In 1930, Mei Lanfang's aunt passed away, and after Meng Xiaodong heard the news, he cut his short hair, put on a linen and wore filial piety, and came to Mei Mansion alone to mourn. But as soon as she entered the house, she was stopped by three or four servants: Miss Meng, please come back.
Mei Lanfang, who was in the hall, saw this scene, and he turned his head to look at the second wife who was pregnant with Liujia, sitting in front of the spirit hall, and greeted the second wife, and whispered: "Don't look at the monk's face to see the Buddha's face, Xiao Dong has already come, I will let her prostrate her head." ”
(Fu Zhifang)
When Fu Fangzhi heard this, she brushed the ground and got up, and said sharply: If she dares to enter this door, I will fight with her with the lives of three children!
Mei Lanfang's face was ugly and she didn't say a word. Meng Xiaodong lost face and collapsed and left in full view of everyone.
Married for three years, the same Is the Ming media is marrying, but Meng Xiaodong has not even been able to step into the door of the Mei family.
All this is because of Fu Zhifang.
01
Know the general body, know the advance and retreat, and sit firmly in the main room
What kind of means did Fu Zhifang have to make a generation of Peking Opera master Mei Lanfang obey her, and even Meng Xiaodong could only swallow her anger?
In the words of Feng Liuye, a key figure in the "Mei Party", at first it was just: good looks, good singing, and can be born.
However, in terms of "being able to be born", in the view of the "Mei Party" at that time, it was particularly important. This has to start with Mei Lanfang's original wife Wang Minghua.
(Wang Minghua)
Wang Minghua was born in a Family of Peking Opera, beautiful and virtuous, and Mei Lanfang had a son and a daughter. In order to better support her husband's career, Wang Minghua defied persuasion and went so far as to be sterilized.
However, the weather is unpredictable, who expected that when Mei Lanfang's career was successful and the family was happy, a pair of children died of urticaria.
Wang Minghua was devastated, Mei Lanfang was also deeply in pain and could not extricate herself, what was more fatal was that Mei Lanfang was a single lineage, shouldering the heavy responsibility of succession in two rooms.
Although Wang Minghua and Mei Lanfang had a broken relationship, under the pressure of the "Mei Party", Wang Minghua had to Zhang Luo to remarry Mei Lanfang.
In the end, they fell in love with The Danjiao, known as "Tianqiao Mei Lanfang", Fuzhi Fang.
(Fu Zhifang and Mei Lanfang)
As for why it was her, someone revealed in his recollection that in fact, Feng Liuye had selfish intentions at that time:
Fu Zhifang is twenty-eight years old, her family is poor, she has not read books, there is only her mother in the family, there is no social background, and there is no need to worry about Mei Lanfang only listening to her wife's words in the future, shaking the status of the "Mei Party" in her heart.
That is, the woman seems "hassle-free".
After marrying into the Mei family, Fu Zhifang did give up her stage career at the request of the Mei family, but her personality was not so easy to grasp, and it can also be said that she was very assertive.
The first thing she did when she came to Mei's house was to study.
Fu Zhifang knew that he had no culture, so he took the initiative to ask her husband to hire a tutor for him.
In the days that followed, she practiced writing every morning, memorized ancient Chinese, read vernacular, read magazines, and studied for four years without interruption.
Over time, from being illiterate in large characters to being able to read novels by himself, he could even help his husband choreograph new plays and appreciate calligraphy and paintings with his husband. Who wouldn't like such a smart, hard-working wife?
In addition to studying, she also runs the housework and assists her husband in his career.
(Mei Lanfang stills)
Fu Zhifang can not only deal with backstage chores such as makeup and costume design, but also is particularly good at mediating the contradictions between the actors in the team, and various conflicts between meijia classes are reconciled and resolved by her.
Therefore, not only did Mei Lanfang feel that she had added Xian Neisuke, but even the people in Mei's class loved her very much.
Of course, the biggest challenge is actually to deal with the relationship with Wang Minghua, but even this point, Fu Zhifang can be called a full score!
It should be known that Mei Lanfang is not Fu Zhifang, who married Wang Minghua before her relationship broke down, and the husband and wife have always supported each other and are in love. Even on the wedding night, Mei Lanfang first went to Wang Minghua's room to accompany her for a while, telling her: I have gone, you rest. Then, I arrived at Fu Zhifang's room.
Fu Zhifang saw all this clearly, but she was not jealous.
After her first child was born, she instructed her mother to send the child to Wang Minghua's room, which was her son.
Wang Minghua was also touched by Fu Zhifang's "understanding", personally knitted a tiger head hat for the child, stayed until the full moon, and returned it to Fu Zhifang, and instructed that he was not in good health, hoping that his sister would take care of more family affairs and take good care of the only seedling of the Mei family. Since then, he has withdrawn from the control of the Mei family.
(Mei Lanfang and Fu Zhifang)
Wang Minghua was kind, virtuous, and considerate of the overall situation, and Fu Zhifang also returned her with respect, sincerity and propriety, until Wang Minghua's death, and after Wang Minghua's death, she really became the only hostess of Meifu.
If fu zhifang did not want the dowry to be famous, it was the first step for her to stand on the Mei family, then winning the hearts of Mei Lanfang, Wang Minghua and "Mei Dang" at the same time was the key to her sitting firmly in the main room.
Knowing the general body and knowing the advance and retreat, Fu Zhifang has gained respect with her thoughtfulness, diligence and ability.
02
It should be released, it should be fierce, and the wisdom should be withdrawn from the small three
Such a harmonious and smooth life lasted for five years, until Meng Xiaodong appeared.
One is the enchanting and colorful King of Danjiao, the other is the emperor of Susheng, who is just and righteous, and the audience likes to watch the plays of Mei and Meng, and bring this kind of love into reality, saying that the two are a match made in heaven and a good story.
With the help of the people around them, two horns who like and appreciate each other come together. In 1926, Mei Lanfang married Meng Xiaodong in Dongcheng Yuxuan.
(Meng Xiaodong)
This is a common thing in the Republic of China, where men have three wives and four concubines. Everyone thought that Fu Zhifang would accept Meng Xiaodong in a generous way like Wang Minghua did with her.
The result was unexpected, and Fu Zhifang, who has always been kind, was very determined in this matter.
In 1930, Mei Lanfang planned to visit the United States to perform, and Fu Zhifang was pregnant and prepared to take Meng Xiaodong with her. This is a good opportunity for Meng Xiaodong to prove his identity.
But Fu Zhifang knew very well that if Meng Xiaodong appeared as "Lady Mei" and mentioned "Lady Mei" in the future, I am afraid that there would be nothing for her.
So he went out and said to Mei Lanfang: If you think it is inconvenient for me to get pregnant, I will immediately find a doctor to have an abortion.
Mei Lanfang knew that Fu Zhifang could do it, and she was very embarrassed, and in the end, she simply did not bring anyone.
Another fight to defeat Meng is the one at the beginning of the article.
Mei Lanfang also has two houses, and at the same time inherits the ancestral ancestral foundation of the great uncle's family, and the aunt is equivalent to her own mother. At the funeral, Meng Xiaodong had the heart to wear Ma Dai filial piety, but was stopped outside the door by Fu Zhifang's orders. She was also ridiculed that she was not Mrs. Mei's family, but "Miss Meng", who was not qualified to prostrate herself.
This time, Mei Lanfang still failed to break the siege for Meng Xiaodong, which disappointed Meng Xiaodong to the extreme.
Many people think that Mei Lanfang values heirs, and Fu Zhifang is arrogant and proud, in fact, things are far from being as simple as they think.
Fu Zhifang's cleverness lies in the fact that she can always pinch her mind and hit the pain points.
Mei Meng first met, Meng is only 18 years old, Fu Zhifang is already a mother of many children. She knew that in the face of Meng Xiaodong, who was both talented and beautiful, Mei Lanfang must be moved, so even if she was sad, she did not lie and force interference.
As long as you don't enter the door of Mei's house, everything is left first. As the days passed, friction between Mei Meng was inevitable.
Meng Xiaodong smoked a big cigarette, Mei Lanfang was very opposed; the Mei family hoped that the family would not show their faces, Meng Xiaodong often carried Mei out to sing; Mei left 10,000 yuan for Meng Xiaodong and Fu Zhifang before going to the United States, and when she returned, Fu Zhifang made a good family and a balance, but Meng Xiaodong only had a deficit.
When the time was ripe, Fu Zhifang began to blow a pillow wind on Mei Lanfang, although it was denigrating Meng Xiaodong, it sounded reasonable, as if everywhere for the sake of the Mei family and Mei Lanfang's career.
Therefore, even though she treated Meng Xiaodong several times and domineeringly, she did not cause her husband and the people around her to be half bored. On the contrary, everyone felt that she was really good for Mei Lanfang.
Fu Zhifang also understands that Mei Lanfang is surrounded by people everywhere, and it is difficult to decide on emotional issues in many cases. The "Tingmeng Faction" and the "Tingfu Faction" could not stand each other, and he was also embarrassed, so she took the initiative to attack and lobby for herself in the "Mei Party".
In 1926, there was a bloody case that made Mei Dang feel uneasy. One of Meng Xiaodong's fanatical fans broke into Yuyuxuan with a gun and accidentally killed Mei Lanfang's friend Zhang Hanju, which made Mei Lanfang feel threatened to her life.
Fu Zhifang then grasped the impact of this case and knocked on the side of Feng Liuye, a key figure in the "Mei Party": Uncle Da's life mattered. This made the "Tingmeng Sect" begin to waver, and they fell to the "Tingfu Sect", and thus made the decision of "Giving Mengliufu".
In 1933, the exhausted Meng Xiaodong made the final decision, she published three consecutive days of notice in the Tianjin "Ta Kung Pao", broke with Mei Lanfang, and then withdrew from the "Meng Fu Dispute".
In the face of the third party, Fu Zhifang should let go when it should be released, and when it should be fierce, analyze the advantages and disadvantages, and at the critical moment, keep the door of the Mei family, and do not let the third party get half a point. It can be said that it is a beautiful battle in the defense of women's marriage.
Fu Zhifang also proved to us with actions: the road to marriage is easy to accompany, long-term but difficult, and it can be saved, that is the real skill!
03
Have integrity, true temperament, and cooperate with the anti-Japanese resistance
If Fu Zhifang relies on a moment of wisdom and means to win Mei Lanfang's heart, then to achieve a lifetime of companionship and unswerving death, it must rely on the true disposition of continuous harmony.
(Mei Lanfang)
In 1919, in order to spread Chinese classical art, Mei Lanfang once visited Japan to perform, creating a rare spectacle in Japan at that time, and thus had a large number of opera fans.
When the Anti-Japanese War broke out, the puppet Nationalist government wanted to use Mei Lanfang's influence to create the illusion of 'goodwill and friendship', and once again "invited" him to perform in Japan, but Mei Lanfang resolutely refused to comply.
In the face of Japanese threats and inducements, Fu Zhifang did not humble himself and put down harsh words with a loud voice: Mr. Mei would rather not bend in his life, and his strengths bowed his head, absolutely unable to do it!
Mei Lanfang knows that Fu Zhifang really understands him! Her support gave him the strength to fight to the end.
(Mei Lanfang Fu Zhifang and the children)
In 1941, when the Japanese army surrounded Hong Kong, Mei Lanfang was trapped in her private apartment and cut off contact with the outside world. For a time, rumors about Mei Lanfang's renegade were rampant, and Fu Zhifang was under tremendous mental pressure.
But in the face of external doubts, she is very strong: Zhifu Moruo's wife, no one knows Mei Lanfang better than me. Don't believe these nonsense, Mr. Mei will come back safely as soon as possible!
Mei Lanfang returned safely, because of the two small mustaches, the children were a little uncomfortable, Fu Zhifang quipped: "Daddy's beard, hundreds of millions of viewers like it very much, to shave, you have to shave himself after the victory of the War of Resistance!" ”
As a woman, in the most difficult time, Fu Zhifang used her strong optimism to support the Mei family!
In addition to having courage and pattern, at key moments, she can always find a solution to the problem.
During the Anti-Japanese War, Mei Lanfang went on strike for 8 years, and the life of the Mei family was once very difficult. At that time, as long as they agreed to perform one show, they could get ten gold bars and solve the dilemma at hand.
However, Fu Zhifang always supported her husband Mei Lanfang to stand on the side of national righteousness, even if she was poor, she was not at all moved.
(Fu Zhifang and Mei Lanfang's family)
At the most difficult time, she was inspired by "idle to learn painting for a living, do not use the evil money in the world", and said to Mei Lanfang: The road is endless, your teachers and brothers can support themselves by farming, can you also sell paintings to survive?
With a word to wake up the dreamer, Mei Lanfang, who was at a loss, immediately regained her fighting spirit. Fans can't see Mei Lanfang's plays, and it's good to appreciate her paintings, so paintings are often ordered.
Once, Mei Lanfang's paintings were targeted by the Japanese, and under each painting was a small note - "Ordered by Chairman Wang", "Ordered by Vice-Governor Okamura Ning", "Ordered by President Zhou Fohai", "Ordered by Tokyo Exhibition"...
Mei Lanfang was furious, but there was nothing she could do. At this time, Fu Zhifang picked up the knife and snapped a random stroke, destroying all the paintings, making Mei Lanfang shout: Happy!
What Mei Lanfang fell in love with was the chivalry in Fu Zhifang's bones.
Mei Lanfang once wrote in a time of crisis: "Half a life of yin singing skin yellow, more thinking of returning to the song and renovating the cavity." Helpless day poison plum blossom swinging, beard Ming Zhi Bei Zhi Fang. ”
Fu Zhifang replied both worriedly and resolutely: "The water flows through the river and is a few sorrows, and it is not a low salary to try to lie down." Thinking about the quiet and slow, the bright moon always goes with the king. ”
Fu Zhifang, who was once illiterate, not only responded to her husband's poems, but also truly entered her husband's heart!
If the combination of the two at the beginning is only to take what they need, after half a lifetime, it is really difficult to separate.
In her later years, Mei Lanfang prepared a cemetery for herself at the foot of Wanhua Mountain, and Fu Zhifang quipped: After a hundred years, you will be invited to the Babaoshan Revolutionary Cemetery! Mei Lanfang replied: I went, what do you do?
It has become a habit to be together, and you no longer want to be separated.
Fu Zhifang left a last word on his deathbed: "Mr. Mei's career is like a mountain, and I can only be counted as a nameless grass." ”
Mei Lanfang said on more than one occasion: "Without Fu Zhifang, where is Mei Lanfang?" ”
The best love is to work together for a lifetime, and you can also admire each other!
Fu Zhifang was born in the ordinary, but lived a life that ordinary people envy. Her wisdom in life is more worthy of reference for us ordinary people.
Author: Mu Mu
Editor-in-charge: Mu Yang