When people are young, their hearts are often very high, and who they like and who they hate is blatant.
It wasn't until I experienced a lot that I understood: many people can't get along, no one is right or wrong, it's just that the three views are different.
The philosopher Immanuel Kant said:
"I respect any independent soul, and although I don't approve of some of them, I can understand them as much as I can. ”
It is instinct to "flip the table" because you hate someone, and it is the ability to treat a person calmly when you hate someone.
No longer entangled, in order to return to sobriety
There is a highly praised saying on the Internet:
When you dislike someone close to you, the best way to express your dislike is not to argue with him, but to be diligent and stay away from him.
Because when you hate someone, you resist rejection from the bottom of your heart.
Begin to become calculating, truthful everywhere, and even driven by disgust, to do some radical behavior.
But from the moment you entangle with him, you can no longer get out of it.
Nietzsche said:
After fighting with the dragon for too long, he became a dragon himself;
Stare into the abyss for too long, and the abyss will stare back.
Those whom you hate do you the most harm not to the thing itself, but to turn you into what you hate.
When someone mocks you, you respond bitterly;
If someone looks down on you, you will despise you in return;
If someone is rude to you, you will go back with double your rudeness.
This is the scariest part: putting your life trajectory in the hands of the person you hate the most.
Only by no longer entangled can we return to our sobriety, and by staying away as soon as possible, we can better protect ourselves.
The smartest way to deal with someone you hate is to ignore it
In "The Late Bloomer", Mo Yan expresses human nature vividly and vividly, and also shows his own pattern.
He really hated such a cousin, but he knew that he couldn't do anything about it, so he simply kept his distance from him.
Some people think that Mo Yan is too cowardly, but I admire his great wisdom, because you can never change others, as long as you don't care about other people's words and deeds in your heart, everything will completely lose its power.
From beginning to end, in the face of the person you hate, the smartest way is to ignore it and leave quickly.
He hates you, how much does he like you? As long as you are in a clear state of mind, it will not matter.
"Late Bloomer" is Mo Yan's realistic writing style to make us understand the importance of living our own lives.
Life is a journey that only belongs to oneself, the comings and goings of others, joys and sorrows have nothing to do with you, and the laughter and scolding of others have no effect.
In life, we sometimes meet people like the "three seasons" in the story, and as soon as we get in touch with them, we find that each other's perspectives on the world are different, and they are not the same kind of people at all.
The most horizontal way to deal with it is: no anger, no argument, no dwelling.
He is strong by him, the breeze blows the hills, he is horizontal, and the bright moon shines on the river.
Let go of other people's mistakes and free your own heart
Psychologist Yakos said:
"90% of the misfortunes in our lives are caused by unwillingness. ”
It is true that a lot of human suffering is due to the fact that you can't get along with yourself.
When others casually say something unpleasant, people turn their heads and forget about it, but we are sad for more than half a year because we are unwilling;
When low-quality people deliberately do offensive things, they often do not hesitate to spend a lot of energy and blood to compete because they are unwilling;
A relationship, knowing that if it goes on, it will be mired in the quagmire, and there will be no result, but it is still entangled.
Those who walk briskly in life are not smooth sailing, but they shake hands with life, less harsh on themselves, more forgiving, many troubles will drift away with the wind, and many problems will be solved.
When you encounter an unreasonable and rotten person, you can just take a detour, and you don't have to embarrass and torture yourself for unworthy people and bad things.
No matter how bad the situation is, let go in time, stop losses in time, turn the page in time, and don't regret missing the gorgeous summer flowers, then you will miss the quiet beauty of autumn leaves.
Write at the end
The best way to face those you hate is not to fight back verbally, but to work harder and prove yourself with strength.
When you climb to the top of the mountain, you can't hear the contemptuous voices at the foot of the mountain.
Surpassing him, doing better than him, is the best riposte.
Everyone's day is only 24 hours, and every second of delay in troublesome things shortens the time of happiness by one second.
If you hate someone, you don't need to turn your face, the best way is not to argue, ignore it, and not entangle it.
Neither fight with the wicked nor hold a grudge against the villain, but try to manage his own life.