"Hot search on the bad personality": No one in this workplace is used to it!

Source: Zhaopin

Recently, there has been a hot search topic #Why is the bad personality more popular# popular, and many netizens have said that they want to be inspired to be a bad person.

Compared with the people-pleasing personality, the people-pleasing personality refers to taking the initiative to give up the high emotional intelligence of things, not wronging oneself because of the likes and dislikes of others, expressing one's position calmly, and not being afraid to refute the position of others.

People in the workplace have also seen the truth clearly, instead of pleasing others and wronging themselves, it is better to learn to please and make their lives more comfortable.

1/ This class of professionals are vying to learn the "nasty personality"

In the workplace, many people have experienced this:

Obviously, there are some jobs that you can refuse, but you can't pull down your face to refuse, and in the end you can only work overtime by yourself, and you can't do it well after you finish it;

Obviously, at the work meeting, I had the most credit for the project and the biggest highlights, but I was embarrassed to express it and didn't dare to ask for it, but the credit was snatched away by those colleagues who invited credit.

We are accustomed to pleasing leaders, colleagues, and atmosphere in the workplace, and sometimes a "I don't want to" can be solved, only to end up leaving ourselves scarred and falling into the trap of self-denial.

Colleague Fang Fang is a typical people-pleasing personality, whenever the atmosphere of the team is awkward, Fang Fang is always the first person to break the ice.

A colleague looks for her when she is busy with work, she has enough work herself, but she still can't say the sentence "I can't".

Until one time, Fangfang stayed up for most of the night to help a colleague's work, and the next day she was asked by another colleague to help complete a project together.

She finally couldn't stand this state anymore, and after saying a lot of rejection, she returned to her workstation.

Since then, Fangfang no longer caters to others, and puts her own work first, and the feeling of twisting her jaw before has gradually disappeared.

It is better for people in the workplace to take the initiative to give up the so-called harmony, actively express themselves, learn the "hateful" personality, and do not take the initiative to provoke trouble, but when someone finds fault, they may as well "go crazy" and occupy the high ground.

2/ The key to a naktiful personality is to unleash your "aggression"

Ren Zhengfei said that when it is impossible to prevent it, we must focus on attack.

The workplace is like a battlefield, and the best defense is offense. If people in the workplace want not to be hurt, they must cultivate their own sense of aggression and release their "aggression".

"Aggression" in the psychological sense is not to attack and hurt others without limits, but to be an "aggressive self-drive", an evolutionary orientation.

My friend Wang Qiang is a "very difficult to mess with" person in the company, because colleagues say that he often shows his face and does not show mercy to others at all.

But after working with him for a while, I found that he was the most principled person among my colleagues. It's not my own business, and I will never be wronged. In the face of unfair distribution of benefits, Wang Qiang will also bravely stand up and make it clear.

This kind of "aggressiveness" will make you establish more self-awareness, not easy to be PUA, dare to fight back when encountering unfair things, and actively protect your rights and interests.

3/ How to be a "bad-hearted" person in the workplace?

1. Have the courage to say no, with high energy

To be brave enough to say no and dare to put forward your own demands while also having your own ideas is actually establishing your own sense of boundaries.

Able to say something like, "Don't bother me, you're making me uncomfortable." It means that you do not have the negative energy factors of anxiety and fear, and you are full of high energy, which is uniquely attractive.

In the TV series "Flowers", Mr. Bao came to the restaurant opposite the Supreme Garden to eat and talk about business, but was intercepted by Mr. Fan's business partner, claiming that he wanted to do business with Mr. Bao.

In general, many people will compromise and adapt to the situation after they arrive.

But when Mr. Bao was offended by others, he did not flinch in the slightest and sternly refused. This also made Mr. Fan finally choose to cooperate with Mr. Bao to the end and led the successful listing of Sanyang brand.

In the workplace, capable people are principled, and this principle brings him a unique workplace attraction. And the courage to say no is the first threshold to establish one's own principles.

2. Learn to deal with conflicts and not compromise on perfection

If you are a gentle and introverted personality, and you will inevitably get caught up in conflicts if you want to build a "bad-looking" personality in the workplace, then you, as the protagonist of the conflict, will naturally have to learn to deal with such conflicts.

Xiao Li is doing short video operations in a company, and because of the adjustment of the company's business, Xiao Li needs to be transferred to another city. However, the company never mentioned the issue of treatment after the transfer.

Changing jobs in another city is a series of problems for Xiao Li such as moving and renting a new house. Xiao Li communicated with the leader, but the leader just talked about the bitterness of the company, and then lost his temper with a serious expression, wanting Xiao Li to compromise.

But Xiao Li was not afraid, and argued with reason, proposing that if the company could improve his treatment and solve the related rental problems, he would agree, and if not, it would be a big deal to resign. The leader saw that Xiao Li's attitude was so resolute, so he gave up.

Therefore, people in the workplace learn to take the initiative in conflicts and not seek satisfaction without grievances. In the past, I always thought that I would suffer a little loss and let this matter pass, but now I have learned to deal with it objectively, not only to release my own aggression, but also to withstand the attacks of others.

If you don't dare to open your mouth easily in a short period of time, you can gradually try and repeat the practice in relationships and intimacy.

3. Be an "egoist" and learn to love yourself

In the workplace, there is such a law of human nature:

If you start with a good person, then the good deeds you do will only be taken for granted by others. As soon as you do something that is slightly selfish, others will jump up and attack you.

And if your original personality is very selfish and not so easy to get along with, then others will take it for granted that you refuse to help.

If you do a good deed once in a while, others will appreciate it and feel that you have treated him with special privileges.

Be an "egoist", this kind of egoism is not refined selfishness, but principled respect and love for yourself, so that others will respect you in turn.

In this era of rapid change, the workplace environment is constantly changing with the development of the Internet. From pleasing to ingratiating, each of us needs to fight anxiety while growing fast.

We must learn to establish our own inner order and defense, and surpass ourselves on the premise of self-protection, so as to make ourselves better.

Let's talk in the comment area, do you think you are a "bad" person in the workplace?