Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
For us, love is actually an adventure and an experience.
We have not experienced the "training" of love, many times we are crossing the river by feeling the stones, and in the continuous exploration, we can see each other's true feelings and find the person we really love.
Especially for women, they are often more cautious in a relationship, always afraid that they have given their sincerity, but in the end they will be let down, and they always want to know whether the man really loves him.
In fact
01
"You're so good-looking today"
When a guy really likes you, he will unconsciously notice every detail of you.
If he often compliments you on your appearance, such as "You look so good today", then it probably means that he has deep feelings for you.
This compliment is not a superficial compliment, but a deep recognition and appreciation of your beauty in his heart.
He says this because you are unique in his eyes, and every subtle change in you tugs at his heartstrings.
Zhang Ailing once said: "For most women, love means to be loved." ”
When a man compliments you a lot, he is not only expressing his appreciation for you, but he is telling you in this way: he loves you.
02
"Don't worry, I'm here"
In the ups and downs of life, we will inevitably encounter blows and troubles.
When you are in a difficult situation or in a low mood, if a man can stand firmly by your side and say to you, "Don't worry, I'm here", then this is not only a simple comfort, but also his commitment and support to you.
Behind this sentence is his sense of responsibility and protection for you. He is willing to shelter you from the wind and rain when you need it, and be your strong backing.
As Balzac said: "True love is like a beautiful flower, and the more barren it is when it opens, the more pleasing it seems to the eye." ”
In the face of adversity, his words are like a beam of light, illuminating your path forward and warming your fragile heart.
03
"I want to know what you think"
A really good relationship must be indispensable for communication.
A man who truly loves you, he will be eager to know your heart, and he will respect your feelings.
If he often says to you, "I want to know what you think", then it means that he will not be satisfied with superficial communication and wants to establish a deeper emotional connection with you.
He will listen to you, pay attention to your thoughts, and try to understand your feelings.
This kind of communication and understanding is essential for a relationship, and it is also the truest manifestation of his love for you.
Bi Shumin once said: "Love is afraid of silence, too many people think that love is speechless in the depths." In fact, love is an emotion that is difficult to describe and needs to be expressed and conveyed in detail. ”
Therefore, whether he is willing to listen to you and whether he is willing to give time and energy to you are all details of his love for you, and it is easy to see.
04
"Our future will be ......"
When a man starts talking to you about the future, it means that he has included you in his life. He will look forward to your presence in the days to come.
So, he will imagine the future with you, for example, he will say "our future will be ......", such words are full of hope and expectation.
He not only wants to spend the present with you, but also wants to join hands with you in the future.
His willingness to work for your future is a testament to his love for you. He uses practical actions to let you see his love and commitment to you.
Through the above four sentences, we can preliminarily judge whether a man really loves you. Of course, everyone's way of expressing is unique, and these four sentences are not an absolute criterion for judgment.
But no matter what, a man who truly loves you will show care, respect and support for you in his words and deeds.
Therefore, we must learn to observe and feel these subtleties, and experience the real emotions hidden behind the words.
Only in this way can we better grasp the direction of love and find the person who is truly worthy of entrusting for life.