I don't know since when, there is such an argument about "whether to let parents help take care of children": parents (man \ woman) help you take care of your children is love, and it is your duty not to help you take care of your children. The kind of parents who feel sorry for their children and take the initiative to help reduce the financial burden of the young couple must be grateful to their children, but the kind of parents who ignore the child after it is born, and wait until the child is older to "suddenly enthusiastically" help bring it, which is somewhat difficult to evaluate!
➤ Recently, I saw a mother's help-seeking post, originally I thought it was just an ordinary help-seeking post of "do you want to send your child back to your hometown to bring to your parents", but I didn't expect it to be induced by netizens into a family "conspiracy drama"!
➤ The poster and her husband are in free love, and both are only children. What is more incredible is that the whole process from falling in love to getting married to having children is a long distance for the young couple. After giving birth, the two of them saw each other once every half a month, for two days at a time.
▽Now that the child is half a year old, her husband asks to wean the child and send the child to his parents (the child's grandparents). But the owner of the post is unwilling, first, the child has always been reluctant to bring it in person, and second, she can bring it herself with the help of her parents. Because this matter can't be discussed, the relationship between the two has also cracked, and now the husband of the post owner doesn't say a word to her.
In the opinion of the poster's husband, the parents retired in order to take care of the children, but the wife occupied the children and did not bring them to the parents. The old man was really wronged by not having a child!
➤ Because I don't know what the poster's own conditions are, whether there is any financial resources now, and what are the conditions of the original family... A lot of things are not good to evaluate. Just rushed to the husband of the poster and said that she "occupied the child and did not bring it to the elderly", because the poster refused to send the child to the grandparents and was cold and violent to the poster, I feel that the poster's husband didn't take her seriously at all, let alone the child!
▽What is it called to occupy the child?,The child was originally born by the woman.,It's also the owner of the post who worked hard to raise it until he was half a year old (the man basically didn't participate). If you look at the frequent incidents of mothers jumping off buildings in recent years, women are very fragile physically and mentally for a long time after giving birth!
And the child is only half a year old, half a year old forced to wean the child to send to the hometown, let the child be a left-behind child, this is what the father can do?
➤ The poster said that her husband has a good job and a good income, even if the poster doesn't work full-time with children, the pressure shouldn't be too big, right?
I don't understand the brain circuit of the husband, and I feel sorry for my parents who can't take my children, but I don't feel sorry for my wife and children. No wonder some netizens said that the poster's husband is preparing for divorce + snatching children, so let the poster guard against it!
➤ I think the netizens' analysis is reasonable, but deep down I don't want to be said by netizens.
Because judging from the words used by the poster to describe her husband as "good job", "good income", "responsible and not bothered", the poster is still quite satisfied with her husband, and she has never doubted her husband. If his husband does some disgusting operations behind her back in order to divorce, it is estimated that her psychology will collapse!
▽ I hope this is the husband of the poster's family, in order to force the poster to go out to work, or grandparents to pick "fruit"!
When the child is young, his mother has worked hard to bring it, and the grandparents can't see it; when they have survived the most difficult time, the child is older and easy to bring, and they come over twice in three days to tease and brush their sense of existence, so that the child recognizes themselves; when the child is going to kindergarten, he offers to help take care of the child, which is called making the child's mother go to work easily and easily......
But for her mother, what she needs is charcoal in the snow instead of icing on the cake!
➤ To sum up: happy families are all similar, and unhappy families have their own thoughts. I hope everyone can keep their eyes open and go to happiness!