Many people have thought that after retirement, they don't rely on their children and don't go to nursing homes, and they can take care of each other with a few good friends, which is quite a beautiful day in their imagination.
After the 57-year-old Aunt Zhou retired, she and her old sisters have been together for a period of time, and the insights she has drawn are worth pondering.
57-year-old Aunt Zhou said:
My name is Zhou Mei, I am 57 years old, I have just retired for a few years, my wife passed away due to illness a few years ago, and I have been living alone since then.
I belong to the more cheerful kind, I usually like to make friends, I have a lot of girlfriends, every time I will go out to travel together, square dance, this kind of life makes me very comfortable, rarely feel lonely.
So a few of my single sisters and I thought about trying to care for the elderly together. At first, everyone was very excited, imagining a better life of caring for the elderly together.
Two months later, the plan began to be implemented, and we jointly chose a city that everyone was satisfied with, and everyone AA rented a large five-story house.
As soon as I started choosing a room, there was a problem.
Because each room is different, some of the location, light or something will be better, at this time the sisters who did not choose a good room are not happy, thinking that why everyone pays the same money, but you live better than me.
In the end, everyone negotiated together, and the matter was settled.
In the first period of time, it was really good, we sisters went out to eat, drink and take pictures every day when we had nothing to do; we also went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables together, everyone made our own good dishes, tasted each other, chatted together, took a walk, danced, and lived a very uncomfortable life!
But it didn't take long for all kinds of small problems to begin to appear, especially in terms of expenses, which was originally good for all AA, but sometimes it is inevitable that some people will spend a little more, and some will spend a little less, so that some sisters are not happy and often put on a face.
After living together for about 6 months, a sister fell and broke a bone, and needed to recuperate at home for a few months, during which she couldn't do without everyone's care, and everyone was happy at first, but after a long time, some people began to complain.
There are more and more contradictions, and the sisters quarrel more and more frequently, and in the end, everyone breaks up unhappily!
First, behind the group pension, these things are very cruel
Aunt Zhou said that the original intention of group pension at the beginning was really good, but it can only be said that the plan can't catch up with the changes. This group pension made Aunt Zhou understand a few things.
1. It's easy to get together, but it's hard to get along
In fact, when we usually get together, the relationship between our sisters is still very good, but once people get along for a long time, it is inevitable that they will expose their bad side, and it is easy to have contradictions! It is easy to get together, but it is difficult to get along!
2. Be a "unkind" person
After this time, I think it's better to have a little distance between people, don't be too intimate, be alone appropriately, live your own day, and be a "kind" person.
3. Share the blessings together, and fly separately when it is difficult
The reason why the group pension broke up so quickly this time is because of the little sister who wrestled, taking care of the sick person is indeed a more laborious thing, so there is the classic saying "Happiness is shared, and it is difficult to fly separately".
4. The ideal is very plump, and the reality is very skinny
Before there was no group pension, everyone felt that after knowing each other for so long, everyone would definitely get along, and there would definitely be no problem living together, but it turned out that the ideal was very plump and the reality was very skinny.
It can be seen that group pension may not be as simple as everyone imagined, don't be confused by beautiful imagination!
Second, these kinds of "new pension", will you choose?
Pension has always been a hot topic, and there have been many "new types of pension" in recent years, will you choose?
1. Bed for the elderly
That is, relying on the door-to-door service of qualified elderly care service institutions, so that the elderly do not have to leave home, they can also enjoy the same care as in a nursing home. This type of elderly care is highly regarded, and many cities in mainland China have provided services for home care beds.
2. Sojourn for the elderly
Choose a city of your choice to live in with your wife and friends, and usually have nothing to do with going out to see the scenery and taste the food, such a leisurely life is also what many people yearn for.
3. Hotel pension
That is, the resident hotel, this pension model is more common in the United States, the United Kingdom, Japan and other countries, with the advantages of comfortable and convenient environment, free and flexible social, and safe and secure.
4. Mutual assistance for the elderly
It is a supplement to the community for the elderly, which is simply a mutual help and comfort between ordinary residents to improve the quality of life.
The reason why the new way of old-age care is popular is also reasonable, not only to avoid friction after living with children for a long time, but also to avoid the loneliness and indifference of going to a nursing home.
3. If you want to live well when you are old, you must do six things well
According to data released by the National Health Commission, the average life expectancy of mainland residents has increased from 35 years in the early days of the founding of the People's Republic of China to 77.3 years in 2019. People live for a long time, and naturally want to live well, so what should be done?
1. Eat well
There is a close relationship between diet and health, and eating well can enhance the body's immunity and slow down the occurrence of many diseases. According to the Dietary Guidelines for Chinese Residents (2016), the elderly should consume at least 12 or more foods per day.
2. Exercise well
Proper exercise can promote vitamin D synthesis in the body, prevent osteoporosis and delay the rate of muscle decay. However, the elderly should exercise according to their ability, generally based on light aerobic exercise, 1-2 times a day, 30-60 minutes each time, and the amount of activity is based on slight sweating.
3. Live well
Where the elderly live, the air should be as good as possible, and we must pay attention to anti-slip, because the elderly often have osteoporosis, and fractures are prone to occur after falling, which can sometimes be fatal. Therefore, it is best to lay non-slip floor tiles in locations such as kitchens and bathrooms to avoid falling.
4. Drink well
That is, you should drink enough water every day, 1500ml-1700ml per day, 50ml-100ml each time, a small amount of water, and take the initiative to drink water. But be careful to avoid alcohol and strong tea.
5. Dress well
The clothing of the elderly is mainly loose and comfortable, and less clothing with tight necklines, tight waists, and tight socks is worn to prevent skin hypoxia and affect physical health.
6. Be in a good mood
A good attitude is the key to longevity, and the occurrence of many diseases has a lot to do with negative emotions such as anger, anxiety, and hatred. So it's also important to be in a good mood.
In addition, Xiao Meifang of the Health Management Center of Xiangya Hospital of Central South University reminded that if people want to live well when they are old, they should also pay attention to regular physical examinations, and they should recognize the "1+X" principle, 1 is the general examination, physical examination, laboratory examination and other routine examination items, and X is the personalized special physical examination items after the age of 50.
All in all, aging is inevitable, but after a certain age, if you can do some small details well, you can live longer and better!
Resources:
[1] "The group dispersed after 6 months, the truth is cruel: there are blessings to share, and there are difficulties to fly separately". 2021-01-14
[2] "A New Way to Retire the Elderly, No Need to Go to a Nursing Home, Only 500 per Month, Would You Like It?", Middle-aged and Elderly Times. 2022-03-12
[3] "When people are old, they must not only live long, but also live well! These six things must be done well!". 2021-06-27
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