In fact, a person needs to take into account many aspects of life.
Especially in relationships, if you can't provide emotional value to the other person, it will definitely affect your own quality of life.
Because we can't be completely isolated from the outside world, this leads to a certain intersection with others.
Therefore, under such a premise, if we can be emotionally stable, know how to get along with others, how to speak, and know how to avoid disputes and frictions, life can get better and better.
Yishu once said:
"The sign of a person's true maturity is that he finds that there are fewer and fewer people to blame, for the simple reason that everyone has their own difficulties, and you don't necessarily understand their lives. ”
People who are really strong must be more and more mature.
This kind of maturity is reflected in the fact that a person will become more and more tolerant, more and more understanding of others, and more and more aware of how to think from the perspective of others.
In the end, let yourself live more and more clearly and transparently, so that after you have a better understanding of human nature, the whole person will become more calm and calm.
Stabilize your emotions
A person's greatest self-cultivation is actually to be able to stabilize his emotions.
Only those who can stabilize their emotions can truly stabilize their lives.
After all, if you are always easy to get emotional, life will be messy and messy.
And in the process of getting along and communicating with others, if people's emotions are too impetuous and too extreme, they must not be able to handle interpersonal relationships.
Writer Hovland said:
"Of all the negative influences in the world, the one that can make people fail is often excessive emotions. ”
In fact, a person with a gentle personality and a person who is emotionally stable tends to be able to win the favor of others for themselves.
Moreover, it is easier for you to be favored by more people in real life, and also to get better development opportunities.
It can be said that a person who is emotionally stable is greater than a general who can take down the city.
Moreover, people who are emotionally stable can indeed make the other party's emotions tend to be calm, so that everyone can live in harmony and communicate happily.
In this way, each other's lives will be more enjoyable and their lives will be more fulfilling.
Ji Xianlin, a master of Chinese culture, once said:
"If a person can manage his emotions well and digest the joys and sorrows of the world, even if he will experience ups and downs, he will definitely be able to achieve a certain degree of fulfillment. ”
The greatest emotional intelligence is to be able to make one's emotions stable and have enough wisdom and energy to balance one's relationship with others.
Of course, we should all learn to restrain ourselves, stabilize our emotions, and even try to consider the other person's feelings in the process of communicating with others.
In this way, everyone can really do a good job and live a good life in the direction of a better life.
Say a lot of praise
As the saying goes:
"Talking is the easiest thing and the hardest thing to do, everyone can speak, but not many people can talk. ”
Be a person and do things, especially in the process of cooperating with others, don't be stingy to say more compliments.
You have to believe that if you say nice words and praise with your mouth, you must be able to give others a positive effect.
Moreover, the other party can only become more optimistic and confident, and even brave because of your encouragement and praise.
As psychologist William James put it:
"One of the deepest intentions of human nature is to expect to be praised, admired, and respected. ”
Since everyone craves praise, respect, and admiration, we should also be proactive enough to do so.
And once you do that, you'll find that your relationships will become more harmonious, fulfilling, and happier.
Of course, saying words of praise does not make you say things against your will, let alone make you say hypocritical things or say things that make people feel embarrassed after listening to them.
True praise must be sincere, and it must be able to stand in the other party's perspective and fit the other party's psychology.
In fact, everyone has the desire to express themselves, but if they express themselves in the wrong way, the content they say is not good.
Then, in the end, it can only be a curse.
Mark Twain said:
"With just one word of praise, I could have lived two more months. ”
This is the power and function of praise, so we don't need to be stingy with our praise at all, but try our best to put ourselves in the shoes of others and share their worries and problems.
Slowly, you will find that praise is like a powerful energy, while inspiring yourself, it is also motivating others, giving others strong enough emotional value.
In the end, we can all be more harmonious and more united towards a better life.
Substitute Inspiration, Position Thinking
Zhou Guoping said:
"Understanding proportion is one of the signs of a person's maturity. ”
True maturity lies in a person's ability to understand proportions, have boundaries, be considerate of others, and know how to empathize.
When you have someone else in your heart, others will begin to have you in their hearts, and in the end, everyone can be more peaceful and harmonious.
Zeng Shiqiang, a master of Chinese culture, said:
"If you have others in your heart, others will have you in their hearts.
We seem to be doing others a favor, but in the end we are actually doing ourselves a favor. ”
In fact, people who know how to empathize are actually helping themselves.
At least I can give myself an extra angle and perspective on my own vision and ideas.
Then, I was able to open my eyes and see a different world.
At such times, you will find yourself slowly moving away from extreme ideas and being able to face the rest of your life with a more tolerant and tolerant attitude.
In the same way, we can also give enough understanding, enough correct feedback, and even enough warm emotional value to the other party in the process of communicating with others.
As Napoleon said:
"Learn to empathize, be able to really look at problems from the perspective of others, consider problems, and be able to help others solve problems, this world is yours.
We must always believe in the power of empathy, and we must really bring good emotional value to ourselves and others.
Then you will see that your world has become more and more brilliant and brighter.