Loudi, Hunan Province posted her 80-year-old father's pension status.
The old man has six children, five of whom are bosses, all five of them pay wages to women, 1,000 yuan a month per person, and his daughter is an intimate nanny for his father, and even beg God to let his father live a long life, because his father is his cash cow, and his father will live a long life, and she will never be unemployed.
The daughter, who is responsible for taking care of the elderly, follows the old father every day to eat fragrant food, drink spicy food, and cook nutritious and balanced meals in different ways, taking care of the old father meticulously.
This kind of pension model of having money to contribute power, and the elderly are healthy and healthy, has aroused the envy of netizens. The children are very filial, and they can see happiness from the old man's face, and they are full of red faces.
It can be seen that in the happy old age, in addition to the filial piety and prosperity of the children, a large part of the reason lies in the health of the elderly.
On April 17, Yiwu Media released a video in which the woman in the video gave up her career and took care of her brain-damaged mother for 3 years.
After the mother's brain injury, her temperament changed greatly, often reversing night and day, crying for no reason, incontinence, and snot and saliva.
According to the woman, the mother's state is getting worse and worse, and in the past three years, she has also married and had children, and has a baby, and now the mother's state has affected the growth of the baby, and she has no choice but to give up taking care of her mother in person and send her mother to a nursing home.
A newly formed family, facing a mother with brain damage, is really a difficult test for the family.
How to face the pension is a test of human nature, and sometimes, the praised "filial piety" has to give way to reality.
On April 20, there was an article on Guangming.com: A 47-year-old Ningbo man suffered from anxiety disorders when he took care of six elderly people.
The man in the article, Mr. Chen, has been accompanying the four elderly people in his family for several years to see a doctor, and finally he collapsed to anxiety.
Mr. Chen and his wife are both only children, and his wife is not in good health, so the burden of taking care of the four elderly people of both parents falls on his head. Due to family reasons, Mr. Chan also has to take care of his elderly aunt and uncle.
Six old men pressed down on Mr. Chen like a mountain.
Mr. Chen reluctantly said that he has six health insurance cards in his pocket every day, ready to accompany them to the doctor's appointment.
This kind of physical and mental torture and pressure caused me to feel that my body could not bear it.
Write at the end
Single-child families like Mr. and Mrs. Chen, from the first generation of only children in China to the present, have begun to face the problem of providing for four elderly people.
The doctor gave some advice to middle-aged people who were also anxious about taking care of the elderly.
Taking care of the elderly is easy to cause physical fatigue and is also easy to be infected with negative emotions, so taking care of the elderly should seek the help of family members, and you can hire housekeeping staff to share the pressure.
We must learn to reduce our burden and self-mediate, after all, we can only take care of the elderly if we take care of ourselves first.
Even if the pension system is perfect, the main force to take care of the elderly is still the children.
Finally, write a few words related to pension: the emotions between people are two-way running, and it is difficult to gain without paying. Therefore, it is important for the original family to have a smooth transition and live in harmony with the newborn family.
As the old saying goes, "ten years to see the mother-in-law, ten years to see the daughter-in-law", but where the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a good relationship, the family happiness is higher.
When you are old, there will really come a day when you need the care of your children, and your children will be willing to give back, not just out of responsibility and obligation.
Professor Hu Yong said: In the final analysis, the human condition is birth, old age, sickness and death, and that "darkness" is very close.
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