Dictation: Liu Xiaomei
Recorded and organized: Teacher Yage
My son's teacher called me and said that my son was bullying a classmate and asked him to publicly apologize to the classmate. I ran to the school and got into a fight with the teacher, leaving her speechless.
When I got home, my husband happened to be returning from a business trip, and I complained to him, but I didn't expect him to think that I had done something wrong. I'm confused, am I really wrong?
My son bullied his classmates, and the teacher made an unreasonable request, and I had a fight with the teacher
My name is Liu Xiaomei, I am 38 years old, from Hubei, my husband and I are both working in Guangdong, and my son Xixi is in the fifth grade at a nine-year private school. We have been in Guangdong for more than 10 years, and we have bought a house and settled down, becoming a new "Hakka" person.
Last Thursday, when I was at work, my son's homeroom teacher, Mr. Ye, called and said that Hee Hee had broken discipline at school, and he also contradicted the teacher, telling me to rush to school immediately. I hurriedly asked for leave, rode the little electric donkey, and galloped towards the school. #教育#
In the school's psychological counseling room, Mr. Ye told the truth of the matter. In the first class of the morning, Xiaoyu, Xixi's tablemate, complained to Teacher Ye, saying that Xixi snatched her eraser during class, spit on her body after class, and kicked her in the stomach.
Teacher Ye punished Xixi for standing for 10 minutes, reprimanded him severely, saying that he was a child without a tutor, and asked him to apologize to Xiaoyu in front of the whole class. Hee-hee accepted the teacher's punishment, however, he refused to apologize publicly, and Mr. Ye was angry, so he yelled at the teacher, saying that he was not wrong at all. In desperation, Mr. Ye had no choice but to call me.
After listening to the process of the matter, I felt that there was something wrong with Mr. Ye's handling. She didn't check the surveillance, didn't ask other classmates, and didn't listen to Xixi's explanation, just based on Xiaoyu's words, she imposed a series of punishments on Xixi, which was obviously a bit biased towards girls, no wonder Xixi resisted.
I clearly told Mr. Ye that Hee Hee was an obedient child, and I believed that he would never bully his classmates. Teacher Ye was anxious and said, your son doesn't admit his mistakes, why are parents so unreasonable? "You will believe what Xiaoyu says, and you don't believe what my son says, is there a teacher who does this?"
"Then there are so many classmates in our class, why doesn't she talk about others, just your son?" Teacher Ye said angrily. I sneered at each other: "There are so many classmates in that class, why does Xixi only bully her? Is there any evidence?" Teacher Ye was choked and rolled her eyes, she gritted her teeth and said fiercely: "Xiaoyu's parents are highly educated, she will never lie." ”
Teacher Ye's tone was obviously contemptuous, and I couldn't help but be angry: "What do you mean, parents are not highly educated, and children are inferior? Today I will tell you that if you can't produce evidence, Xixi will never apologize to Xiaoyu, and you will apologize to Xixi and me for your words and deeds." ”
Teacher Ye was stunned, a little at a loss. In order to give her a step, I said, "I'll take Hee Hee home now, you investigate it first, and then give me an explanation." After saying that, I turned my head, led Xixi, and left with my head held high.
My husband heard about my quarrel with my teacher and thought I was doing something wrong
After bringing Hee-hee home, I simply asked for a day off from the unit to accompany Hee-hee to read books and do homework at home. In the evening, my husband got off work, and he went on a business trip for more than 20 days, and only came back that day. I hurriedly complained to him and told him about the quarrel with the teacher, hoping to get his help and comfort.
Who knows, my husband looked at me with wide eyes, very surprised, and then pointed his finger at the tip of my nose, saying that what I was doing was completely wrong, and he snapped his fingers and said the following reasons.
When a student makes a mistake at school, parents should first find out the truth. Teacher Ye has already told the process of the conflict between Xixi and Xiaoyu, even if I suspect that the teacher listens to and believes partially and wrongs Xixi, I can't directly excuse Xixi's mistakes and protect the calf. It's about asking and getting to know the real situation. Further practices are then taken according to the actual situation.
If the child is really wrong, he should support the teacher and strengthen the child's education. It's normal for classmates to bump into each other, and resolving conflicts is a good time to educate your child. Letting children admit their mistakes, apologize, and even give appropriate punishment is not a scandal, and it is good for the healthy growth of children. Parents' understanding and support of teachers is a manifestation of a deep understanding of righteousness, as well as a manifestation of high quality and cultivation.
Under no circumstances should parents quarrel with teachers. The campus is a civilized place, and what is the system of quarrels between parents and teachers? Parents who do not approve of the teacher's handling of the situation can tactfully put forward reasonable suggestions in equal communication with the teacher, instead of complaining, questioning, and blaming. If the relationship between parents and teachers is stiff, teachers will not dare or be unwilling to manage their children in the future, and the consequences will be very serious, and parents will definitely regret it.
Conclusion
My husband gave me a suggestion: hurry up and buy some fruit or something, take Hee Hee to school to sincerely admit his mistake to the teacher, and ask for the teacher's understanding. I just had a fight with the teacher, and when I turned around, I gave in, where did my face go? Ladies and gentlemen, is my husband's statement correct?
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