"He thought I was loose underneath, as if I hadn't given him sexual blessings. ”
Xiaoli is 23 years old this year, she had a boyfriend in college, and decided to live together after graduation. tasted the "forbidden fruit" for the first time, and the relationship between the two should have been more intimate, but she didn't expect her boyfriend to begin to alienate her intentionally or unintentionally.
Under Xiaoli's repeated questioning, her boyfriend confessed that she felt that Xiaoli was too loose "underneath", and she must have a rich sex life, but she clearly said that each other was each other's first love, and he felt cheated.
After listening to it, Xiaoli felt that she was very wronged, obviously she had never been with other boys before, let alone had any sex life!
Could it be that "below" loose is "doing" too much? Today I will tell you the answer.
1. Is it because women have too much sex because they are lax?
Women's sagging underneath is a deeply misunderstood topic, and everyone cares about it, but they are embarrassed to mention it. Many men and women believe that it is related to the number of sexual intervals. Wrong, wrong, wrong!
The "outside" of the vagina is maintained by the pelvic floor muscles, which act like a large net that holds and protects the pelvic organs, in addition to carrying the weight of the abdominal organs. Such a strong and hard-working muscle group will not be affected by just a little sex life.
The "lining" contains a large amount of elastic fibers, which allows the vagina to expand and contract freely within a certain range. It can be widened, lengthened, and extremely plastic, even to face difficult challenges such as childbirth, and the change of sex life for women and women's vaginal size is a small minion in front of childbirth, and naturally it will not affect the tension of elastic fibers.
So why does it really feel that way during sex, as if the tightness is not the same? It may have something to do with whether the body is ready or not.
If the body is tense and does not relax completely during sex, the lower 1/3 of the vagina may be closed. In this case, there may be a feeling of difficulty and overtightness. But when the body is fully stimulated and the vagina is fully opened, the whole process will be smooth, as if it is loose.
Before, during, and after sex, the vagina is temporarily looser than usual, which is a normal physiological response and indicates that the body is ready. Soon after the sex is done, the muscles around the vagina return to their original position and shape, and the tightness of the vagina is not affected.
Second, what is the reason for the following relaxation?
Since the number of sexual intercourse is not enough to affect the tightness of the vagina, what is the real reason? In fact, vaginal laxity is mainly caused by the following two reasons:
1. Pregnancy
Pregnancy is the most common cause of vaginal laxity. After pregnancy, a woman's body secretes a substance called "relaxin", which increases the amount of collagen connections between the ligaments and vaginal tissues, causing the ligaments and vagina to relax.
The role of this hormone is to cause the cervix and vagina to dilate during pregnancy, loosening tissues such as the pelvic ligaments and pubic symphysis so that the fetus can pass through more easily, facilitating a vaginal or cesarean section. Therefore, no matter which way you give birth, it can lead to vaginal laxity.
2. Age
As we age, especially during menopause and after menopause, estrogen decreases in a woman's body, causing the vaginal walls to become thinner and less elastic, leading to vaginal laxity. This change is inevitable and is a natural physiological process.
3. What happens to women who "do it themselves"? Will it turn black?
After Xiao Jiu's colleagues read Xiaoli's story at the beginning, many of them said indignantly: It's better not to have such a boyfriend, how good is it to use your own hands?!
Don't be surprised, solving it yourself with your own hands, as a way to meet your physiological needs, is often viewed with tinted glasses. But in fact, this is a very normal and common thing, and there are benefits to a proper release.
First of all, a woman's sex drive is regulated by hormones, so there is a cyclical nature of libido. Using your hands can effectively release your sexual desire, reduce sexual repression, and bring sexual pleasure and satisfaction.
Moderate use of hands can regulate women's hormone levels and relieve emotional depression. Throughout the process, the body releases oxytocin and dopamine, which promotes a more positive mood. In addition, endorphins are released to enhance pain tolerance and relieve menstrual cramps, migraines, and other painful discomforts.
As for the saying on the Internet that "using your hands" too much will make your private parts black, two words: nonsense.
The color of the private parts is mainly affected by estrogen, and has nothing to do with "using hands or not" at all.
During physiological development, the color of the private parts changes with changes in estrogen levels. Before puberty, the genitals appear pink due to less estrogen production. As the secretion of estrogen and progesterone increases after puberty, the color of the private parts gradually deepens. After menopause, as estrogen secretion decreases, the color of the private parts will also fade.
In addition, the shade of color of the private parts is also affected by genetic factors. Therefore, changes in the color of the private parts are mainly determined by physiological development and genetics, and have nothing to do with sexual behavior.
Fourth, regardless of men and women, the details should be done well when they "do it" by themselves
Doing it yourself properly can be enjoyable, but in the process, don't overlook the details because you are obsessed with pleasure, otherwise you may lose more than you gain.
Details are very important, and Dr. Lin Xuyao, a doctor of reproductive medicine from Yunnan Provincial Hospital of Traditional Chinese Medicine, reminded that there are four points that need to be paid attention to in particular.
1. Maintain hygiene
Make sure your hands and genital area are clean before using them. Hands can be washed with warm water and a mild detergent, avoiding harsh detergents or soaps.
2. Choose the right tool
If you're going to use a sex toy, make sure you choose the right size and material for you. For first-time users, smaller or soft toys can be chosen. At the same time, make sure the toys are easy to clean and disinfect.
3. Avoid overstimulation
Overstimulation can cause discomfort or trauma. Therefore, avoid using stimulation that is too forceful, too fast, or too long. It's important to pay attention to your comfort and listen to your body's signals at all times.
4. Respect personal boundaries
Using hands is a personal act, and everyone has their own boundaries and preferences. Respect your boundaries and don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable for the sake of other people's expectations or pressure.
For some basic sexual knowledge, we should look at it from a scientific perspective, rather than following the crowd, and the act of "solving it with hands" as a way of self-exploration and satisfying needs should not be regarded as colored glasses.
Resources:
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