The philosopher Pascal said, "A person's virtue should not be measured in terms of special actions, but in the daily actions of life." ”
In life, we will encounter many things, and everything involves interests, feelings, ability to deal with things, mentality, etc.
Things are very varied, but to sum up, they are big things and small things. The rest of the time, it's just nothing.
To really see a person, there are a few things you can observe.
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The little things see the character.
"Han Feizi" wrote: "The sage sees the subtlety to know the sprout, and the end to know the end, so he sees the elephant and is terrifying, and knows the lack of the world." ”
It's easy to overlook the subtleties, but it's the beginning of something big and the best opportunity to judge how things are going.
A smart person can always take precautions before they happen and nip vicious things in the bud. The same is true with people, not to let the wicked besiege you, but to keep your distance from the beginning.
When Confucius was an official in the state of Lu, someone reported that "the stable was on fire".
Everyone hurried to the stables, some fearing that the horses would be burned, and others wondering how much it would cost to build the stables.
Confucius thought differently from everyone else, and anxiously asked, "How are people?"
Insist on putting people first, this is "benevolence". It's also character.
Zhu Xi said in "Zhu Ziji's Notes": "I don't love horses, but I am afraid of hurting people, so I didn't have time to ask." Cover the noble and cheap animals, and it should be so. ”
In the real society, many people attach great importance to their own interests, but ignore the slaves at home, and even think that the slaves take their own money, which should be like this.
"Don't treat people as people", such behavior, at first glance, is the behavior of price dropping.
On the bus, a beautiful woman, sitting in a seat. A migrant worker, carrying a bucket of ashes, accidentally touched the skirt of a beautiful woman.
The beauty immediately raised her eyebrows: "Lose my skirt, can you afford such an expensive skirt?"
Dresses are expensive, more expensive than people, and my things are the best, inviolable. Such inertial thinking was soon manifested.
On the subway, there are mothers carrying luggage and children on their backs, but no one gives up their seats. The mother could only stand aside and stagger.
The child on his back began to cry, and someone scolded: "Can you be quiet for a while?"
The old man, who was walking like a fly, got on the bus and forced the child to give up his seat, scolding endlessly, and his voice was also very loud. However, the old man just didn't have a red face.
The merchant made a slight modification to the packaging box of the product, which blinded a lot of customers, resulting in shoddy goods.
A match is worth a few yuan, but it can burn down a house worth millions, and in a word, a few seconds, can hurt the relationship between husband and wife for a lifetime.
Don't do it because the good is small, and don't do it because the evil is small, this is a good character.
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Big things see human nature.
Many people, in order to accomplish certain things, will restrain their words and optimize their nature.
A greedy person will also do good deeds, making people think that he is a great good person. For example, a merchant goes to a donation activity, donates not much money, but the cost of publicity is a lot, and the person who is donated is asked to send a pennant and write a letter of thanks.
To see human nature clearly, we have to look at the big things and see what kind of ending he wants to design.
In "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", the Battle of Chibi played a decisive role in dividing the world into three parts.
The Sun-Liu alliance was formed to fight together against Cao Cao from the north.
In order to defeat Cao Cao, Zhou Yu let Huang Gai infiltrate Cao Cao's military camp to facilitate arson.
How can we gain Cao Cao's trust? Huang Gai thought a lot.
Suddenly, Huang Gai scolded Zhou Yu angrily, which caused a large number of people to be dissatisfied.
Zhou Yu was also angry and slapped Huang Gai for a long time.
With the scars of the leather whip, Huang Gai went to Cao Cao's military camp.
Cao Cao thought to himself: "Isn't an old general, isn't he just scolded his boss a few words, why was he beaten badly? When he came to our army, I took him in, which can be regarded as saving people's lives." ”
In the end, Cao Cao fell for the "bitter meat trick", which led to the tragedy of burning Chibi.
People left a sentence after the break: Zhou Yu beat Huang Gai - one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer.
Sympathy for the injured is kindness and humanity. However, there are many kind people who are overdrawn.
The story of the farmer and the snake is often seen in society.
It is human nature to covet power and money. However, many people, in terms of power, have made a trick. If you are in a position, you will be roasted on the fire.
Merchants use gifts to attract a lot of money-hungry people, and as a result, merchants start a scam mode. This is greedy human nature, harming others and oneself.
It is human nature to love someone and make a marriage event. But unexpectedly, I met a love liar, essentially for beauty and money.
Weng Tongyong, the minister of the late Qing Dynasty, said: "Every time there is a major event, there is calm, and I don't believe that there are no ancient sages today." ”
When encountering big events, you don't get carried away by interests, learn to judge the outcome of things, and look at the turning point of things.
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Nothing to do.
Doing nothing happens to be the beginning of trouble.
People, once they are idle, they will panic, and they will have thousands of thoughts in their hearts.
When there is nothing to do, it also means that life has entered a low point. Let's say, if you're unemployed, there's nothing to do.
During the Tang Dynasty, Liu Zongyuan and Liu Yuxi were originally important members of the government, but they were later demoted.
Liu Zongyuan went to Yongzhou and lived in a small temple, and the local officials were quite good and did not exclude him; Liu Yuxi was different, he was bullied by dogs in Pingyang and forced to live in a fighting room.
Without an important job, Liu Zongyuan had a leisurely feeling, walked around, and wrote famous articles such as "Yongzhou Eight Records"; Liu Yuxi was even more amazing, leaving behind the famous "Burrow Inscriptions" through the ages.
When there is nothing to do, is your mind settled, or is it irritable, or depressed?
"The Story of the Small Window" has a saying: "Sitting alone in the meditation room, there is nothing to do, cooking a pot of tea, burning incense, and looking at the wall map of Bodhidharma." The curtain is less, and I don't feel that my mind is calm and clear, and my breath is soft and calm. ”
It turns out that when there is nothing to do, the best state is "calm".
When the heart is settled, life will be quiet and you can think deeply. It won't be long before you can accumulate a lot.
Don't, if you have nothing to do, just look for trouble.
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A good life is not disturbed, nothing is delayed, there is no push, and there are difficulties that cannot be avoided.
In this world, the person who laughs at you may not have good intentions, or the beginning of calculation; the person who scolds you may not have malicious intentions, or he may hate his parents; the person who pours cold water on you is not necessarily an enemy, or may prevent you from making mistakes; the person who praises you is not necessarily a friend, but may be a killing......
After going through big and small things, and then looking at the various states of the world, you will know that you can remove the false and keep the true.
No matter what happens, it's a practice, and you will become a better version of yourself.
Open your eyes and look on the outside, close your eyes and look inside.
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