Writer: Easter Egg Dad
While walking in the community, I saw an 8-year-old boy playing downstairs with his 4-year-old brother.
According to the neighbors in the community, the two children often come down to play alone, and the parents are also relieved that the elder brother is older and takes the younger brother.
Easter egg dad couldn't help but sigh: "How dare their parents?"
The neighbor's grandmother said, "Why don't you dare? The neighborhood is not safer than the outside! Besides, the eldest is 8 years old, and the eldest child is old!"
Another grandmother said: "If there are really traffickers, there are so many people in the community, shout, everyone will come out!"
Shout out, can everyone come out?
Is the community really safe?
Beg to differ.
Sometimes the safest place is the most dangerous place.
01 Don't shout "I don't know him" when you encounter a trafficker, it doesn't work
I asked the easter egg mother before, if you meet a person on the way and suddenly snatch the child, you can't grab it, what should I do?
"Shouting 'this is a trafficker, I don't know him,' came to ask passers-by for help, and then immediately called 110," the easter egg mother said. ”
But does it really work?
Seriously, it doesn't necessarily work.
Psychologically speaking, there is an effect called the "bystander effect", or the "diffusion effect".
It means that in a group, individuals tend to expect others to take responsibility, which leads to a weakening of individual responsibility.
Your child was robbed, and you shouted, "I don't know him", and passers-by didn't know what was going on.
In the case of more passers-by, they will have a kind of "I don't want to help, others will help".
So how do you ask passers-by for help?
This makes it easier to get help from passers-by:
Immediately choose someone who seems to be able to help you, such as "this big brother in a black coat", and make it clear to whom the responsibility is, so that he subconsciously intervenes in the matter.
After specifying the person, then "tell me what to do", such as "This big brother in a black coat, please help me call 110." ”
As long as one person moves, then under the "herd mentality", other passers-by will trust you more and join in.
In fact, whether it is a trafficker or a vulnerable group as a mother or grandmother, you can do this when you encounter difficulties, and the probability of getting help will be greatly increased.
02 Human traffickers are emerging in an endless stream, can you deal with these situations?
Our coping methods are improving, and the routines of human traffickers are also being "updated".
For example, in this case, the trafficker "shouted to catch the thief", and he first shouted "return my child", wanting to use the empathy of passers-by to help him succeed.
I really met a kind-hearted person who helped snatch the child, and even injured the child's real family.
Fortunately, the bad guys didn't succeed.
This kind is also the kind of "pretending to be acquaintances".
There were a lot of people in the mall, and the people next to them only thought that this was a family, and when they really quarreled, no one else believed that they were robbing the children.
Therefore, for those mothers who are more familiar with themselves and like to talk to strangers, they still need to pay attention!
For some children who are a little older, the traffickers don't need to start with the parents, but directly from the children.
Such routines seem to be uncommon.
The traffickers pretend to be family leaders, get close to the parents, and then let the children cheat on the children.
This kind of is really impossible to prevent, after all, it is normal for children to go out and play with children they don't know in the same community.
Therefore, in the matter of "anti-trafficking", not only as parents, we need to protect the safety of our children, know what to do when we encounter human traffickers, but also teach our children to learn to protect themselves.
03 Adults know how to prevent abduction, and children also need to know how to "protect themselves"
Growing up in the wings of their parents, children are simple, kind, and naturally easy to deceive.
A piece of candy may be able to trick a child away.
Moreover, in children's lives, "anti-abduction" is only one of the self-protection abilities, and there are many other aspects that require children to have a sense of self-protection and self-protection ability.
Therefore, no matter what happens in other people's homes, we start to teach our children "self-protection" when they are 3 years old.
Because the consciousness of self-protection is not only the consciousness given by parents, but also the consciousness cultivated!
The easter eggs are used in this series of picture books "Anti-abduction and Anti-deception Children's Self-Protection".
There are 6 volumes in this series, each of which is a self-preservation theme, namely:
"No! I don't like this kind of secret"
"No! I don't indulge myself"
"No! I Don't Go With Strangers"
"No! I don't like to be kissed by you"
"No! I don't like to be touched by you"
"No! I don't lose my temper casually".
Let's talk about the anti-abduction picture book "No! I Don't Go with Strangers", the little boy in the book, Ma Le, was tricked into the car by a strange man who claimed to be his father's friend.
After getting in the car, Ma Le also found out that he had been fooled.
Even though he was scared in his heart, he bravely escaped the clutches of the bad guys through his wisdom.
Ma Le's wit and escape methods are worth learning from children.
However, Ma Le's experience can also serve as a wake-up call for children.
Because, most of the time, children's wisdom is not as good as that of adults with rich social experience and strong strength, so there are very few children who can escape from the devil's cave.
This set of books uses stories close to life to establish children's sense of self-protection, so that children know why they can't go with strangers, why they can't be kissed casually, why they can't lose their temper casually, and so on.
And know how to protect yourself and avoid danger when you encounter something similar.
There will be a mistake in the end, children can't always be under the meaning of their parents, and you never know which person around you is a bad person.
【Waiting for the Wind】Anti-abduction and anti-deception children's self-protection Complete set of 6 volumes ¥68 Purchase
It is recommended that children aged 3-8 should start this set of "Children's Self-Protection" series of picture books for their children, and start to prevent them from the awareness to reduce the probability of danger for children.
After all, some dangers may occur that may be a lifetime of regret.