As soon as I entered Layue, my son called me and said that he would take me to his house for the New Year, but I refused at that time.
I don't want to be like last year, when people and my parents-in-law were intimate and harmonious, and my mother was left aside.
My name is Liu Chengyun, I am 59 years old, and my wife and I are both retired workers.
The only son Lu Ming is 34 years old and has been married for 6 years, and his cute little grandson is 4 years old and is in kindergarten.
My son and daughter-in-law are all working in the provincial capital, about three or four hundred miles away from us, and my daughter-in-law Lei Fang's maiden home is also there.
My wife unfortunately passed away the spring before last, and after dealing with the aftermath, my son and daughter-in-law wanted me to live at their house for a while. I didn't agree, but promised them to go to his house for the New Year.
Last year's Spring Festival, I did spend it at my son's house, but I didn't expect it to be awkward, which made me feel very uncomfortable.
When my son came to pick me up, it was already the twenty-eighth day of the lunar month, and he had just taken a vacation. I steamed steamed buns at home, made some braised pork, and bought a lot of things.
On the twenty-nineth, my son and I went to the supermarket with a family of three, and they bought me new clothes and took me around the neighborhood again, and I was very happy on this day.
On the morning of the thirtieth day, my father-in-law and mother-in-law came, and they were all dressed very festively and brought a lot of things.
When the son saw them, he shouted very kindly, one by one. The little grandson also ran to them to be coquettish. They brought new clothes for their grandson again, took out red envelopes, and there were bursts of laughter in the room.
After greeting my in-laws, I invited them to sit down and drink tea, but my mother-in-law pulled me and told Lei Fang to boil water.
As soon as my father-in-law arrived, he went to the kitchen to work, and I felt embarrassed, so I asked him to sit in the living room while I cooked.
Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law pulled me into the living room, and she and her father-in-law were in the kitchen to choose and wash vegetables. Lu Ming gave them a hand, and Lei Fang played with the children, but I didn't have anything to do.
Lu Ming talked and laughed with his parents-in-law, as if he was someone's own son. Ever since he became an adult, he has rarely been so close to me and his dad.
My wife and I used to feel that the more our son grew up, the more separated he became, and we both relied on careful care to maintain this family relationship.
I didn't expect my son to be so relaxed and unrestrained in front of his parents-in-law. It reminds me of the carefree nature he had when he was a kid.
I don't understand, although his family of three didn't go back to his hometown during the epidemic, he spent the New Year with his parents-in-law, and he often went there to eat, but no matter what, two or three years of getting along is better than more than 30 years of blood kinship, right?
I was envious of them, and I couldn't be idle, so I came to the kitchen to find some work.
When my mother saw me, she pushed me out and snatched the food from my hand. I tried to wash the dishes again, and she took it for me.
She said that I should go and rest, and Lu Ming also said: "Mom, you go to watch TV, it's good to have your parents here, the kitchen is small, and you can't stand so many people." ”
So, I was pushed out of the kitchen, and I felt very uncomfortable. Somehow, I suddenly thought of the old Xianglin sister-in-law in "Blessing".
I looked at my in-laws who were busy in the kitchen, and I felt that they were more familiar with this home than I was, and they knew everything and where. The point is that they have a very confident sense of ownership.
Looking at Lu Ming next to them, I couldn't help but feel a sour feeling in my heart.
Although the names of Lu Ming and Lei Fang are written on this house, the down payment is from my wife and me, and the monthly payment is also ours. Because we felt sorry for our son, we refused to let him take the money.
Although I didn't want to live with my son, as a funder, should I be more like a master than my in-laws?
But judging from the current situation, they seem to be the hosts, but I have become a guest, isn't it a bit noisy?
I don't know what they mean, do they want me to be self-conscious, not to regard this place as my own home? Let me always think that my home is in that small county town hundreds of miles away?
I sat bored on the couch, and my little grandson ran to my grandparents to make trouble. They played with the children for a while, and the fun of teasing their grandchildren made their laughter even more hearty.
During the meal, my mother-in-law vigorously put vegetables in my bowl and asked me to eat more, and she really regarded me as a guest.
In the evening, we all watched the Spring Festival Gala together, and did not go back until the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner was over.
On the first day of the Lunar New Year, my son and daughter-in-law took me to visit my in-laws' family again, and they also came in the afternoon, saying that they were here to pay New Year's greetings to me.
The second day of the Lunar New Year was the day when the married daughter returned to her parents' house to pay New Year's greetings, and the family of three went after breakfast. I'm just at home watching TV.
My in-laws called me several times to come over for dinner, and I knew that she was just polite, so I hurriedly said that I had eaten.
In the next few days, it was far less lively than the 30th day, my son and daughter-in-law each played with their mobile phones, and I watched TV. Only the liveliness of the little grandson can bring us joy.
I finally had the opportunity to show off my cooking skills, and I was a little happy to see how energetic the children were eating.
My son would also serve me vegetables, but only vegetables, not even a word. On the 30th day, when he served vegetables to his parents-in-law, he would say "Dad, you eat a piece of fish" and "Mom, you eat pork ribs".
I don't know why my son and I talk less and less, I know that we both have each other in our hearts, and we all care about each other, but there are some things that I can't say, and I always feel awkward and numb.
On the day of the Lantern Festival, the two in-laws came again, this time they didn't be polite to me again, my father-in-law cooked, and my mother-in-law made dumplings.
We happily had another reunion dinner together, and after the meal I told everyone that I was going back after the fifteenth day, and the children had to go to work and school, and I couldn't help much, so I wouldn't make a mess for them.
Actually, I know very well in my heart that my in-laws often come to my son's house, and my son's family of three often goes to their house, and it is inconvenient for me to be here.
Sure enough, they were all simply polite, and none of them resolutely retained. When my mother was leaving, she told me to come back often, as if this was her home. I thought to myself: Shouldn't I have said this to her?
On the sixteenth day of the first lunar month, I took the car back home.
As soon as I entered the house, I suddenly felt very relaxed, no wonder people said: the golden nest and the silver nest are not as good as their own kennels. It seems that he is still comfortable in his own home.
When I came back, I decided not to go to my son's house anymore for the Chinese New Year. He has parents-in-law and his own wife and children, and he will not be alone, so I am relieved.
Unexpectedly, my son asked me to go again this year, and I happily told him not to go.
I plan to transfer 2,000 yuan of New Year's money to my little grandson on the thirtieth day, and I can simply spend the New Year at home.
Unexpectedly, on the twenty-eighth day of the lunar month, my son's family of three came back, and they also brought a lot of New Year's goods.
I asked my son why he didn't accompany his parents-in-law for the New Year, and he said, "Mom, my parents asked us to come back to spend the New Year with you." They said that they wanted everyone to celebrate the New Year together, so that you would not be sad to think of your father. Since you don't go to my house, we'll go home and be with you. ”
The little grandson also rubbed over to me and shouted, "Grandma, grandma", and I actually cried with joy.
It turned out that my in-laws were warm-hearted, and it seemed that I was cautious and lived up to the kindness of others.
At the reunion dinner on the evening of the 30th, I suddenly felt a little uncomfortable. I remembered that my in-laws must be very lonely, and I said to my daughter-in-law: "I will go to your house for the New Year next year, so that your parents will also go, and we will still be lively together." ”
The son and daughter-in-law were very happy, and the little grandson shouted loudly, "Oh——, celebrate the New Year with grandparents".
His immature voice spread far and wide, and we all raised our glasses together and drank for a harmonious and beautiful life in the future.
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